I am the wife who's asking this question. My hubby and I have kinda played around with this. He was just planning on taking me out to dinner. I said, "No! You have to buy me a gift for our anniversary." I've already taken it upon myself to buy him something nice and he was just going to sit back, relax and not even consider a gift exchange. I'm not upset, but don't you think a man should buy a gift for his wife on their 1st wedding anniversary? btw, he is now going out to buy something today since I've been riding his back. Should I feel materialistic or does he need to wake up?
2007-08-11 03:30:40 · 17 answers · asked by royo32 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes and no. I think it should be a mutual agreement if a gift is exchanged. Even if you and your husband got each other something small. Or how about if your husband made you dinner or something? Would that be the same as him purchasing a gift for you? My husband and I decided not to buy each other gifts for our first wedding anniversary, we just got each other cards, he did buy me flowers, and we spent the evening at home, made dinner together and watched a movie. It was special to me because my husband had no idea how to cook so it was nice to see him willing to learn and help out with the meal.... Talk to your husband, not nag him, about buying one another gifts. See if there is/was a reason for him not wanting to buy you one. Talk it over and try to come to an agreement about future anniversaries. You don't want to always have to nag him to buy you a gift because then it won't be as special to you as if he went and bought one on his own without being told...
2007-08-11 05:26:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK This answer is from a man's perspective. After working all year making sure that the wife is happy, comfortable and feels loved and wanted, why would it be absolutely imperative that he buy a gift for the 1rst anniversary? I personally didn't bother with gifts until the 5 year mark as it is usually the roughest period. Up until that time, I made sure to remember the occasion with a fine dinner with wines and an evening of dance. My wife is the type that feels as though remembering the occasion by the husband with flowers is enough.
Now as the years pass, I spend quite a bit of time trying to think up new ways to celebrate the occasion so that she will remember the fun that we had on each one. This is not always an easy task, especially after 16 years. Although I always seem to manage. In my opinion, buying a small insignificant gift that at sometime would or could be lost or forgotten is tacky. The true gift that any married couple can give is the honest and true faithfulness of each other anyway. I personally wouldn't dream of asking my wife for a gift as I feel that she gives me my most desired gift all year long just by being herself as it is. Now I realize that you will get many different opinions to this question but this is my opinion and it hasn't failed me yet.
BTW this year on anniversary of August 1rst we spent 2 days on the beaches in Destin Florida. A sweet change to the unpredictable weather of Indiana summers and I may add quite different than the present surroundings that we have in Alabama where we presently live.
2007-08-11 04:09:57 · answer #2 · answered by pappysgotitgoinon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I see no problem with his idea of taking you out to dinner. A first anniversary should be a shared experience, in some cozy corner of a quiet restaurant over a nice romantic dinner for two.
You have a thoughtful and caring partner. A lot of men don't even notice when their wedding anniversaries come around, let alone go to the trouble of taking their wives out for dinner.
It's a pity you chose to "ride his back" over a gift.
2007-08-11 03:50:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I really feel you are being materialistic and not to mention down right bossy! No I don't think that a husband "has to buy" his wife a first anniversary gift....Going out to dinner would be just as wonderful...to me that is a gift because my husband remembered our special day and wanted to spend time celebrating it.
2007-08-11 03:39:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go to one of those engraving stores, usually found in the mall. They have great gifts that can be engraved so your first anniversary will never be forgotten. My husband got me a glass dome anniversary clock. This is probably the most popular first anniv. gift. I loved it, and will cherish it always. The clock is significant for a modern first anniversary, and paper is for traditional. There are gifts for modern and traditional anniversaries that are listed on the web. Look it up under "anniversary gifts". Happy Anniversary, I wish you both many many more.
2016-05-19 21:44:11 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he needs to wake up it's your 1st anniversary, I understand if he onnly buys you a gift for some of the big ones like 1 year, 5 years, 10 years, 15 years, 20 years, etc...but for every smaller anniversary he should atleast get you a card. I think the first anniversary is extremely important.
2007-08-11 03:48:06 · answer #6 · answered by Steven's Mommy 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i am a newlywed as well and i think he should get you a gift and for every year after that! i think it is sweet... even if it is something small, cheap, or the most retarded thing he could find on the planet! lol i think you should go online or get a magazine from a store of your choice and circle a few things that you like. take it from me, a guy usually has the slightest clue what to get ... so maybe give him a little push! my hubby loves that i show him what i want and give him options since he still has a little part in it! good luck and congrats!
2007-08-11 03:41:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
My perspective on this is no he shouldn't. Being loyal to his lifelong vow of holy matrimony is a gift in itself and God bringing you together in the sanctification of marriage is your gift. Im the type of person that is against holiday's, birthday's, christmas you name it. I feel that someone should do something special from their heart because they love you and are thoughtfull. What's the point having to buy a gift for someone because its valentines day or your situation an anniversary it sounds forced and expected. I feel people should surprise one another from time to time and do special things or buy special gifts for the occassion that they love and are thoughtfull toward you.
2007-08-11 03:41:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Definitely a gift! If there are no children and you are not strapped financially then he definitely needs to get you a gift AND take you out to dinner. The 1st anniversary is very important!!!!!
2007-08-11 03:44:48 · answer #9 · answered by yankeegirl 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
that gift won't really mean anything since you nagged him into buying it for you. you just didn't want to look dumb cause you're the only one with the gift. and a 1st anniversary gift is paper.
2007-08-11 03:38:38 · answer #10 · answered by Sweeney 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋