i think my dad might be gay, how can i be sure?

Answer 1

Think long and hard before you ask him. Are you ready for the answer? If he says "no" will you believe him? Or will you assume he is lying? If he says "yes" will you hate him? Or will you still love him?

First you should ask yourself if it really matters or not. If it does, then make sure you are ready to accept whatever answer he gives. If it doesn't really matter, just let it go.

Answer 2

I'm not really sure, to be honest. Parents are fantastic at hiding things from their children, especially if they think it might hurt them.

One way would be to just outright ask him. Nicely, of course. He's your father. Just ask him and if he's gay, and tells you, great, that means he trusts you. If he's not gay and he tells you that, take it at face value and leave the issue alone. Maybe he really is, but he's not ready to come out to you yet.

Answer 3

Why do you need to be 'sure' about your dad's sexuality?

It is private, and he may feel that he wants to keep this to himself - that's if he isn't 100% straight, of course.

If you want to persist to understand him better, then let him know that you love and accept him for who he is and - probably not at the same time - that you accept other's sexuality regardless.

It's not nice being pushed to give up the secrets of your sexuality, and you should respect this, even if he loves you more than anyone in the world - maybe he has been happy to keep things to himself, and may not fully accept things himself, even.

Good luck! Rob

Answer 4

Why does everyone say "ask him"?
Guys... it's not that easy... I mean... we r talking about a parent!!!
It's not like a normal friend of ours...
Personally I'd have some problems asking him a such question...
But you can start saying something like:
"u know?!... my friend yesterday told me that his mother is gay... he made such a mess for this thing..."
and see how he reacts...
if u got nothing against this thing u can say that u'd have no problem if one of your parents was gay...
He won't feel like if you r attacking him...
this could help...
baci
Francesco

Answer 5

Ask him. It may be difficult, but if you want to be sure, as opposed to just guessing, you're going to have to ask him.

Before you do, however, think about whether it is really any of your business. And you might ask "are you gay or bisexual or something," rather than assuming.

Answer 6

Ask him...
You have a hunch or intuitive feeling?
First state your position on the subject. If it is negative don't ask, if you can deal with it by being supportive and understanding (no matter how you feel about the subject), then tell him and ask.
Keep the secret, it does not belong to you. Trust & understanding is love.

Answer 7

i agree. Just ask him. Let him know first of all that you love him no matter what. Then ask him. If he says yes or no let him know you need help with either your questions about why you wonder or help with coming to terms with his sexuality. Then just throw your arms around him and hold him close so he knows you really do love him. He's a lucky guy to have you want to know. My kids don't want to know and what they do actually know about me they choose not to know. I want out and fear the result. so just be open and honest and loving.

Answer 8

Does it matter? Would his being gay affect how you love him? If it would why are you seeking the truth.Don't ask us ask him.

Answer 9

what do u mean? if he was gay as u say then you wouldnt be here does he act like it we need more details

Answer 10

Have you asked him?

Do you have any basis for this assumption?

I would start off by asking!