Sex Pressure!!?

Question

i am only 14 and all my male friend keeps talking about sex and blow jobs and things like that. they keep asking me if i have done any of that and i havent and i feel alot of pressure to maybe start. I probebly wont but what should i do?

Answer 1

Your guy friends are totally setting you up to get pregnant.
Any guy who has sex witha girl he isn't married to, he doesn't respect and love her. It's just for pleasure.

Don't view your virginity as something to get rid of or something that isn't important like your friends have done. It is, that's why guys are always trying to take it from girls. There is intrinsic value in it.

Sex is a powerful thing. It has the power to give life(baby). It has the power to take it away(AIDS). If you're not willing to sacrifice yourself alone for a teenage boy to one of these then don't do it.

Answer 2

Dont do anything you dont feel comfortable about. There is this girl-shes going to 9th grade now and I remember her when she was young; i helped her out cause she didnt know any english and i tutored her in math. The other day my sister told me how she gave this guy a ******** and the whole middle school found out about it. Before thinking she was easy, a slut, etc, i just felt so sad and sorry for her. I am not better than anyone but i knew in the back of my mind it wasnt something she wanted to do; she felt pressure and perhaps wanted attn. Dont let that be you. Just so you know im not a 71 year old gradma or anything, im 21. Even if you may not realize it now, in the future you'll be happy you didnt have sex-vaginal or oral. Trust me, you are smarter than that.

Answer 3

Be thankful you don't have to worry about things like diseases or if your girlfriend is pregnant. Be thankful you don't have that pressure to deal with. It's hard enough being a teen without adding more crap to it.

Just let them talk... if they start pressuring you ask them when they had their last HIV test.... because they need to be tested. That will probably shut them up. Or ask them where they plan on working to pay the child support when they get some girl pregnant. That might work also.

I have a son who is 17 and still a virgin. Then again he doesn't hang around folks who are all about sex and crap. He finds friends who are like him... more worried about making something of their lives than trying to ruin their lives.

Maybe you should consider finding new friends.

Answer 4

You're just 14. Don't give in to wisdom from the crowd. More than likely they are either horny little boys that aren't doing it. Never let anyone pressure you into doing something you don't want to do. Wait until you are mature enough and ready. Furthermore, make sure it's with someone worth your time so it can be a special moment worth remembering & not a regret. You're only 14...dont do it!

Answer 5

Well you have to lead by example. Because peer pressure can really ruin your life. I'm not saying avoid all your male friends I'm just saying don't buy into what they are talking about. If sex and blow jobs are not your thing, then don't listen. Keep your innocence for as long as possible.

Answer 6

Let them know that your experience or lack of experience is for you to know and them to never find out. That should shut them up for a while. You have to say it with confidence though or they wont believe you. Don't ever give in until you are absolutely ready to and it sounds like you are not at this point. If you keep them guessing they will stay interested in you so you will not miss out on any bf opportunities. As soon as guys have all the answers at that age they become not interested anymore. Hold your head high and just smile at them when you sat it too. Then walk away smiling and continue on with your day.

Answer 7

From personal experience I will say that you should NEVER let someone pressure you into something you are not ready for. They are being immature boys. A lot of girls take this crap from guys, please don't be one of them. I let one guy pressure me for a few years because once you let someone once it is hard to not be pressured a second time. I think about him everyday and the hurtful things he made me do. You live with the decisions you make not any guy. And if someday you decide you are ready for sex and know what it's all about, protect yourself!!! In the end you are the one you have to count on.

Answer 8

Do what your name implies, Strong Girl. Stick to your guns and don't allow yourself to be pressured into doing anything you're not ready for. Even if they call you names, its only because they can't have what they want from you---your precious virginity. Boys will needle, beg and whine their way into your drawers, if you let them. And when the first one is done, get ready for the rest. Billy tells Tommy, who tells Jerry, who tells Ron, who tells Mike---that they got some from you and they should give you a try. This is the voice of experience talking so listen up: "YOU DON'T HAVE TO DO ANYTHING THAT YOU DON'T WANT TO!!!" It's your body to rule so rule it with an iron fist and tell those boys to go blow themselves. Good luck lil' babe, and take care, you're doing the right thing because you've got the whole rest of your life to have sex---on your terms, and that's when you're ready.

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Answer 9

DONT do anything you're not ready for. And definitely don't do something just because people are talking about it or are trying to pressure you into it.. I know 30 year olds who still haven't done anything like that and they're proud of it because they don't think it's something to be taken lightly.. It's your body and your life, but you have to really think about things... like religion maybe? or cultural views? or your own personal views and feelings towards this type of thing... I just turned 18 and people try to do all that to me... but I don't think it's right for me to be doing these things just yet... so i say no with a smile. Don't let people pressure you into doing anything you don't want to do.

Answer 10

just because they are you're friends and they say stuff like that doesnt really mean they done it their selfs to. In this time people like to run off at the mouth about things they didnt do! lol i know i went to highschool and its normal for boys and girls to say something when they really didnt even do the thing they were talking about! Its just being a kid, and dont be talked into anything you dont want to do cause thats not right, when you're ready you're ready.