Our foreplay use to be alot of him kissing me and touching, but for the last year or so evertime we go o have sex he wants me to begin by sucking him. I like it sometimes, but sometimes I don't want to do it and he like expects it and i feel if i turn him down he'll be mad or rejected and won't want to cotinue to have sex. YES i've sharred this with him when we'r not in the middle of sex and he says he's sorry and i don't have to do it if i don't want to, but the next time we're intimate he's putting in my face again. And just to mention this...he refuses to perform oral on me! What do i do?
2007-08-10 17:38:59 · 17 answers · asked by slingmama 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sweetie its a two way street when it comes to forplay, not to forplay will is just sex. Thank you I am gone stuff. Have you asked your self why you dont feel like it? Sometimes its like that, just dont feel like it,, you both should not do oral, ( i cant believe I said that) There are other ways to perform forplay. He should realize that and work together for a perfect union. As far as oral, personally I love it, but I work with my partner in give what she wants and she intern will find a way to do the same for me. Just ask him if he wants to make love or just sex. Oh yes and the same thing you should be asking yourself. No matter always make each other happy!
2007-08-10 17:51:18 · answer #1 · answered by vicwhit 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Blowing him first sure cuts down on how long he will last during intercourse unless he has incredible will power. Or can get it up again a second time?
When he goes to pull your face to his nether regions, pull away and say no, let's try this and kiss him. Or tell him if he wants that, then he can do it for you at the same time and turn around so he faces your girly parts.....see what he does.
I would have a hard time doing oral on him if he won't at least try to do it for me. Hope you find something that works for both of you!
2007-08-10 19:47:55 · answer #2 · answered by dizzkat 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
start "accidental" letting your teeth glide across Mr. Johnson.
or entice him with other things... men love breasts (usually) get your gals involved.
And honestly, I understand your worried about him feeling rejected. but what about your feelings? Does it make you feel rejected that he expects to receive oral --- what about feeling reject because you feel like you have to do it for him but there's no reciprocation.
He's obviously not concerned with your feelings on this matter if you've discussed it and it's being continued.
What I'm trying to say is: If you don't pay attention to yourself, your feelings, and your thoughts on sex, who's going to do it?
Do you really want to continue on this way FOREVER?
You really need to take a stand or you'll learn to resent your marriage and your husband.... and that's a lot to swallow over a bl0w job. (pun intended)
2007-08-10 17:49:18 · answer #3 · answered by stifflergal 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
gee how sweet your man likes his penis sucked but will not perform oral on u and i had a guy like that but it was my choice to blow him which i didnt mind but i think men need to know women love oral also i was wondering if my x was into men or something i even asked him he even like to give it to me in the back door weird gl to ya honey
2007-08-10 18:15:43 · answer #4 · answered by jewels 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him how you feel again. Then don't do it if you don't want to. I would stop for a while and I will bet that he begins to give you oral again.
2007-08-10 17:43:44 · answer #5 · answered by Mat 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to talk about it not during sex. If you don't have open clear lines of communication, it will get worse and worse. Men are dumb. You have to be direct and to the point...but not during sex. Do it over dinner or better yet drinks.
2007-08-10 17:44:59 · answer #6 · answered by working man 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Ok, now this is easy. No head for you, no head for him. that is it. You tell him he has to perform for you first, then when YOU think he has done a good job, you return the head.
What the heck.... he doesn't go down???? and you married him?
2007-08-10 17:57:05 · answer #7 · answered by Patrick G 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He refuses to give you oral sex? WTF!
I don't know what else to say.
I'd definitely stop giving him head that's for sure.
2007-08-10 18:07:15 · answer #8 · answered by ? 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
what you need to do is find a balance. why don't you dominate him once and a while and make him do the things that you want him to.... and if he acts right give him a little something in return... hope that helps
2007-08-10 17:51:31 · answer #9 · answered by catpowerrules 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
welcome to the club!! sometimes he is affectionate first, but most of the time, he just reveals it and expects me to go to town sucking. Tell him he wont get any at all if he doesn't return the favor.see how fast things change.
2007-08-10 17:47:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋