I am not allowed to date until im 18 i am 13 now soo what is your personal takes on this?
2007-08-10 17:33:01 · 24 answers · asked by BINGA 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Mine aren't anywhere near this age yet.
When it comes to dating though, I think the point is to start your child off slow in the group dates.
Then making an actual decision about the age that dating will be allowed is a seperate issue. I would have to look at the level of maturity, responsbility, as well as esteem level of my child. Their relationship with us, their parents. The people they are interested in dating, hanging out with. Their level of honesty, and their morals and value system. At 16 - 18 a teen has their own values and morals. Not what their parents taught them. So it would be a big decision to if and when they are ready.
I know it's not what you wanted to hear, and I'm sorry. But honestly, your parents are telling you this because they know more about how the world can be and the dangers that are out there.
You don't need to worry about this "decision" currently as you have some time before you get there. When it is time, then you would need to have a mature adult discussion with them.
2007-08-10 17:53:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Wonder why your parents are being so strict? Most parents make decisions based on their own personal experiences...
Remember...your parents were already 13, 14, 15, 16, 17 and the magical 18! They know some things about life and dating that you do not yet know.
They have fears and expectations that may not be all the way rational because they want more than anything to protect you.
I bet they won't really make you wait that long to date....you're so young now, and if you are an only child or the oldest out of all your siblings....you're the first to receive rules. Not fun, I know...but just make sure that you gain their trust...also, see if they'll let you go to public places with a co-ed group of friends.
I let my 14 year old son go in public places only with his guy and girlfriends...no one on one! The world we live in is not the one your parents grew up with...it's far worse! Girls call our house inviting my son over....even calling at 1am! Most of the girls at his school dress like they're 25 instead of 13 or 14.
Parents have their hands full.....just show them they can trust you...always keep in touch with them when you go with your friends. Choose responsible friends and act responsibly at home...they'll loosen up a bit over the next year or so.
Good Luck!
2007-08-11 00:52:41 · answer #2 · answered by weebleswobble 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would say 13 is a bit on the Young side to start dating. I know now a days, kids are dating at that age. I think you have alot of life time ahead of you to get into a relationship. (Mind body and soul) but 13 is too young. I would say perhaps 16 would be a good age to start thinking of dating~ And at that time, your parents can lay down some curfew rules etc..more responsibility that can be handled at 16.
Sorry to say ,but at 13 it would have to be only........emails or a phone call here and there unless you see each other at school, will have to do for now. Take your time, trust me and you'll thank me later on in life*~:) Keep on Smilin* You'll get through the teen years*
2007-08-11 00:42:22 · answer #3 · answered by friskymisty01 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
18 is a little extreme. My daughter's 7, I think 16 is a good age to date. At least you're old enough to drive.
Looks like these aren't the answers that some wanted to hear!
2007-08-11 02:38:16 · answer #4 · answered by mattz_grrl 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I allowed my kids to date at 16. Before that, they went out in groups.
2007-08-11 00:38:15 · answer #5 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think it would depend on the child to be honest, and I'll cross that bridge when I get to it.
It's bizarre to me that some parents will trust their 16yrs old to get behind the wheel of a car but think they need to wait another 2yrs before they are responsible enough for a girlfriend/boyfriend?
2007-08-11 01:58:27 · answer #6 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think it should be 16. Some cultures may think it should be 18. Maybe that is the case with you..Who knows if you work hard in school and be respectful to your parents maybe they will lower the age. Whatever you do don't argue with them.
2007-08-11 00:43:36 · answer #7 · answered by Cinnamon 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I would say 16. 18 sounds too restrictive. You need to live a little of your teen years!
2007-08-11 00:41:39 · answer #8 · answered by Empress1 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
My daughter is almost 13 and I think that a good age is 16...with very close supervision
2007-08-11 00:42:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
18 is a bit harsh. i will allow my children to date at 16.
2007-08-11 00:36:13 · answer #10 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋