my husband and i have been together for 3 years we where very close and in love at one time he had a very hott temper after we got married and i couldnt take it anymore so i put a restraining order on him which gives him no chance to speak to me but i want to talk to him so bad just to hear his voice and that he is doen ok and yes i think of him everyday life hasnt been the same since we split up i stay home alot besides goen to work and errands i may have to do and keep busy with my son which is not my husbands do u think i should contact him next sunday on our anniversary i will be thinken about him ty for your input tc jewels
2007-08-11 07:04:25 · 7 answers · asked by jewels 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
im sorry we have been together for 4 years
2007-08-11 07:05:38 · update #1
Do yourself a HUGE favor ... don't contact him, not now, not at all. You say he has a horrible temper. If you make contact with him he will then have permission to contact you anytime he wants because YOU were the one who broke the restraining order. Not good. Not good at all.
Yes, you are hurting, but do not contact him. Yes it is painful and sure you remember all the good times, we as humans tend to want to ignore all of the bad times. But please, cry to a friend, call your mom or sister, talk to a counselor, but DO NOT contact a violent and angry and hurtful ex ...
2007-08-11 07:15:51 · answer #1 · answered by John B 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well, it hurts. It pains me to see so many people going too easy with relationships over issues like temper and arguments. I mean... come on woman, as if you never had arguments with your mom or dad or brother or close friends? How can you punish someone so bad just 'coz they need help to overcome a personality disorder?? Yes, that's a common personality disorder so many people have--its called anger. And NO, pushing that person away from you neither helps you nor him.
If I was you, I won't give a damn to what people say. Its my love, I choose it. And so its MY responsibility to accept it with its strengths and weaknesses, and as long as my spouse has a love for me in her heart too, I am 100% sure I will be able to bring the happiness back in our lives as a couple.
Sounds too optimistic? Well, guess what, that works!
I wish you both a happy anniversary. May God bring the love back in your life. Don't just sit there please--make it happen!
2007-08-11 08:29:28 · answer #2 · answered by Arian 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you could always write him a letter, and mail it to him, telling him how you feel, and that maybe the two of you can try counseling, and everyone knows time heals and changes people, you could call him, and invite him to an intimate dinner on your anniversary, give him a written statement that the meeting was your idea, and that will ease his mind about meeting you because of the restraining order, but restraining orders expire in some states, you may wish to check to see if yours is still active or not. but agree to meet at the restaurant, and leave in seperate vehicles, that way there is no pressure, and either of you may leave when you get ready
2007-08-11 08:51:07 · answer #3 · answered by oh really 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
um no you shouldn't. If you have a restraining order and you talk to him he could get arrested for contact with you. If you are supposed to have no contact at all then it means no contact. Follow the restraining order. If he's allowed to call then you can call etc. It is not fair to put him in a situation that he could get in trouble for. if you feel you have to do something then try to get the restraining order amended. my husband and I had ours amended so that we could talk on the phone and attend counseling together. until that happens though he is not allowed contact with you, even if you initiate
2007-08-11 07:12:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Hell NOOO. You made that bed now sleep in it. He didn't hit you , you just used the court system because you could.I hope he is out there celebrating every day that he got rid of you.
2007-08-11 08:15:24 · answer #5 · answered by lavell 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
think of the future and what you hope to make of it !
ie to be with him or without and if you choose to be with him, can you live that life ten years on ?
2007-08-11 07:12:26 · answer #6 · answered by aunt_webby 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
time to move on and find someone else. It is over with him. Good luck
2007-08-11 07:44:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋