the father wants nothing to do with the child and she wants someone with a stable home to care for her baby. do we need forms filled out or can she write something out and have it noterized?
2007-08-11 01:11:07 · 10 answers · asked by honeyhead24 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
she will not be putting the father on the birth cretificate. and she only wants me to take they baby in the event of her death or if she goes into a coma or such. she is afraid because she has diabetes and has had lots of problems with it. im guessing that if she keeps the father off the birth certificate then he would have to prove he is the father before he would ever end up with the baby.
2007-08-11 08:34:49 · update #1
your friend should see a lawyer who will draw up a legal will, leaving a note or letter simply will not be enough.
the lawyer will probably need to contact the father if she lists him on the birth certificate, otherwise she could list the father as unknown and this would solve that problem especially if she is sure he wants nothing to with the child.
what a great friend she has!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-08-11 01:19:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you might have to consult a lawyer and tell them about the situation. Try and take the babies father with you or get a note signed specifically from him saying that he does not want anything to do with the child no matter what happens. Showing the signed letter to the lawyer would mean that they might have to take it into court to see if it is legal to do such. Once the court hearing is over.. hopefully it will be legal for you to take the baby with you to your home. You might want to get your friend to sign a letter saying that she allows you to take the baby with you because she can no longer take care of it because of her condition! Good luck.
2007-08-11 01:20:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You def need to do something legally because for your safety you never know what she will do a week or a month or evem a year after the baby is born by taking the baby away from you when you are clearly attached at that point. You need to do this for the welfare of you and that baby I honestly think its the best thing to do no offense against your dear friend who has trusted you with her child. Good Luck
2007-08-11 01:18:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Until the father puts that information in writing it does not matter what he says now. If you want this legal, you will have to go to legal aid or see an attorney to have this taken care of. This mother needs to be very specific. I know that many women are paranoid about something happening during delivery, but I am concerned that she is taking this to an extreme which makes me wonder what her OBGYN is telling her about the birthing process.
2007-08-11 01:58:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have it stated in her will that should anything happen to her, you are to get custody of the child. This doesn't stop custody hearings if the grandparents/father decide they want the child but it looks better for you that she made it official that she wanted you to have the child. Nothings fullproof but it helps. Same goes with your own children if something was to happen to you or hubby. Put it in a will.
Also something to think about it, if you were to have the responsibility for the child, then ask her if she has made provisions like superannuation/life insurance payouts to come to you so that you can look after the child without being burdened with the cost (not that looking after a child is a burden but it costs a lot). If you have kids then you may need a bigger car/house more schooling clothes food etc...
If she trusts you enough to look after her baby then she should trust you with the money.
My hubby and I have chosen his sister to have our children should anything happent to us and in our wills it states what goes to the kids and what goes to them for looking after the kids after our assests are liquidated. It sensible, responsible and insures they are going to get the best we can give them after our passing.
Good luck and you must be a pretty special friend to be trusted with the life of your friends baby.
2007-08-11 01:28:47 · answer #5 · answered by Cindy; mum to 3 monkeys! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
at the start, you are the only with the infant and he could subsequently be the only making the attempt to come back and spot you so as that it somewhat is him doing all of the traveling and not the infant. it is commonsense and if he won't holiday then he does not should work out the infant. Secondly, in case you particularly is harrassing then you definately see a solicitor approximately getting some form of non-pester order. you additionally can prefer to establish your newborn is secure legally in the process the courts in case he thinks of doing a runner with infant. i could actual circulate to a solicitor. with the aid of accepting newborn assist you're acknowledging he's the father and he has the criminal good to observe for and get parental accountability whether he's on the delivery certificates or not.
2016-10-19 10:57:39 · answer #6 · answered by beaudin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the father wants nothing to do with the baby then he should sign away parental rights or the courts will give him preference. If he does that then she would need to assign you as guardian in her will. This would have to be done at a lawyers office.
2007-08-11 01:16:46 · answer #7 · answered by Rob 5 · 6⤊ 0⤋
this is not as easy to do as you guys may think. The father may not want anything to do with the baby right now, but that could change, the father, the fathers family, and the mothers family would have presedence over what would happen to the baby if anything did happen to the mother.
I would suggest talking to a lawyer.
2007-08-11 01:18:39 · answer #8 · answered by snowyrayne_2006 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You should get her to start a Living Will.
You should try this resource.
2007-08-13 14:31:18 · answer #9 · answered by dorwin29 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lawyer is more accurate.
2007-08-11 01:19:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋