In your opinion, do you think it's "okay" or "normal" to be upset when you're told the gender of your baby and it's not the one you were hoping for?
Does it make you a bad mom? Even if you almost cry?
(mind you, 2 minutes later you're completely thrilled no matter what it is. so i'm just talking about the second you're told).
***just a poll .... I'm not pregnant***
2007-08-11 06:42:25 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
I asked because I shared in another question that I got pretty upset at my last US (a year ago) when I found out I was having a 2nd boy ..... I almost cried, but later I couldnt be happier!!
I got hate mail form a guy:
"You almost CRIED because it was a boy? Wow, your almost as bad as the woman who asked that question. I bet your one of those mothers who spanks/beats/hits your child just because it’s a boy. Bet you wouldn’t do that to a precious little girl."
2007-08-11 06:55:43 · update #1
I think it is perfectly normal. I have 2 little boys, and when I found out that my 2nd was a boy I cried. I had my heart set on a little girl(DH and I had always said 2 kids was our max); I was heartbroken at never being able to get the mother/daughter bond. But, I LOVE my little boys, and can't imagine my life without either of them.....although sometimes I do daydream. LOL
2007-08-11 07:25:49 · answer #1 · answered by jennifer_elaine83 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I am pregnant with our second child. Only 5 weeks, so we dont know the sex yet. We have a little girl that we absolutely adore. My husband had originally wanted a boy before she was born, but once we had her, he was so thrilled that he says he wouldnt care if we had 10 girls, lol. Since we love our daughter so much, I've got to admit we are partial to girls right now. We'd be totally thrilled to have another. But at the same time, a boy would be a completely different experience. If it turns out to be a boy, I dont doubt that I will feel a momentary pang of dissapointment just like you did. That doesnt mean I will love a boy any less, or beat him or anything like that jerk said to you. It just means that it will be a new experience. We're human. We often think we know what we want, and then are dissapointed at first when we dont get it. But then we end up looking back, and realizing we wouldnt have it any other way.
2007-08-11 07:03:46 · answer #2 · answered by Bomb_chele 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No it doesn't. I was POSITIVE I was having a girl, my husband wanted a boy. At the ultrasound I experienced the same thing - I was shocked, then upset, then absolutely thrilled all in the space of 90 seconds or less. I love my little boy so much, and now I hope that if I am blessed enough to have another that it too will be a boy - but I won't be sad if it is a girl!
2007-08-11 07:24:51 · answer #3 · answered by ShellyC 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I do not think it makes you a bad mother at all. I am 31 and just had my first baby in November. When I found out it was a boy I cried so hard. I wanted a little girl sooooo bad, but then I realized that a boy wasn't so bad. And I am THRILLED to have a boy, I would NEVER change him for the world. The more I got to think about it the better it became.
I DO NOT THINK YOU ARE A BAD MOTHER!!!!!!!
2007-08-11 08:14:06 · answer #4 · answered by Newmommy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, it doesn't make you a bad mom. There's nothing wrong with hoping for a particular sex. In the end you'll love your baby just the same.
In some other countries, such as India, they are not allowed to tell people the sex of the baby because women were getting late abortions when they were having girls. It has to do with the whole dowry thing, having a girl is expensive. That's pretty bad though.
2007-08-11 06:47:09 · answer #5 · answered by Melissa 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
An ultrasound good sized for the completed relatives and acquaintances to be there. this is why they provide you photos. once you have an ultrasound and that they do the vaginal us you're lined up and whilst they do an abdomen us they tuck the sheet into your pants so she does no longer see something anyhow. tell him if she is going to be in there then your mom is likewise
2016-10-10 00:24:03 · answer #6 · answered by Erika 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh yeah I did that when i found out i was having a little girl...cause everyone wanted me to have a little boy at the time and it was just kinda a little disappointment but and then you go shopping and your completely over whatever you "thought" you wanted at the time. My daughter is perfect now and i can't imagine raising a boy...lol!!
2007-08-11 06:56:39 · answer #7 · answered by cutenwild1769 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Normal.
Btw: What a friggin dork! Like men understand the emotions women, let alone pregnant women go through...ugh...
2007-08-11 08:21:03 · answer #8 · answered by Mary D 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't make you a bad mom as long has you love him when he is born.It's natural to be somewhat disappointed because you wanted a girl so bad.Don't worry about what happened,and for that hate mail,stupied.they don't understand
2007-08-11 07:48:50 · answer #9 · answered by 2hot2bamom 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was surprised at my first ultrasound that I was expecting twins. Then when it acme to the gender, I didn't have much to lose, I had g/b twins!
2007-08-11 06:48:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋