2007-08-11 01:23:01 · 18 answers · asked by milky way 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
money.. family or peer. pressure... prestige.. stupidity... revenge... a child involved... does not realize he loves the other woman.... convenience. sex hungry..social ladder climb... and the list goes on and on,...
2007-08-11 01:28:57 · answer #1 · answered by foosieboy1953 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It's possible that he thinks that the woman he loves either doesn't want him or is not available. So he has decided that he must move on. He wants to be married, have just one woman in his life, so rather than be alone forever, he marries his second choice. This is a really tough situation for everyone involved, though sometimes the women are not always aware of his true feelings. Wherever you fit in his life, good luck - you're going to need it.
2007-08-11 01:55:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I agree with what a lot of the other posts here...either the woman isn't seen as "marriage material," or he's really not in love with her...he's in love with the other woman. However, there's one possibility I haven't seen posted, which also happens.
I was involved with a passive-aggressive guy at one time, and one thing he'd do pretty regularly is when he felt too emotionally close, he'd distance himself. For some reason, these guys don't like the idea of being emotionally dependent on anyone and they have a difficult time getting emotionally close to women. He also didn't like the idea of competing with other men, either. He found me attractive and had a difficult time with others finding me attractive, too.
We eventually broke up, he moved on and ended up marrying someone he could keep at "arm's length." He told me he never "loved" her, so I do know that happens. They were more "buddies" from the beginning, and he didn't find her overly attractive...she was a real Plain Jane type. He used to tell me he felt better knowing that guys wouldn't be looking at her...she was a real church lady type, too--he was happy to know she was always at home. I know...weird, huh?
Well, that doesn't always work either...he's now getting divorced. Bottom line is that if people don't deal with their issues, they tend to resurface at some point. So, if your guy is marrying someone else when he says he's in love with you to avoid feeling vulnerable and too close, he can only bury his head in the sand for so long. It will eventually come back to haunt him. And by then you would've moved on.......too bad.
2007-08-11 01:53:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately you weren't very specific as to the conditions involved. It may be way more complicated than you are letting on. Personally though, if I loved someone and then married someone else, it's probably because I think that the girl I am in love with isn't marriage material. Perhaps I am totally in love with her, but she like to write bad checks, I wouldn't marry her no matter how much I loved her.
2007-08-11 01:27:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cause he's not really in love with that woman he says he is. A man has a hard time staying away from the woman he really loves.
2007-08-11 01:36:50 · answer #5 · answered by Jane Marple 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm with ravenhon, just not marriage material. I wouldn't let my heart completely rule me when it comes to marriage... and didnt! I had values, hopes and dreams and i discussed all these with my boyfriend who was very compatible with them as was i when it came to his. There isn't much use marrying someone just because you love them then getting 2 years into the relationship and start complaining she doesn't like sex, can't cook and the house is equivalent to a filthy pig sty... or the girl complaining he doesn't talk, won't help and doesn't care.... it's all there in the beginning but unfortunately people just ignore all that and think they can somehow change the other along the way... which as we all know rarely ever works.
2007-08-11 01:58:42 · answer #6 · answered by Shazela 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He wouldn't. He cannot possibly be in love and want to marry some other woman. He probably just wants to cheat. Get away from that guy.
2007-08-11 01:32:55 · answer #7 · answered by Very Honest 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because he lied about really being in love with the other one or the other. Men tend to marry the women they truly love.
of course , along they way lots of men also tend to lose sight of that and often listen to the smaller stupider brain which has no heart and no spine. Kapish?
2007-08-11 01:31:50 · answer #8 · answered by jokerthefreak1 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He should marry the woman whom he loves and not another for any excuses whatever.
2007-08-11 01:28:54 · answer #9 · answered by sv 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it's the whole want/need thing...
Maybe he loves and wants the one woman... But feels he needs to marry that other person...
2007-08-11 01:30:31 · answer #10 · answered by Lisa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because he really loves the woman he is marrying and the other one has it in her head that he wants to marry her when he doesn't because if he did nothing would hold him back. Not kids, Not approval, NOTHING. Sorry hun he never wanted to marry you
2007-08-11 01:28:03 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋