Do you have a code of ethics?

Question

While philosophies offer ethics on how we should live our lives, I propose that our intrapersonal relationship far outweighs all else.

How does the "I" treat the "me"? With dignity and respect, or with contempt and disdain? Do we speak kindly to ourselves, or speak hurtful, cruel and ugly comments? Do we judge ourselves harshly, or allow ourselves to be humans who learn and grow over time?

Your thoughts?

Answer 1

Yes. Some people are too hard on themselves (usually achievers) and some people are far too easy on themselves (slackers).

Answer 2

There is a saying "You only live once so live many times" and in reply to it someone said "Only cowards live many times" in reference to the example and how it relates to dignity and respect. The initial quote referred to the fact that once we seclude our selves to be the leader or the follower we live all our life the same way, by living many times it was meant to be all the things that you want so you can see trough others. The reply is meant to hurt the dignity that the first individual brought with the quote to been ok if you choose to vary from been perfect, and the reply disrespects the views of the individual of the first quote towards speaking of ones self. I have always believed that we will not be happy until we first accept ourself as what we really are, lairs, cheaters, good hearted, angels, or what ever we truly are, and no one knows but our selves. As for judging our selves as you would expect from the previous we talk highly of our selves even when we think we are putting our selves down, there are always instances of been perfect to ourselves. Is in our nature to learn but for the most part grow to ourself and our vanity to share what we learn making sure it is our view. Good example Einstein not a vain man or a greedy man but subconsciously he made sure no one will forget who he was. Good luck on your venture and may we meet again and hopefully have the answer to how to accept ourselves for what we are..

Answer 3

Hmmm. I treat me quite well actually since I do for me, and try to have whatever that is be kind to all else I am in contact with directly or indirectly. I speak kindly to myself, but always with a firmness and urgency which is how I remain motivated to build or increase to a better or higher state of being. I judge myself usually not by criteria that I set, but by that which has and always shall be devine truth as prescribed by the God I serve. Otherwise, I usually don't judge, myself or others, because it is not,for the most part, for me to do. I am in agreement with myself, and comfortable with my state of being...what about you?...

Answer 4

I really like your thoughts. I think the way you treat yourself may speak volumes for the way you view the world in it's whole. Then again, there are those people who don't even know they're being caustic when they are.

I've been told that I can be difficult and stubborn, caustic at times but my perspective on life is very positive and I deeply love those around me. I do however feel I treat myself the same way. I can be pretty honest with myself too and I deeply respect anybody with the courage to be bluntly honest with me.

Answer 5

we should just all speak the truth to ourselves as much as possible if not all the time, should we not? we should judge ourselves harshly and crucially, i, myself have no patience for humanity as a whole. if everyone were to think of ourselves as progressing forward as a whole race rather than individual countries, then we would all be better along... it probably just has to do with the thoughts of greed, power and keeping "our god" on top, or at least our view of god

Answer 6

I tend to agree with you, if I'm not missing the point of the question completely. You can't treat others with respect if you don't treat yourself with respect first...is that what you're saying?

I believe that's true. We need to give ourselves positive feedback and have nice thoughts and accept ourselves for who we are before we can do that for anyone else.

LOL, if I'm missing the point, and you wanted to know our outlook on life...mine is something like, "If it ain't hurtin' nobody, then it's fine to be doin' it."

Answer 7

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This highly depends on the individual. There is no general standard.

The only thing I can say without being afraid that it's only an individual case is the fact that most people aren't aware of their selves. People have this tendency to adapt unconsciously to circumstances that they were born to. If we introduce a form of life in a structure while the form's awareness is not yet awoken, the form will most likely accept the circumstances and background as something natural and innate. It won't question anything, it will simply make its way through life.

If you're placed in a box and the lid is put on before you have the chance to wake up, when you wake up you will simply accept the surroundings as something natural. You can't wonder whether there is something else out there, outside the box, since you've never been in contact with any other form but the box. In fact, you can't even be aware of the existence of the box. All you see is a shape, a structure that forms your life. Unless you can go outside the norms and look at your standing point from afar, you can't even became aware of the fact that you live in a box. To the conscious mind that has never been familiar with any other presence than the background it was placed in since creation, the box is merely an environment that's not supposed to be questioned because we have this innate perception that tells us all merely is...

Mentality works according to the same standards. That's why people do not properly perceive the intra personal relationship. Most individuals look at the selves as something that merely exists as an unity, not as an individual part. They're not aware of the presence of their own selves since they can only see the self through conscious filters of perception.

Contrary to popular belief which states that believing in individual, detached selves can lead to personality disorders, I believe people should re-analyze their selves as different personas. Seeing themselves as an unity, especially an autonomous unity, can lead to far worse problems.
For example, when an individual believes that his/her being forms an unity and that every thought and opinion he/she has comes naturally from him/her, instead of acknowledging the contribution of environmental factors and subliminal factors to the self, the individual can develop a distinct sense of individuality. This sense of individuality excludes the existence of outer influence that would have the potential to flaw the original nature of the self. So it can have two ramifications: detachment from background/environment by means of a complex of superiority or detachment through a complex of inferiority.

People just aren't aware of the fact that they don't form one being. Truth be told, there are multiple selves inside of any personality, including social masks. Actions are a direct mirror of personality. Most individual act without being aware of the fact that when they act, they say something about themselves and they interact with their selves. Leaving a wrong impression purposefully is like damaging yourself directly. Every action is way of exposing our selves to the outer world, so it is a direct way of interacting with ourselves because as we act and show ourselves, we either nurture or damage our selves.

Answer 8

Complex question. I believe if the "I" doesn't treat the "me" benevolently and with dignity, I think it would lead to being Impertinent to yourself. We must permit one's self to be human and learn from our mistakes rather then judging ourselves callously. Learning as we grow is simply, and truly a part of what being human is.

Answer 9

Try taking an anatomy and physiology class. Slitting the jugular is the quickest way to kill just about any mammal on earth (including humans and cattle), not to mention the least painful, as unconsciousness is practically instantaneous due to the sudden drop in blood pressure.

Answer 10

me, myself and I are equal. we respect each other much, although sometimes disdain another when acting foolish etc. we know we are needed to each other, so speak kindly. but sometimes are cruel with ugly comments when disagreements come along.
all and all we are three good buddies, loving each other and judging another for best possible growth.

Answer 11

first of all, rid your mind of religion and everything you've ever been told. seriously. and remember this is diffcult. unprogramming is key. Then just ask your self, do you think what you're doing is right or wrong. what you do comes down to your view point alone. sometimes things you do will be wrong but will be justifiable. somethings would technically be the right thing to do, but a totally a ss move. follow your soul... read something by Osho... seriously. :)