My husband, Joseph Carl, was previously married and had a son, Joseph CONNER who only goes by Conner. The first wife did not want to name him Joseph Carl IV. My hubby still wants a son named after him. The second son (coming next month with me) WOULD go by Joseph. Does anyone see this causing any problems?
2007-08-11 06:31:01 · 34 answers · asked by Jennifer L 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Baby Names
You can do it, but I would have hubby talk to his first wife about it first... you don't need her permission, but it would help. If the baby's name is a shock, it could cause more problems than if the first wife knows it's coming. Just springing it on her could be a bit tacky.
Other than that, I think it's a fine idea. As long as this baby doesn't have the EXACT same name as the first child, and as long as he is still actively involved with the first son. (you don't want the first son to feel like he is being replaced)
Good luck, and congratulations on the new baby to be!
2007-08-11 06:39:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well they would both have different middle names so I wouldn't find any problems there. The only thing is that your husband would have two sons with the same first name, but you're calling the second one joseph instead of conner. So i don't see how a problem could occur. Nice thing to keep a family name going.
2007-08-11 06:37:05 · answer #2 · answered by SB 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first reaction was no don't do it... but if Conner goes by his middle name, that would ease some confusion.
HOWEVER it may be weird to have two sons both named Joseph - what if in the future Joseph Connor decides to use his first name?
Plus their initials are still the same.
I think it would be ok - but consider the feelings of your husband's first son - Conner. Would he feel like his dad was replacing him with a newer, better Joseph? I would talk to the son and see how he feels about having a 1/2 brother with the same name.
Good luck!!! And congratulations on your new baby!
2007-08-11 06:35:40 · answer #3 · answered by neffykitty 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think having 2 sons with the same name and same inititals would be really confusing! Plus, your husband already has a son named after him. What if your new son decides to go by "Carl?" Would your husband need a third son to name Joseph as well in hopes that the third son would finally use the name Joseph?
I would suggest naming your son Carl Joseph if your husband needs his whole name used. It will still give the first son his own name, yet your new son will also have both names. Your new son could then choose to go by his middle name too!
2007-08-11 06:50:15 · answer #4 · answered by Claire 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think your new son will always feel like an also-ran.
Your husband HAS a son named Joseph. Just becasue that child uses Connor doesn't negate that fact.
Find another name for your child. What about Carl Jospeh but call him Joseph?
2007-08-11 06:40:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Not as long as the first son goes by Conner anyway. And since the middle names would be different, it's not the exact same name.
2007-08-11 07:15:15 · answer #6 · answered by LindaLou 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
George Foreman named all of his sons George! If the first son goes by Conner there wouldn't be any confusion, he might even like sharing his name with a new brother.
2007-08-11 06:43:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have known several people that have done this and as long as no one made any big scenes about it, everything was fine...also, if Conner is old enough, you can always ask how he would feel and make it out like the new baby was being named after dad and brother...
2007-08-11 06:40:24 · answer #8 · answered by Sabrina B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Didn't George Foreman name all his kids "George"?
Let me ask you something. Are you looking for honest opinions or people telling you to go ahead with what you want to do? Consider this.
Ok, now I'll tell you what I think. Yes, you "can." You can name your kid whatever you want. Let's think about how the kids will feel. I'd be concerned about this. Will the first son think, "Now Dad's got the namesake he wanted? Me having his first name wasn't good enough?" Will the second son think, "What am I? Second-best? Dad WANTED to name the first kid my name, didn't happen, so I get the second try?"
I wouldn't do it. I'd want them to feel like individuals and equally loved for THEMSELVES, not as some name carrier. Your husband, frankly, sounds a little egotistical for this to be such a big deal.
2007-08-11 06:42:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Why would he want to disrespect his first son? Think about it. Name the next one Larry then he can say " Hi, I'm Larry this is my brother Joseph and this is my other brother Joseph." To bad his name isn't Darell.
2007-08-11 06:50:45 · answer #10 · answered by jdog 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋