Before someone starts to worry, or look for a punch line: My sister had colon cancer. Fortunately, it was easily handled with minor surgery, and now shows to be completely clear. I saw the original scope images, and never even considered anything worse than that. OK then, when she told me all I could think was possible medical and surgical scenarios. I know that what I told her, including descriptions of the most common procedures, calmed her by taking the fear of the unknown away. However, I felt no more emotional attachment than I did for the patients I worked on in surgery in the past. Now that I know that she's doing well, it is really bothering me that I stayed so calm, even when alone. I feel like the normal response would be to get upset, angry... something. Any thoughts?
2007-08-10 17:50:42 · 6 answers · asked by Enigma®Ragnarökin' 7 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
When I found out my husband had cancer, I was an emotional wreck. On the other hand, when I told my brothers about my heart conditions, they reacted the same as you. I even had to have several surgeries. I guess the answer would be that everyone reacts differently to all situations. Some people show no emotions, while some overreact. You probably had the upper hand in this one, you stood strong, without making her worry more.
2007-08-10 17:58:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I have always felt this way. It used to bother me. Most people are upset, but personally, I see everything as a part of life. You win some you lose some. Nothing bothers me emotionally. My grandma had cancer for 5 years before passing away. I had to pretend to be upset, when in actuality it didn;t bother me. I felt no sadness at all.
I wouldn;t let it bother you at all. Some people are emotional and some are not.
2007-08-10 17:58:08 · answer #2 · answered by billyandgaby 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-02 02:17:46 · answer #3 · answered by belvin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't feel bad, she needed your calm answers. How do you think she would have been if you were acting all emotional...it would have made her worry more. You did good for her.
2007-08-10 17:59:57 · answer #4 · answered by tx_mstry_lady 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just be there you will have your time when it hits you...your attachment may not be strong but your help will be guiding.... she needs you to stay focus which I think it sounds like you are.. spend some quality time with her . believe me you will wish you did in years to come,,,,thinking of you and your strength
2007-08-10 18:01:23 · answer #5 · answered by phantom 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My God i've never pondered this before; i would try to be right there for them , for whatever they might need to feel better...i would give all of myself to the cause.
2007-08-10 18:10:02 · answer #6 · answered by dethvegetable 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋