Should I tell her first?

Question

When I was a child, I had to live with a very serious birth defect. A third nipple.
Now I am about to wed and am wondering should I tell my intended before or after the ceremony. It is three inches long and believe it or not, it kind of resembles Whoopi Goldberg!
It is is also situated just above my navel.
Should I tell her at all or am I making too much of it?

Answer 1

Living with this third nipple for all your life must have made certain situations quite uncomfortable for you. You were probably quite self conscious of this at the public pool or while dressing down for gym class. When you were younger you thought that this extra appendage was normal and just assumed that three nipples was the normal thing to have.
Assuming that this three inch long nipple is located in the center of your chest, I am amazed to think that your 'intended' has not yet discovered it! How did you keep it secretly hidden from her during heavy petting and foreplay? Perhaps you have a lot of chest hair and kinda tuck it in? Or tie it in a small knot and pretend it is a mole?
If it resembles Whoopie Goldberg --(whom I much admire) it would be priceless to sell it on eBay! Being situated right over the navel area. I am wondering if it reacts to external stimuli when excited?
If it bothers you this much and think that it will cause some distraction on the honeymoon, try tying a string on it to cut off the blood flow and eventually it will drop off on it s own. That is if your lady doesn't object. Who knows she may like the extra appendage.

Answer 2

My opinion : Its only a nipple and that should be a pleasant surprise !! Besides, consider all the intangibles which you have not shared ..... secrets from your past.... !!
And,
Had it been something else which was 3 inches would you be sharing this ? I bet not becoz the wedding would have failed before it started.

The risk : If you share this info, she may (will) ask you to remove it. Which means surgery. Which can go wrong too (horribly sometimes). Which means expense (in addition to the wedding expenses) and also means some time in bed so you need to take additional days off from work - for the surgery and recovery, in addition to the time for the wedding and the honeymoon - try asking your boss and you may get the approval on a pink slip.
Nay..... the risks are great.
So once you are married, and the clothes are off, there is no going back because both of you will have a lot of warts, farts and foibles to show off to wach other.

You never know she may have an extra teat too !!!

Wish you a happy married life ;-) It's a surprise, life is !

Answer 3

Tell? Don't TELL her after the ceremony. That will come off as sneaky and dastardly. Either mention it before or don't mention it at all. She'll be far more forgiving if she finds out by looking at it than if you tell her AFTER the wedding ceremony.

Wow. don't be so afraid about it. I'm confident she'll love you either way, but telling her right after you've "sealed the deal" will seem like you've been deliberately hiding a secret from her.

Not telling her at all will make it seem like you don't make a big deal about it, like it doesn't matter enough to you to mention, or that you're too embarassed to talk about it (which might come off as cute)

Telling her before will also seem like you've been hiding it from her (bad) but that you consider her feelings (good) and are embarassed by it (neutral)

Personally, I'd let her discover it, it's the least risky.

But if you must "warn" her about it, doing so RIGHT after you're wed will seem like a really mean trick.

Answer 4

Usually, I think of your questions as humorous and respond in kind.....I can't say that for this one though.....it's kind of whack....(smile) But to make a point, you might want to check with Mark Wahlberg to find out how he handles his third nipple. Personally? I'd have it removed. I can't think of any piece of flesh with an extension that favors another human being.

Answer 5

:)
You are talking about a third nipple, not a third arm .... but since it is obvious it is very much on your mind, then yes, tell her about it. Curious though, does it run in your family? Is that why you are worried about passing it on to your children? You didn't say it, but it's obvious that is what you are wondering. Have you spoken to your doctor about it?

Answer 6

Oh I could say something rude, but i will be good for once. Is it sensitive like a regular nipple, if so leave it there, it could be fun. If she is grossed out by it , too bad, she married you not your nipple.

Answer 7

tell her to save her from the shock but tell her after the wedding after the reception but before the honeymoon

Answer 8

I'd tell her...if she wants to run, give her a chance to do it now...before she takes you to the cleaners over it.

I certainly would...you lie about one thing, God only knows what else you'd lie about.

Answer 9

For all you know she might have one too that resembles Donald Trump

Answer 10

Cool. Sounds very interesting, don't tell her, she will be excited when she finds out. You could get it pierced. That would be cool