ahh i'm so nervous! my girlfriend and i are having our commitment ceremony/holy union today at 2 and i am already shaking. i dont have cold feet or anything, as far as i'm concerned shes already my wife and we've already committed, i just HATE being up in front of people! 50+ people will be there and im so afraid i will trip in my heels or stutter or just burst into tears or something... do you have any advice? how can i calm down? i've already smoke half a pack and its only 920! helpppp
btw - gay bashers and rude answerers - save it, your hateful comments wont 'straighten' me out.
2007-08-11 02:24:24 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
CONGRATULATIONS!!! Just focus on the love of your life at your ceremony. You love each other and that in itself is a blessing. Remember: the people are there in support of you, to celebrate your special day.
Just think-- I'm going to be going through the same thing in September. Wow!!! I can't wait (to get it over with! lol!!!)! Enjoy! Share how the ceremony went! Peace!!!
2007-08-11 06:39:31 · answer #1 · answered by Pnthr wmn 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
In our case when my partner and I tied the knot we kept our own surnames. it wasn't that we didn't want to change our names just that we both have quite long surnames and it was a bit difficult to A. decide who's should go first-ie which surname would sound right first. B. would our joined name sound right, in our case probably not. C. should we take each others name, by that I mean should I take his or he mine. In our case we couldn't decide so we chose to keep our own. However I understand that it is possible to change our surnames, if at a leter date we decided thats what we wanted to do. I have no close blood family that would be affected by a name change so I don't have any major reservations, my partners parents and brothers all accept me as a member of their family so have no problems either way, so to be honest why bother everyone concerned are happy. With resect to the law and the rights that we have, well as far as we are aware we now have most if not all the of the legal rights as straight couples, I'm sure someone will correct me if I am wrong on that, but and this is a major point here, we didn't get married to get the rights or to get what the other person owned, but because we love each other and want to share our lives together and surley that is the most important thing, after all isn't that why all couples get married. I hope that this answers your question, from one half of a very happy married gay couple.
2016-05-19 21:30:06 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just keep breathing sweetie. Take everything slow and easy. There is absolutely no rush. You're going to be just fine :)
Remember that when you get handed the ring to cup your hand so that you don't drop it. And don't be afraid to hang on to your partner tightly during the vows :)
Good luck. Enjoy this day. It just gets better from here.
2007-08-11 03:55:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I suspect you're smoking the wrong stuff. LOL
BTW, congratulations! I am so pleased to see people go ahead with the ritual, even if the state does not give you a license. The main idea is the commitment to one another, not the legal details. However, I still think you should be entitled to all the privileges of married people. We'll keep working on changing the laws.
2007-08-11 02:32:15 · answer #4 · answered by auntb93 7 · 8⤊ 2⤋
Congratulations! Just know that at the end of the day it will be just the two of you. The wedding fuss is temporary and will soon be in the past. No matter what happens it will be all good so enjoy the day and your lady.
2007-08-11 06:08:07 · answer #5 · answered by dragonsarefree2 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just try to stop thinking about it so much and focus on something else...like the reception or a honeymoon. Also, what helped me when I walked down the isle is I did not look to the side at the people. I did look and smile at close relatives but that was it. Try not to think about it and just start walking. Just think about this...do you remember anything specific about a wedding you attened...meaning the people getting married. Most people don't think about a thing 5 minutes after it happens so even if you do go up there and trip or something, nobody will remember anything but how much fun they had.
2007-08-11 02:32:02 · answer #6 · answered by catsaver001 3 · 7⤊ 2⤋
Just STOP being nervous! The ONLY person that matters or should matter to you, is the one your getting married to, certainly NOT the 50+ others. Let them think what they will but they probably think well of you anyway or they wouldnt be there to see you both tie the know, now would they?
Anyway, good luck to you both and may you have a long and happy union!
2007-08-11 02:29:58 · answer #7 · answered by scotslad60 4 · 6⤊ 2⤋
As concerns what might help......A vitamin B-complex would likely help, that or a small serving or two of wine. You however are experiencing what all people who "are joined" experience in the form of jitters, and so that's just the way it is.
2007-08-11 03:43:23 · answer #8 · answered by mainstreetchurch 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Bless your heart, try not to think about the ceremony and think about the reception afterwords, think about the food, the drinks, the dancing, what ever will help keep your mind off the actual ceremony. I remember when I got married I thought my husband was going to faint but he said once he got up their everything just seemed to fade away ( the people, the fear). It will be the same for you, Waiting truly is the hardest part. Good luck and congrats!!!
2007-08-11 02:33:45 · answer #9 · answered by GI 5 · 6⤊ 3⤋
Congrats!1!!!!!!!! Best wishes!!!! You will be ok just think of the happy life you have had together and the many more years to come!!!
2007-08-11 13:11:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋