Do you think that" it" factor is missing in them?
2007-08-11 06:25:02 · 31 answers · asked by Gypsy Gal 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Senior Citizens
I waited because I never got divorced. When my husband met someone else he wanted to marry, he initiated the formality.
Probably 10 years after he married, I met someone who was all I could have hoped for. By that time I was a grandmother. And we just celebrated our 25th. It worked.
We both knew we'd made mistakes the first time around, and we both put forth the effort to make it work.
2007-08-11 10:46:16 · answer #1 · answered by felines 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
that would depend on the persons involved....for instance my first marriage was everything that should NOT be in a marriage and even though I was asked along the way to get married again, I truly was so concerned that it would become like my first that I refused......till I met my now husband and there it was...........the way a life should be, safe secure and happy..............I will say it took me over 15 years to get to that point and I do not regret it in the slightest and am happy that I waited and did not settle for second best..............
regards and when the time is right you will know but again some people are just not cut out to be married [my brother would a prime example of this imo]
2007-08-11 06:31:36 · answer #2 · answered by candy g 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because they were smart enough to learn from their mistakes. In this day and age no one needs to get married, now that domestic partnership seems 2 b catching on with more and more people. By being in DP u don't have to shell out money 4 a marriage license, or cash 4 a divorce, which can get ugly and expensive.
2007-08-11 06:33:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I had a failed marriage and I want to marry again. Just haven't met anyone yet. Guess I am out of circulation.
To answer your question, probably because they may be afraid to be hurt emotionally again. Or maybe they didn't like being married.
2007-08-11 07:00:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think marriages fail because people do not account for the fact that growth is necessary to have a mature relationship. The "new" will wear off, the sex will get an element of being routine, life will happen, the feelings will ebb and flow, and people mistake all that for "not loving each other anymore". We need to be able to stretch, to give up being right and making others wrong, and to allow others to grow and not keep them in the same box as when you first met.
Most people will not take on that kind of work on themselves because it is uncomfortable and requires one to trust another and trust oneself - and to give up ego driven ideas of what they think they should have.
For most people, they will not take on real personal growth if they are not forced to by the challenge of raising children.
2007-08-11 06:34:10 · answer #5 · answered by justbeingher 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I think it should be against the law for anyone, under the age of 25, to get married.
This would solve a good 75% of divorces.
The person you know at 20, can be a totally different person at the age of 25.
After 25, individuals are pretty much set in their ways as to the type of people they will be, plus, the financial hardships are not as difficult to overcome compared to much younger ages when family's are just starting out.
2007-08-11 06:31:39 · answer #6 · answered by Stan 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
marriages take a solid commitment to make them last.. both people can't even entertain the possibility of "what if this doesn't work?".. they have to just pretend the concepts of divorce or separation don't even exist.. as soon as people start acknowledging divorce as a possible alternative, they've already failed at marriage..
oops, I misunderstood your question because you had a ? in the middle of it.. I suppose it's because divorce is so painful that nobody wants to go through that again.. my wife's uncle is like that..
2007-08-11 06:30:27 · answer #7 · answered by Byakuya 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am not sure what the "it" factor is, but I would like to be married but only if the male pursued me and not the other way around.
Since this is under senior citizens, I would say that most senior citizens have grown accustomed to being single and it is too hard to try to find an eligible and no one wants to get out in the dating circuit. Well, that would be my reason, anyway.
2007-08-11 06:35:51 · answer #8 · answered by makeitright 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
People lose hope and they feel nothing could be different. In some sense it is valid. No marriage is perfect and without problems. Marriage is hard to some it is just not worth the pain and effort.
2007-08-11 06:32:03 · answer #9 · answered by imezru2 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I did not fail but instead I was "failed" Im not actively looking and I am very happy with my life the way it is. I cant speak for others I am just happy to be at this point in my life to make my own decisions and live my simple life.
2007-08-11 10:35:09 · answer #10 · answered by ncgirl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋