But he talks to his baby's momma (kid is 16) everyday. He thinks that it's okay for him to deal with his ex but he told me that if I went into (a legit) business with an ex that he would leave me. Does that sound like doubles standards to you? Should I let him leave?
2007-08-10 17:45:16 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I forgot to mention that I asked my boyfriend to go into business with me FIRST but when he said that he wouldn't then I asked him how he would feel if I asked this guy that was already experienced in the industry (who I dated for a spell at one time).
2007-08-10 18:19:41 · update #1
He has a child with his ex, why- do you have a child with your ex?
2007-08-10 17:49:52 · answer #1 · answered by contessa 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It is a double standard. He is insecure. What can you do? Take a break from each other and ask yourself what you want out of life. His baby's momma will always be his baby's momma. You have a choice about whether to go into business with your ex. He's trying to make your decisions for you if he's threatening to break up with your over this. So think a lot about what it is you want.
2007-08-11 00:51:16 · answer #2 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, there's two sides here. You really can't put him talking to his ex as a comparison because he has a child with her and it's kinda hard to stop contact with a person that has your child. At the same time, he shouldn't be asking you to give up a business because of insecurities. If this is a real business opportunity with great potential, don't let him get in the way of that. Good luck
2007-08-11 00:57:21 · answer #3 · answered by Bethy C 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no, that is not double standards... the difference is that they share a child together, and whether u like it or not, they have to talk to each other. U don't have to talk to your ex, nor do u have to go into business with him. But does your current boyfriend and his ex SEE each other everyday. U would probably end up seeing a lot of your ex. I see his point, it is a huge difference. Not to be mean, but when u share a child with someone, there is no avoiding them. Going into business with your ex is a huge deal. If you love your boyfriend enough then u need to honor his wishes.
2007-08-11 00:52:13 · answer #4 · answered by cari210kel 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think it sounds like a double standard. Do you have romantic feelings toward your ex or is this going into business something that you really want to do? If this is something you really want then I wouldn't let him stand in the way. If this is something that is going to make you happy then I say you should do it. Your boyfriend is a grown man and if he is to insecure to realize what he has with you then I say let him go. Think about what is going to make you happy, and if he can't support you in this then he isn't thinking of your happiness. It's all about what you really want girl....
2007-08-11 00:55:55 · answer #5 · answered by maria 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't particularly think going into business with an ex is a great idea either. Still, this is also clearly a double standard. Tell him ok, I won't go into business with my ex but you also have to stop talking to your ex (he can still see the kid with minimal contact with his ex).
What good for the goose (gal) is good for the gander (guy). Man I'm just full of sayings tonight.
2007-08-11 00:49:40 · answer #6 · answered by Slumlord 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You both stop having any dealings with your exes and he has to agree to go into business with you. His kid is 16, he can deal directly with her. Or tell him to hit the road.
2007-08-11 01:39:03 · answer #7 · answered by dizzkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
did you not bring this to his attention? You need to speak and let him know this is not right to tell you what you shouldn't do and he does it himself. If you did in the being about him talking everyday with his ex's he wouldn't said much about your ex's. In this situation, since he talk to his ex's every day then he should return to her. And you go on with your life without the ******.
2007-08-11 01:06:07 · answer #8 · answered by Thomas 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it does sound like a double standard but one would need specifics about each ex to determine if it really is.
2007-08-11 01:08:54 · answer #9 · answered by Goodspeed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, that's being double standard to me! He's being unfair about it. You should talk to him let hi mknow how you feel. If it's ok for him to deal with hes ex, then it should be ok for you too??? zThat's being immature on hes part!
Goodluck!
2007-08-11 01:11:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
if your boyfriend loves you then he will let you go in to the business but it sound like that he is not letting you so just let him leave you and find someone who can trust you
2007-08-11 00:51:01 · answer #11 · answered by roxy 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋