I have been married to my husband for 2 yrs. We both love each other. He has been signed up for several online datings. When I found out and then asked him, he said so what? they dont mean anything to me, he said he only talked or having conversation with all of those women. I was very upset, cos he wrote lots of his profile on those website with words single, looking for erotics emails/ chats, casual encounters, nsa and etc.He gave his cell numbers to several of them, couple of them have been sent me emails , called my house and they felt sorry for me. My question is , "Is he cheating on me? ". He is so defensive at first then he felt bad and apologize to me, but I told him that I need a week apart from him. What should I do?
2007-08-11 05:57:52 · 17 answers · asked by Eve Sola 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes, he is cheating on you! You will never be able to trust him again. Unfortunately you never really knew this person and you never will. As much as it hurts, you need to move on.
2007-08-11 06:08:21 · answer #1 · answered by love bomb 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Thank you for sharing. Ask yourself this: How long can I live as my husbands door mat? You feel bad right now because you know you need to hit the road and your having trouble wrapping your mind around that. Don't continue to ask WHY? He's a pig and you know it. Ask yourself this: How much do I value and respect myself - how long can I let myself live being treated badly by my husband? This is something that you can't fix in him - he will either want you or find someone else and from what you say, he's already looking HARD and OFTEN. Be mad, be sad, then move on. You are probably a lovely woman with many attractive qualities that would be well met by someone more like you. Go find that guy and leave this one to what ever disease he suffers from. Good Luck and I'm sorry your having to go through this at all.
2007-08-11 06:20:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes he is cheating on you. I'm sorry but there is no doubt in my mind. So lets say he said nothing happened are you ok with the rest of this? Are you ok with you if he was having the erotic emails and chats, and possibly meeting with these women? To me it's cheating regardless of how far he's gone. He's clearly wanting to cheat if nothing else. I am so sorry but it's true
2007-08-11 06:51:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dating websites did not ruin your marriage, your husband did. It is obvious that he is looking around, he would do it even if those websites didn't exsist. Talk to him and find out if he really wants this marriage to work. If he does counseling is a must. If not, get a divorce. I personally don't believe in divorce, but cheating is a deal-breaker!
2007-08-11 07:04:40 · answer #4 · answered by PharmNerd 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to see the forest thru the trees. he is not behaving like a HUSBAND so why should he remain your husband? why even ask what you should do? why would you want to be with a man that is scouting for women outside of your marriage. bad. very bad. tell him to leave and see what he does. you need to let him know you mean business in this life of yours and that if he's not serious then he needs to go. it's an ultimatum that you can't refuse to enforce.
2007-08-11 06:08:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course he is defensive, he got caught!!! You have only been married for a mere 2 years, get rid of him now before you really get hurt. If you decide to stay, play his game but this will be just another viscious cycle. What a cheat!!!!
2007-08-11 06:28:36 · answer #6 · answered by Lucci 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why are you blaming dating websites and other women for the CHOICES your husband has been making? Frankly I don't feel sorry for you, as for what you should do, you already have the answer. No one can tell you what to do, that has to be YOUR choice. Just like your husband is responsible for all of HIS actions and no one else is YOU are responsible for your's.
2007-08-11 13:25:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say yes he is cheating on you and worse he is lying and disrespecting you. Married men should not be acting like that. I would give him what he wants, for him to be single. You can do much better than this and every person deserves to be treated with respect.
2007-08-11 06:58:15 · answer #8 · answered by wannabhppy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, he is cheating. He isn't only "looking." He is meeting them. He wants his cake and eat it, too.
You've told him it bothers you and he continues to do it.
You can try counseling, but if he doesn't see it as a problem, and doesn't care that you do = a week away is more time and opportunities to play.
I'm sorry.
2007-08-11 06:09:20 · answer #9 · answered by Autumn S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes he is cheating. There are three things you can do....Accept it and try to get him to change(as a man I am telling you now that will be hard to do), Divorce and move on and make a smarter choice next time, or..e mail me and I can tell you how to go about finding your own man locally to offset his encounters. Good luck!!
2007-08-11 06:04:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋