Hi, I'm 29 and my husband and I found out I was pregnant about 4 months ago. When we told my family, we thought they'd all be elated and happy for us since we had been trying for about a year.
Well, we came to realize that my family didn't care at all. My mother gave me a hug but she really never wanted to dicuss it again. I have a sister (who's shadow I've always been in) who is a neurosurgeon and just recently became board certified...so my family cannot stop gushing about that, especially since my father is a neurosurgeon as well.
Now, I'm not a doctor, I'm just a 3rd grade teacher, but I'm very happy, and it just hurts that they can't see that. I thought maybe the feeling of excitment would kick in for my parents and other family members but I am 5 months now and no one seems to care.
I don't want to be pushy and have to make them be excited...I want it to come naturally for them, but I don't see that happening.
2007-08-11 06:38:46 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
This WILL sound cheesey but I regurlarly think back with cheery, misty eyed memories of my third grade teachers, it is a magical time in a childs life and you WILL mold them and shape their lives forever!! So about the 'just a teacher bit' forget it you are an incredible force in a childs life!
About being pregnant, CONGRATULATIONS!! to you and your husband! Take this time to reflect, and grow as a person, into a mother, You are you, and that is a wonderful thing! Keep this special time for yourself and your husband..include your family when appropriate but remember if they don't see the specialness of YOU then it's ok..get past it with help from your hubby, clergyman or some good books!
You should be focusing on your health, your baby and special attention to your marriage as having a baby can bring great joy and change the nature of your relationship as well, you are PARENTS now :-)
Enjoy this time!
2007-08-11 06:53:44 · answer #1 · answered by Annette 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
you're "JUST" a 3rd grade teacher?!! Well I am insulted by your family's behavior and I don't even know them!! So just because you aren't a board certified neurosurgeon you aren't worth gushing over?!! I'm sorry but bringing a life into the world and teaching other people's children is a far more rewarding and challenging job than cutting on people's brains...I mean kudos to your sister for her career success...but if you ask me you are the one who is TRULY successful. Don't stress out about their being uninvolved! You have a loving husband and I'm sure a whole group of wonderful friends...I actually feel sorry for your family because their selfishness is leaving them on the sidelines of a very special time in your life!!
BTW CONGRATULATIONS!!! MY husband and i tried for 6 months and are 5 weeks along with our first...we got mixed reviews from family too...but I am of the mind that anyone who can't get on board and be happy can stay home!!
2007-08-11 06:51:05 · answer #2 · answered by Notagain 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hi! If I were in your shoes, I wouldn't mention anything about it to my family anymore. I'd wait & see if they ask how I'm doing, or ask any other kinds of questions about my pregnancy. If they didn't, I wouldn't bother to notify any of them, when the baby was born. Then when they wanted to know why, I'd remind them, that they never bothered to ask you anything about it, so I figured they didn't care & therefore, I didn't want to bother anyone. Maybe this doesn't seem like a mature way to handle it, but I have my pride, & I'm not going to beg people to care about me, no matter what the reason. I have 2 children, and I had 3 miscarriages between the them. Upon my 3rd miscarriage, I learned that my sister had told people about my 2nd miscarriage, that I wasn't ever pregnant & claimed to have a miscarriage to cover up a lie about being pregnant. She didn't even find out from me about my pregnancy, so why she said such a thing, I have no idea. After learning this, when I was pregnant w/my 2nd child, I only told one sibling. My sister didn't know anything 'til my 2nd child was born, & then had the nerve to call & ask why I never bothered to tell anyone I was even pregnant. This is why I would now do, what I'm telling you at the beginning of my answer.
2007-08-11 07:04:11 · answer #3 · answered by hopeihelped 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My family was the same way when I told them about my first pregnancy. My mother even asked me if I was going to keep the baby. I was in complete shock! After that, no one said anything until I was like less than a month away from giving birth. After the birth my mother seemed to be the only one who really cared. The rest of my family... they basically laugh in my face about how I have a kid and starting to put up with the things they had to put up when they had their kid. Now I am pregnant again with my second child... no one has said anything to me. Dont feel bad... worry about you and your family!
2007-08-11 06:48:52 · answer #4 · answered by mfloyd0917 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i understand which could experience poor, yet do no longer stay on what others think of or what you think of they think of. it is no longer well worth one 2d of you dropping an oz.. of excitement on your lifestyles. Plus you by no ability understand, they could come around whilst they meet their grandchild. yet despite in the event that they by no ability do, enable it to be the way it is and get on playing your loved ones. i prefer to advise the e book "the flexibility of Now" via Eckhart Tolle. it may purely carry you peace approximately this concern or the different for that count. Congratulations on your being pregnant and your upcoming kit deal of excitement! BTW, start up eating 2 eggs an afternoon. The choline would be very advantageous to toddler's techniques. in line with threat HE/she will exchange right into a neurosurgeon! additionally...I nonetheless bear in mind the call of my third grade instructor...Ms. Kaminicki. She became spectacular! do no longer downplay your value. a 0.33 grade instructor can motivate greatness in a new child. Can a neurosurgeon?
2016-10-02 02:54:29 · answer #5 · answered by hoehl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ignore them. Don't let their hang ups put a damper on your own happiness.
Your family, no offense, sounds like a bunch of snobs.
Your attitude should be: Screw you people.
You can't make your mother, or your father or your sister what they are not.
Especially it must hurt from your mother, but you have to accept that she is the way she is, grieve over it, and let it go. Find your source of confidence and reassurance in other people.
It's her loss.
When you do have that baby, make sure you get the finest birth announcements made up, send them to your whole family.
Don't ever feel a shred of shame or "in the shadow" of this hoyty toyty sister.
You hold your head up high and YOU gush over your baby in front of them,
Smile the biggest smile EVER and talk up and down how happy you really are.
That's the sweetest revenge.
2007-08-11 06:48:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Have you tried talking to them about how you feel? Don't worry about being pushy, they need to know how disappointed you are about the whole situation. Confrontation is the key here. It could possibly help your relationship with your parents, or it could stay the same. But it has to come out in the open, because if not it will start to eat you up inside. It might be uncomfortable for them and you, but who cares? Let them be uncomfortable.. What they are doing is not right in my opinion. All children deserve to be treated equally. Especially if you've been waiting for this for awhile. I hope everything works out for you, and congratulations on your pregnancy! I can tell that you are gonna learn from your experiences and treat your children the way you wished you had been treated : )
2007-08-11 06:58:44 · answer #7 · answered by HotNurse71 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
1st off you not JUST a teacher!! Teachers are what make neurosurgeons and doctors.....Teachers are so valuable!!! Congrats on your pregnancy!! If your Parents cant be happy for you then so be it. This is YOUR gift !! just enjoy it...Their loss ..They may come around after the baby gets here. Don't be so concerned about their attention and approval. They are in the wrong for behaving this way and it is a good lesson for you "the soon to be parent" to do better by your children. Congrats and Just enjoy!!!!
2007-08-12 03:20:09 · answer #8 · answered by wenifer 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I'm so sorry for your family's unenthusiasm. It's very unfair of them to ignore this wonderful time in your life. At the same time though - people have different priorities. I'm sure they'll eventually wake up and show some excitemnt; whether or not it's before the birth of your baby. All i can say is, don't let their unenthusiasm diminish the experience for you and your hubby. as long as both of you are thrilled and happy about your new addition, that is the main thing..
2007-08-11 07:31:23 · answer #9 · answered by jaimo 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
..once the baby is born...your family will go hoohah over baby. Even if they don't...why worry...the little cutie will still get lots of love fr u & yr hubby. Don't ever let their nonchalance affect you, enjoy your pregnancy to the fullest.
I always have great respect for my teachers who have taught me; and I am still in contact with my primary school teacher. However, I only call up my doc when needs arrive :)
2007-08-11 07:02:10 · answer #10 · answered by Confused 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋