Serious question for those who come from a family with divorced parents?

Question

1. Do you think families with divorced parents are portrayed accurately in the media? Why or why not?

2. Do you seek out or take particular notice of news or programmes related to individuals from families with divorced parents? How do you feel about them?

3. Do you think you are affected by such programmes or stories in the media? If yes, in what way?

Specific and elaborate answers will be greatly appreciated.

Answer 1

1) No.My parents are civil to each other at least.We meet up almost every weekend.If you didn't know you would swear my parents are still married.Divorced parents in the media are always portrayed as greedy people after each other's assets.Then they'd fight over custody of their child(ren).Then they are always rude and awkward with each other.

2)No I don't.I feel somewhat sorry for them since divorces on television are always ugly.

3)No.It has absolutely nothing to do with me.I don't find them deserving of empathy or sympathy.

Answer 2

1. No I do not think that divorced parents are portrayed accurately. Not all divorced men are "deadbeat" dads and not all divorced women are bitter, hysterical shrews. Not all divorces include "bitter custody disputes". Some parents are actually mature enough to admit that they get along better when they're not living together. Yet they can still be civil and adult enough to work toward a common goal. Raising their children to be productive, happy and respectful human beings. Not all children of divorced parents end up in prisons or even in therapy. The problem with the media and sometimes society is grouping all people together into one mass instead of accepting the fact that all people are different. And when a family steps out of what's considered "normal" divorcee behavior then they are singled out. Two good examples that come to mind to illustrate the difference are Alec Baldwin and Kim Basinger, his message to his daughter and all of their drama; and Bruce Willis and Demi Moore, even though she's married to someone else they go out on family nights and he is an active and involved father (as far as I know).

2. I don't seek out news of families with divorced parents because, I am VERY sad to say, it is not a rare thing anymore. I am more drawn to programs or shows about parents still together and trying to make it work or parents on the verge of divorce. My most recent conundrum is trying to find what the "limit" is for one person or couple compared to another. At what point does one decide to divorce? I am also interested in the choices some people make after divorce for themselves. Who they end up with after their spouse is an interesting topic for me. It takes a big person to be "step" parent and to go into a family that is already made. I like to see all sides.

3. Sometimes yes. I am very saddened by the behavior of some parents and the lengths that some will go to just to get revenge. The example that some parents set for their children and the way in which some people degrade themselves to try and bring someone else down is sad and at times purely pathetic.

Let me end by saying this is a very good question.

Answer 3

First of all....yes it is child abuse. As long as you are under the age of 18 it's still child abuse. Actually as long as you are under the age of 21 and a full time student it's child abuse. Believe me I work with these kinds of things all of the time. Secondly, forget trying to get your parents to divorce. Your mom probably hasn't done it for fear of what may happen. Call the police. Get you and your brother and any other child out of the situation. NOW! They'll take pictures of the bruises or whatever else. They'll get you and your brother into a safe environment. And they'll offer your mother protection as well. They'll put the creep behind bars so that he can't touch you guys. They'll issue a restraining order if he isn't locked up, and if he calls, texts, writes a letter, or comes near you and your brother, he'll be thrown in jail. Whoever told you it wasn't child abuse is lying to you. If your father said that it's because he knows what he's doing is wrong. Call the police. Do it NOW!

Answer 4

1. no, i think most of the stuff in the media hides the very hurtful side of it not only to the children but also the parents because in my situation it was and still is not good between my parents, I'm 44 and they have been divorced since i was 7 and i cannot sit down with either one to this day for 15 minutes and they're bad mouthing the other

2.yes i do seem to notice i feel bad for the kids

3.no

Answer 5

1. I don't think they portray them right, they always say children of divorced parent are more likely to do all the wrongs things, which i don't think is right, i've seen throught out my life how kids with married parents make the same mistakes as those with divorced parents.
2. I don't seek out stories or programs.
3. I'm no affected by them, why should I be?

Answer 6

1. Yes.
2. No.
3. No.

Answer 7

I think they are portrayed okay... i mean i dont feel bad for it!! because of the mediaa...

I had... but i think i am over that its been so long... I love both of my parents... of course! I think if you are not okay you should gooo and when you feel ready to accept it then you are ready to move on!

No, I dont get affected! I really dont mind as long as I am happy :) and I hope my relationship goes better, but if it doesn't there i'll be looking for some help!! :)

Answer 8

honestly, i really don't care what the media says.
my mom was divorced twice and we were just fine. i don't think people should be concerned about what others think.

Answer 9

yes, yes, and yes.

Answer 10

Thanks God...I am not....tttttt