Maybe I was out of line!?

Question

I recently went to my inlaws 40th wedding anniversary. When the dinner was about to be served, I quickly went to the bathroom. I tipped the bathroom attendant a dollar to keep quiet while I changed. When I came back I was wearing a cape and a large set of plastic gopher teeth.
My mother in law, immediately began to started sobbing and crying. She said that I looked JUST like her dead father who had died driving a truck load of walnuts to the D.C. area.

My question is:
Was it good manners to tip the bathroom attendant???

Answer 1

Why certainly. it was using good etiquette to keep the bathroom attendant quiet while you changed into costume. He could have asked you for more, if he thought that there would be a good pay -off for him. This might had led into a dispute with the bathroom attendant where you would have to bind and gag him just to keep him quiet about it.

Perhaps the tears of your mother-in-law were happy memories of her deceased father. The cape and gopher teeth served as a reminder of how much she has missed him since the accident that day when the truck he was driving jack knifed and hit another oncoming truck carrying a cargo of dried fruit. As a result of the accident. both the driver of the other vehicle and your mother -in-law's father (who we'll call Chip for the record) died on the scene. However, the dried fruit and walnut company merged together that year and began a new fruitcake company in time for the Christmas Holiday.

Answer 2

Of course .... you may be the Queen of England or the King of Timbuktoo, or Dracula or a wannabe-Gopher-with-a-Cape - tipping is the right thing to do when the guy allows you to switch personalities in his domain ! (and mind you, you must not discount his regular responsibilities which are also tippable)

So you are not out of line on that.

BTW it is hilarious - walking into a 40th anniversary celebration looking like a grim reaper or a ghost. The underlying message you are delivering is surely joy and happiness (but of the negative variety) and we all know the joy of a long living mother in law
:))

Answer 3

Always a good idea to tip the attendant. What a job it is to sit in a bathroom all day. Good job on the tip, nice touch with the gopher teeth.

Answer 4

No you weren't out of line, maybe she needed to be reminded about her father...maybe you did something great for her and now she just wants to thank you.

If you tipped the restroom attendant in good faith and not some deceitful plan of deception or utter rudeness in which the dollar made him an accomplice, then those were perhaps some bad manners. But on the other hand, I bet he was just wondering weather or not not anyone was going to tip him at all. I'd say it probably worked out good for all involved =)

Answer 5

Yes to tip the man was a good thing but you are mean to your mother-in-law:(

Answer 6

1. I highly doubt your in-laws have a private bathroom attendant
2. In your last question you said you were getting married, so how can you have in laws

You are so busted!!!

Answer 7

Well sure, it was good manners, but I would have gone with $1.50. Sheesh, what were you thinking? ;-)

Answer 8

It wasn't manners but It was kindness...

Answer 9

hahahahahaha!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! nope!!! i think tipping is pretty pointless, i have never tipped anyone in my life, even though i maybe 16, still, i think tipping is pretty stupid. good luck with your mother in law!!!!!!!!!

Answer 10

yes, that was good manners.