i love being submissive to my husband and taking care of him by catering to his every whim in and out of the bedroom. his wish is my command. honestly, it feels so natural and right to me. i like making him happy and pleasing him. so why aren't more women like me? and why is submissive such a bad word now? people think that submissive = doormat with no opinions. this is so not true, i'm an intelligent woman (im in my 2nd year at college studying microbiology & immunology and my dream is to be a medical researcher). im not religious either so this has nothing to do with the bible. all i know is im a lot happier when my husband is the "King of the castle" and he likes it this way too. he treats me like his queen. why don't other women want this? seriously?
2007-08-11 06:45:48 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Wanting to be submissive means not wanting to grow up and be a real adult. You think of yourself as a child who still needs someone to take care of you.
IMO You also view men as someone to support you, make all your decisions for you, not expect you to be an equal contributing mature intelligent partner, in short as a pay cheque, someone to baby you, provide for you etc
If you have found a man who is willing to be let you use him in this way good for you. A lot of men dont want an adult woman for a partner, they want a child so I am sure there are a lot of guys out there who would love to be King of the Castle and walk all over you.
There are also more men who want an adult partner, someone who contributes something to a marriage other than "look at me arent I your cute baby?" What happens when that baby gets old and little frayed around the edges? I have had a lot of guys tell me they are bored to tears with their baby doll partners, cheat in order to have an intelligent conversation and are sick and tired of going it alone in the marriage and being the only adult, responsible for financial support, decision making, child rearing, taking care of everything -
Human beings by nature want to have someone to SHARE their lives with, that means all aspects of their lives. Sex is available everywhere, support, and sharing in day to day challenges is harder to come by.
Other women dont want this because they are adults, and capable of making decisions, and managing their own lives and dont NEED a man to carry them through life, they have goals for themselves and get satisfaction out of their own achievements and successes, they like being respected by other adults and treated as an intelligent person, not as a hopeless, helpless, useless child.
2007-08-11 07:13:15 · answer #1 · answered by isotope2007 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I don't think of myself as submissive, atleast not the picture that comes to my mind. I treat my husband like gold. He treats me the same way. I'm a stay at home mom and wife...with another baby on the way. So yes I do do all the cleaning *cept for the litter box* and cooking. I make sure that his clothes for work are ironed so when he gets up early he doesn't have to it. He doesn't have rules, I can go and do the whole lunch thing with my friends during the day and basically live my life. I love my life the way it is and wouldn't trade it for the world. I look at it like this. I love my husband and want him to be happy with me. So I do what I do to please him but also b/c I enjoy doing it.
2007-08-11 07:16:58 · answer #2 · answered by his wife 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He treats you like a queen so it is a give and take relationship. So you are not really being "submissive". You expect to be treated a certain way in exchange for your adoring behavior. The only time being submissive is a negative thing is when a person feels like they are doing all the giving and the other person does all the taking, and they don't think they have a choice in the matter. I am the same way with my husband and he treats me in such a way that I want to give back to him in any way I can. However, my first husband treated me like a servant, not a queen, and that changed the whole dynamics of our relationship. I think the key is to give freely to please your mate, not feel like it is demanded of you.
2007-08-11 06:58:38 · answer #3 · answered by mafiosu 5 · 3⤊ 3⤋
LOL sorry but what century are u in? Who says that women are supposed to be submissive? IN ancient cultures women ruled it was a matriarchy. In the wild female animals are far more strong and deadly then the males, never forget the praying mantis or black widow... Men rule now b/c we LET them, dont be such a pushover, its pathetic
2007-08-11 07:47:15 · answer #4 · answered by lovebug512 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
When I first read your post my first thought was are you off your rocker? I don't think you have to be submissive and attend to someones every whim for you to make him happy. But the whole title of your post women were made to be submissive...uh please that is complete crap. I have to say I don't even get the submissive in the bedroom...i mean for a minute while hes pulling your hair or something is fine, but I would never be satisfied with someone who was always in control of me while we were having sex. I guess if your happy being who you are then that's great...but to think that every woman out there should be submissive is I'm sorry just stupid
2007-08-11 06:55:03 · answer #5 · answered by Lisa K 3 · 2⤊ 3⤋
You live your life and others live theirs! What works for you might not work for other folks.
I like the idea of partners! You should both try to make the other person happy - I don't call that submissive, I call that love.
2007-08-11 07:08:04 · answer #6 · answered by Janet H 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
maximum females each physique is in contrast to this through fact in on the instant's society submissive women each physique is abused and mistreated. i'm plenty such as you yet i think that adult adult males can do issues themselves and that they shouldn't matter on their spouse, gf, companion to do each little thing for them. Submissive isn't a foul word it is what has come to point via the years through fact many adult adult males who see a submissive lady will mistreat her and abuse her and he or she will take it majority of the time. different women human beings desire this, yet in addition they desire a guy who would not matter on them for issues. many females human beings believe that a guy could manage them like a queen regardless of despite if or no longer they're catered on or no longer. i think in this and that adult adult males could do their section besides as help out whilst necessary. nonetheless it additionally relies upon on how numerous a "king of the fort" they're. i'm hoping this facilitates
2016-10-02 02:55:16 · answer #7 · answered by hoehl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's your marriage. As long as it works for you two- great. But, even an old fart like me doesn't think women are supposed to be submissive to anybody. I would have no interest in a woman so lacking in self confidence that she treated me as somehow better than her, just cuz I'm male. But, that's because I prefer an adult woman, rather than sleeping with a cocker spaniel.
2007-08-11 08:24:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Many men are not worthy of this kind of treatment. It would have to be a man that has immense respect for you, and frankly many women can not find this in a man. No one wants to live their entire life as a servant. "Disobeying" is a word used for children, not between a husband and wife. I have no problem doing things for my partner, but he is also willing to do things for me as well. It's about making each other happy. It's about taking care of one another, taking turns being loving. Sometimes he caters to all my needs, sometimes I cater to all of his, we both play our part and we're happy. We compromise.
Ahni also made a good point though. Your relationship is consensual and that's what makes you happy. Whatever works the best for two people is what they should do. No one should be forced to do anything that feels unnatural to them.
2007-08-11 06:54:49 · answer #9 · answered by Lane 3 · 3⤊ 3⤋
why do you think other women should be like you. If that's what makes you happy then you're right to do it. If it would make someone else miserable why would you want them to. Should I tell you to be more like me because I'm happy? For the record I am a christian and quite submissive to my husband although clearly not as much as you are. When I did cater to his every need he actually became abusive. we have found the right balance for us now, you have found the right one for you. Don't be so arrogant as to assume everyone should be more like you.
2007-08-11 07:05:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 3⤋