my bf had an arrange marriage he is from India he claims he did not no it was gonna happen until the his parents called and said this is what it is and he claims he had no clue prior to that call and then like a week or so later he had to get married i think he should have known like week or month prior
2007-08-10 19:15:00 · 6 answers · asked by princessangelgale 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
and how does the divorce work there in India she filled the divorce agist him so how long does that normally take or how does that go is it normally a long hard process? i mean does it take years and months? i want any kinda info i can get about this please!!!
2007-08-10 19:17:26 · update #1
Truthfully, the marriage and wedding arrangements are done by parents....
And yes, they moved up the wedding to break up you and him, because they did not approve....
It happens quite often so it should not be surprising....
Why would you marry him after that? He would only be with you 2 years before getting green card to bring the first wife to US.......Don't do it, it is green card fraud and you could wind up in jail over it.....It does not sound like a good risk...... If I had known such things were possible, my last six years would been lived differently......
Good luck...
2007-08-10 19:20:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Consider yourself saved from a sleazebag. Didn't know about the arranged marriage? PUHlease!! He's a guy and in India men are pretty much allowed to do whatever they want, he could refuse to go through with this marriage. Not to mention, he shoulda been man enough to tell his parents he wasn't interested and had a girlfriend.
If this guy really cared about you, he wouldn't use that as such a lame excuse and would downright refuse. He DID know a long time ago.
I don't think this guy is going to get a divorce. I have noticed that many guys from traditional families or cultures (India especially) like to date American women and "sow their wild oats" because they could, and then when they want to get married, they go ahead with an arranged marriage so they can marry some girl who is a virgin and will pop out babies and be the good housewife.
I wouldn't bother trying to convince him of getting a divorce. Consider yourself a free woman and be glad you're rid of him. Find a guy who will be honest with you and the other people he cares for in his life from the very start.
2007-08-10 19:23:02 · answer #2 · answered by Flowergardener 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i don't have a good answer for your specific question, but something like that happened to my boyfriend about a month and a half ago.
He's been my boyfriend for about a year now. He came to the US for the summer to spend time with me and make a little extra cash (unfortunately, his work contract is in another state). His parents called and told him "come home, we have arranged a marriage between you and your cousin." Naturally, he resisted, but this resulted in an ultimatum of "dump your American gf or dump us." So for a month or so, he struggled with this and we temporarily broke up. Pretty horrible time for both of us. Anyway, after a month he broke off the coerced engagement and told his family to sod off. We're together again.
Good luck!
2007-08-10 19:22:40 · answer #3 · answered by Rach 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should be right.Some boys leave every thing to their parents,thinking and believing that his parents know more than him about the type of girl who should be his wife.Mind you,it works because the couple believes so and make it work that way.
2007-08-10 19:22:58 · answer #4 · answered by brkshandilya 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
man, that sucks. i think they dont tell the groom until right before so... thats normal. i dont know about the diverose. but.. they r already seperating? thats good for u!!!
2007-08-10 19:20:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure that guy wanna get married?
2007-08-10 19:19:16 · answer #6 · answered by Rain 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋