Best friend ignoring me/out of contact?

Question

Hi, I was hoping to seek some help here, see if anybody could help me out a little bit..

I had met my best friend when I was in junior year of high school, and we would always joke around and talk about anything. Well then the next year, senior high school, we still talked and stuff, but I noticed it was going downhill. We would still partner up for labs in science, but we didn't keep in contact outside of school anymore. His girlfriend (who i'm good friends with too) also noticed that he wasnt hanging around as much, and even started ignoring her sometimes too (but not as much as me).
Now, I'm in freshmen year of college (just started) and he is completely out of contact with me. I always have to push him to have a conversation, and I have to keep the conversation going. Yet, whenever we hang out (which is very very rare anymore), I always think that "hey, maybe things are getting better." Any advice on how to improve this friendship? I'd to anything to save this friendship!!!

By the way, I'm a guy, and my best friend is a guy. I'm very good friends with the girl too, but its not her I'm having trouble with. Any help is very much appreciated!

Answer 1

Sounds like he's "outgrown" you dude. Men don't stay friends as long as girls do. Interest change, and not always for the better. He's movin on. Maybe u should too!! Sorry, but that's reality. Maybe you should talk to him about this, honestly! But, you also may get answers you don't want to hear! Good Luck to ya!!!

Answer 2

This happens with friends sometimes. Enjoy the times you guys hang out and have a good times. Don't try to push long conversations when your the one doing all the talking. Maybe there will come a time when you guys will click again.

Answer 3

Let it go!!!!
The friendship is over. Your old best friend is letting you know he has moved on. Take the hint & you move on as well.

If you don't he will start to see you as a pest he doesn't want anywhere near him. Just be friendly if you run into him & say Hi & make small talk. That's all you can do.

A friendship takes 2 people. You are the only one left. Get on with your own life.

Answer 4

If you are true friends, you will have times of drifting apart, but you will always end up back how you started.

I know this situation can be really painful, but just try and take a step back, and concentrate on other mates etc until your friend starts talking to you....

Just be careful not to argue, as you don't want to ruin whats left of your bond....

Be patient, and always give him a text if hes going through a hard time, or something happens in his life, and sooner or later, he will lean on you again...

Answer 5

It's time to take advantage of all those social events your college offers. It sounds like your friend is not interested in a friendship any longer; this is totally normal.

Also you sound very desperate, and that is not appealing, nor will it make this guy want to be friends with you.

Answer 6

Your friend has outgrown you, but do not feel insulted, this happens in every relationship in one way or another. You are a guy, he is a guy and he has moved on to different relationships you are not ready to commit to. You can still consider him a friend, just one that is no longer moving in your circle or in your life. Please move on to other friendships women or men. And good luck to you.

Answer 7

Well that does happen a lot to people.The best way is probally just to tell her how you feel or call her up!Cuz that happens to me a lot and it dosen't make me feel good.Don't start lots of arguments with her cuz that will make it worse.If she ignores you then like I said call her up and work it out and apoligize.Just don't do or say any mean things just be the better person.I hope everything works out between you guys!Good luck!Talk to ya soon!Bye!