a friend of mine had been cheated on by her boyfriend. he did tell her, told her he screwd up, biggest mistake ever he says. this guy was very persistant, for 6 months straight, begging her to forgive and take him back, leaving flowers on her windscreen, chocolates at her doorstep and if he wasnt at work,he'd be sleeping on her doorstep. today, 12 years of marriage with 2 kids, they are still strong. he knew what he would lose. he swore he never do that again. and she is a very bright and clued on women and she knows he hasnt done anything that would suspect otherwise. HOW DID /WOULD SHE HAVE OVERCOME THAT? did she just know? is it his actions that proved to be worthy?
i always believed a cheater will never change its spots.
2007-08-11 04:16:35 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We all make mistakes, none of us are perfect. The best we can be is honest and if we wrong another person, own up and apologise. As for getting over things like unfaithfulness, it never leaves your mind, it's like a ghost, it'll haunt you. But again, the measure of someone is the ability to forgive (and you don't have to be religious to do that) if the action warrants forgiveness. No matter what, negativity will get you nowhere and will drag you down. You have to be positive and by that, make the decision one way or the other (forgive or not), then move on. Hope this helps.
2007-08-12 10:57:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is always at least one exception to every rule and in her case she took a chance and it sounds like she found that one exception. It could have so easily gone the other way and she would have ended up with a nightmare relationship. She believed him and took the ultimate rarest of chances and it worked out for her. Majority of these end in disaster with another affair happening. She just saw something in him that wasnt by others
2007-08-11 04:25:58 · answer #2 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can see what you mean but her just "getting over it". But I have to be honest, I disagree with ya when you say " a cheater will never change its spots" People make mistakes...There are flaws in everybody. I always believe in 2nd chances...never third. When they got married they vowed that they would be together for better or for worse.. And she chose to do that. I do believe that she would be crazy if he did it again and she didnt dump him! But for the most part, people change and maybe it took him having to cheat on her to realize how much she means to him...Who knows!
2007-08-11 04:23:20 · answer #3 · answered by Kablina 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
some cheaters may stop but that is rare & it takes far too much hard work to get over it anyway the women is so hurt for ages over it she may as well start again fresh
well i would never forgive it but some women think
well i love him to much to let him go etc etc ....
it depends how strong she is & if she is prepared to forgive him for having sex with another woman , i could not have sex with him ever again but that is just me i would be so jealous & so angry & no sex no relationship really & it would not work in my case but as i said if one is strong & real forgiving well .....maybe just the once & give him one chance
2007-08-11 10:45:51 · answer #4 · answered by ausblue 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe everyone deserves a second chance.....But not a second, third, forth and so on. Not everyone that cheats once will always be a cheater....She gave him a second chance and he proved to her that he wouldn't mess up again. I am sure that it took time for her to totally forgive him for cheating...but yes he actions proved to be worthy.
2007-08-11 04:27:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
A person can always change.Starting with forgivness, however forgetting seems to take the longest time.
2007-08-11 04:24:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋