Why teenagers tend to behave worst than when they were younger?

Question

I see a lot of children in the rush of being adults. They want their parents to trust them and they want so badly to grow up but the more they grow, the worst their behavior is.
They are louder in the streets, they answer back at their parents. They insult older people. Are they confused about what the word "MATURE" means? They want to be consider as a mature person but they seem to not see or ignore how adults really act!

Black Pearl, you are right there are a lot of inmature adults just like the one that thumbs down you!

PLEASE NO THUMBS DOWN TO ANYONE! IF YOU DISAGREE JUST LEAVE IT ALONE!

Answer 1

Teenagers are facing a drastically changeing society. Coupled with the natural tendency of teens to rebel a little from the ways of their parents, they have a hard time trying to figure out just exactly what their roles will be in this new and changing world that they live in.

When our kids are 4 or 5 they see their parents as being the wisest people in the world, As they get to their early teens, the parents are still pretty smart to them, just awflully strict. At 15, the parents seem very dumb and stupid. At 18, parents are the most stupid people that they know. Then when they get married, in their early 20's they begin to seek a few hints like how to get along and how to raise their OWN kids. By the time they reach their 30's they come to look at the parents as having learned something that they need to learn for themselves. When, They reach their 40's the parents again become very wise and knowledgeable. It's NOT the parents who have changed very much, it's the kids who have made all the changes. It's ALL a process of maturing and coming to learn and grow as mature individuals that changes their perspectives.

ALL we can do as parents is to raise them in the BEST way that we can. Love them, guide them, give them a moral foundation. We just have to hope that some of it is retained by the kids. Surprisingly enough, when we do a good job of raising our kids, they figure it out sooner or later that it WAS the right way to have been brought up and they then pass that along to THEIR kids. Until then, we as parents have to just "hang on", because it's going to be a bumpy ride for a few years. (((((Rae)))))

Raji the Green Witch

Answer 2

Kids act that way because they are trying to assert their rights to be treated as adults before they realize what that even means. It is similar to animals in the wild who will constantly test their parents to test their own prowess and dominance and skill in preparation for what they will have to do in real life.

Unfortunately, not many kids understand this about themselves or want to listen to adults because they do think they are tough stuff and parents get frustrated trying to deal with it all. Sometimes the problem is communication....parents and kids don't know how to talk things out without hostility. Parents want respect and to be obeyed....kids want more and more freedom and think they should have it now without earning it. Not so many talk it over or take time to explain or hear why things are the way they are. Both want instant gratification of their wishes and anger springs up when that doesn't happen. When that happens, the kids think it unfair and yell and misbehave even more, widening the chasm of misunderstanding. But they are just kids, in spite of what they think, so the burden of keeping things running smoothly is on the parents and its hard work and terribly frustrating most times.

Answer 3

Lots of reasons. They are following the leads of their louder and more obnoxious peers bc they are learning what behavior is cool or not cool in the in crowd. They want to fit in with them, they are learning to be adults, and think of it. When they enter adolescence, they are children. and when they leave it, they are adults. There is a lot to learn in those years and they are going to make some mistakes. Mistakes are a necessary learning tool.

They are stretching their wings nd are going to need to screw up on their own, and it is timely for me that you should ask it. My son is 14 and just started high school, and he is still the most respectful and well behaved kid, but I see him wanting to fit in, and he is taking some "behavioral risks" by saying more independent things. It's ok, and good. But he doesn't use foul language and talk back, or get disrespectful. I think that THAT objectionable behavior is a combination of peer press sure, wanting to fit in, poor upbringing, and can be one of the results of cruel poverty and social issues.

BB,
Lady M

It helps if they have a solid upbringing of respecting others right from the start, but that doesn't always happen.

Answer 4

i think of that ought to be slightly a generalisation. in short, no longer all the elderly are impolite and boastful for this reason how can they be putting a bad occasion. those seniors you point out have in all probability had that concepts-set all their lives. There are reliable and undesirable in all generations, regrettably the 'baddies' are observed extra and every person else is labelled with the comparable recognition. in case you're no longer in the baddie type, do you lead by using occasion? it somewhat is a threat which you do no longer observe the various that circulate quietly approximately their on a regular basis lives without drawing interest to themselves. those that carry a door open for a youthful mom with a buggy, or say a actual 'thank you' to the extra youthful guy or woman who holds a door open for them. i've got continually believed that there is a clarification for a guy or woman's behaviour. possibly many of the 'previous human beings' you talk with are reacting to a bad adventure or therapy they have gained in the previous it somewhat is still in the subconscious. Even ailment or soreness could make human beings look impolite, as can concern while attentive to nearing the top of existence.

Answer 5

What else do you expect when you live in a society that doesn't want their kids to live. And since they do live it so upsets the older more stringent and intolerant of us. And in my country you can get into some hot water with the law if you let your kid do anything constructive like work at the family business where he or she can place all that energy in learning to lead a family business instead of being tottered to the point of absolute ridiculousness where to say or do or be anything but acting the way we want which is not well defined and most of the time engulfed in some ulterior activity too, you know, we are the problem not the kids...

Answer 6

I know what you mean but please don't generalize,I'm 17 years old and as such I'm a teenager and I'm not like that at all...and furthermore I have friends that are kind and polite.
You'll see many more (unfortunately) people who are trying to be mature but are actually the opposite just as I know a person of age 36 whilst he has a behavior of a 5 years old child.

Answer 7

Its all the hormone changes their bodies are going through. They want to be an adult and yet they are scared to leave their childhood behind. They are also trying to figure out who they are, what people think of them, and will they be able to make a place for themselves in the world.

Answer 8

On one hand, they have raging hormones.

On the other hand, the transition from child to adult is scaring them out of their wits!!!

Above all that, we are programmed to free ourselves of our childish dependence on parents (or else we could never stand on our own, especially after they're gone).

To sum it all up, it's like "run amuck" time on the planet Vulcan, it's a kinda form of age appropriate "craziness"!

Answer 9

truth is i got great grades in school but was always a little crazy the more my family tried to get me to calm the water a little the more white rapids seemed to apear im 19 when i turned 18 i went crazy thought i could rule the world yeah i went to college but man the partys that my family never let me go to i owned i outdrake everyone just to make a point 181/2 i realized **** im smoking and drinking for what to be a badass cummon i always was aint no body ever liked me in a fight i pulled my head out of my *** and now after 3 weeks in the hospital from runing myself into the ground proving to my parents that im not the goody to shoos that they thought i was well inever was ..... point is let them go to a party or to let them get drunk once whisky they aint gonna do it again if you dont they try to make a point so bad theyll do anything. im now ninteen spent a week in jail drank more moonshine than the south smoked more cigarette than fonzie ..... just to live a little realized what a damn idiot that i was pulled my head out of my **** and now make 10000 a month let them live alittle they wont want or need to when it can really hurt them after eighteen when their not minors anotherwords

Answer 10

my mom is always saying that i'm starting to get stupider as i get older, i really don't know why, i know it's somewhat true but not, we just have more freedom of choice as we get older