I just lost my job 2 days ago and my wife told me tonight that she wants a divorce - help.?

Answer 1

Aww, I am sorry for your loss..that means sorry you lost your job..as for her- F*ck the b*tch..make sure she doesn't clean up your bank acct as we speak b4 she files for papers!

Answer 2

why does your wife want a divorce? Is she having an affair and now affraid since you've lost your job, you'll have the time to catch her?
I'm sorry to hear you have lost your job. I lost 3 jobs last year in Mortgage Banking. It is hard considering I am on one income.

Take one thing at a time. Find out the real reason (if you don't already know) she wants a divorce. The reason I ask this, is because I find her timing to tell you now is very suspicious. Get to the bottom of that one right now. Keep your nose up and your chin down and remember one thing...both can be replaced.

Answer 3

Life is a sh*t hole. Keep chuggin through it and things should work out in the end. Jobs come and go, divorce is almost a badge of honor, and there is no control over what happens outside of yourself. The best thing to do now is focus on getting a job and getting your life together. Good luck and know that you are not the only person in this position, there are plenty of people out there (on both sides of the coin) that could be future friends, spouses, or just crutches for what is to come.

Answer 4

Dear Lost,
I'm sorry to read of your terrible news.
A few questions come to mind-
Did you see either of these two things coming ?
Logically, you need to step into action regarding your unemployment do not make the mistake of sinking into depression & getting lazy about finding another job.
If you start to go down now...It will be harder to pick yourself up later. Are you eligible for unemployment ? Do you have an contacts where you can get the word outthat you've lost your job , and see if anyone is hiring temp or part time ?
No job is goingto come knocking on your door.
If you're a veteran of any of the Armed Forces go to you local Veterans Affairs office you will be happily surprised to see the support availble to you. Also, FYI college campus's even community college campuses have job placement centers. Worth checking out.
Take one day and have a pity party if ya need to but then swing into action. It's critical if you don't want to go down with the ship.
Without knowing the details which led up to your wife asking for a divorce I can't be specififc with any suggestions.
But, I do know that you need a support system, friends, family etc..even counseling if you want a professional assessment which can't hurt.
Many therapists charge on a sliding fee scale based on income levels. So, I would recommend you at least look into it. It's defintely a time of tramsition for you. And one I'm sure marked with many overwhelming feelings.
Time to take care of you. Reach out..to friends , family, church; your community for support. Often in times of upheavel windows and doors open up for us that we may never have noticed before.
On, a personal note please , for your own well being do not drown your sorrows in alcohol. It is a depressent...and once the buzz wears off...you will spiral slowly down.
As, friend I can tell you this I have been knocked down many a time and know how frightening it can be. The best thing you can do is to try to see the silver lining as you work through the process of confusion, hurt, etc.
For myself , when ever I picked myself up opportunites arose that were beyond my wildest imagination.
Life is never going to be perfect.
But I believe we can either let the disappointments swallow us up (get to us) and wallow in the pain or move forward and see what unexpected lovely pleasures are in store for us.
I'm praying for you.
And, sending you a 360 hug..
For what it's worth.

Answer 5

I know you left out the best part of why she wants a divorce right? NO wife would want a divorce just because her husband lost his job, so i know there is more to this story.. Come clean and say the rest of the story

Answer 6

If your wife wants a divorce, you must have
done some pretty bad stuff. Losing your job
just brought it to a head. So she wants out,
not because you lost your job, but all of the
other sh*t you've done over the years.

Answer 7

she not being understanding. sounds like a gold digger. however, things happen for a reason and this shows her true colours. u need to leave her anyway but its hard to try and leave. jus pray and seek counselling if its really that bad for u. i know you're stressed even more now. i hope u have already started looking for a job.

Answer 8

In all honesty, she has been waiting for a reason to say those words for awhile and she is desperate so the whole I lost my job issue was good enough for her. I say let her go, and find yourself someone who is MATURE and be happy. It will be hard, but you will get through it. I doubt that she wanted the marriage to last, or she would have at least given you sufficient time to find employment. Don't let her hurt you more than need be, let her leave, grieve and move on!!!!!!!! GOOD LUCK!!

Answer 9

talk 2 ur wife & ask why. if u can make it up 2 her than do. buy her chocolate & flowers. try 2 get a better job. if it means going back 2 school than by all means, do!do whatever it takes. try 2 fix it!

Answer 10

ask her why... is it something she has been thinking about for a long time or did she just make her mind up now your broke.. if is the the later of the two. be glad.. atleast you did not happen when your fifty.. at least i hope it did not ...if is the first of the two ask her why she did not tell you there were promblems and try to slove them together.i hope things work out for you.. but if you can win her back by buying her flowers and candy as the other person said.. then she is not worth having..

Answer 11

Get a new job as quickly as possible so you'll have enough money to be able to pay for your divorce lawyer.