2007-08-10 18:22:03 · 14 answers · asked by Pinkie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
A term that my home has used often which you may have heard "It was the best of times, it was the worst of times".. let's start with the best... my dad would reach the highest highs, condos on padre island, the world was at his fingertips.. life was great, he'd convince himself he was well,.. he'd cheat on a pill here and there.. eventually go off the meds, downward slide.. the worst of times, he sold everything we had, decided the world was not worth being part of and walked out the front door, literally, walking into the sunset.. police picked him up, 30 days in waco, tx VA hosp on morphine, back on the meds, packed up off we go.. wheee!
My dad died of a heart attack at 40.. after that, life became more balanced.
My life was a rollercoaster ride.. my mom laughs that she was never loved so much, nor hurt so bad.
2007-08-10 18:30:31 · answer #1 · answered by Wildflower 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Consequences as in how will effect you?
I suggest you go to your local bookstore and read up on Bipolar disease.
It is manageable with medication and behavioral modifications.
But, the bottom line is are you compatible & capable of living with someone who has more than the average challenges that life bestows upon all of us.
If you're not educated in regards to the personality manifestions of bipolar disease and not mature enought o be kind & loving to the nth degree. You will do yourslef a big favor admitting it before the I, do's rather than after.
Seriously eduacte your self on the disease and see if you've got what it takes ..
Because it will challenge you. On a daily basis.
Good luck & I hope that my words are of some help.
2007-08-11 01:33:04 · answer #2 · answered by Brains & Beauty 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My dear friend of 21 years is bipolar and her husband has lived a rollercoaster for all of that time. As have her close friends. It is a commitment that should be made only after some counselling so the mentally un-handicapped partner can understand the full extent of this disease.
2007-08-11 01:55:37 · answer #3 · answered by dizzkat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is something close to my heart. My ex-gf was diagnosd after we were dating. I stayed true to her by accepting who she was, cared and loved her.When she was on meds,things seemed normal but she stopped taking them due to a business trip in which she had to be upbeat while presenting to her customer.She ended up sleeping with a coworker (hypersexual symptoms).I was with her for a year and a half. All the symptoms manifested itself during our time together.I did my best to understand her illness by researching and reading books and how I can be her support structure.At the end, the illness killed our relationship.It's like a "Runaway Freight Train" when they are having an episode.I convinced myself she was my soulmate but at the end I am glad things ended the way they did becuz if we got married, we wouldve have been divorced shortly after. Good luck.
2007-08-11 11:07:39 · answer #4 · answered by rtflier 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it depends if they have a control on their bipolar. If you love them, then it shouldn't matter. They'll need your love and support, and your continuous common sense. But it isn't a terrible thing. Everyone has weird little things about their moods, and it's just a part of marriage to accommodate and take care of the other person.
basically, if they don't have a hold on it, there will be highs and lows, more extreme than others. if you're not sure, I wouldn't do it.
2007-08-11 01:56:57 · answer #5 · answered by Stephanie 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You may not know who you are marrying. My husband's bipolar came out full force after we married and makes hell for our son and I. He refuses treatment. It is headed for divorce. I am also bipolar, but received treatment and am now stable with no bipolar symptoms most of the time.
2007-08-11 01:39:21 · answer #6 · answered by Mommy Girl 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Most of the difficulties I've described in other answers.
Life with a bipolar spouse can be sheer TORTURE.....
But only if the bipolar partner regularly refuses medication!
2007-08-11 01:26:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
If they do not take their medication they will have all kinds of mood swings. One minute perfectly happy with you the next hating you and your marrage. It can be confusing and difficult to live with.
2007-08-11 01:32:32 · answer #8 · answered by Kristin R 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
In my case, it was divorce.
Has he been diagnosed by a professional or just anecdotally? Is he on treatment? is he compliant with his meds? Do you have any experience dealing with people with mental illness? How does your medical coverage deal with psychiatric care?
Good luck.
2007-08-11 01:27:42 · answer #9 · answered by KR 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
As long as they take their meds they're ok.
The problem is some of them stop and that's when the trouble begins.
2007-08-11 01:58:56 · answer #10 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋