I cannot live without her.?

Question

Yes, another one of these. I made a stupid, stupid decision and am really paying for it.
I can't live without my (now ex) girlfriend. She says she doesn't feel the same anymore and is moving interstate.

I haven't been this sad in my life, the nights I do sleep, I cry myself to slumber.
She helped me out of a terrible stage in my life, everything I do, and everything I have reminds me of her. I really cannot live without her, what the hell do I do? :(

Answer 1

Sometimes stupid decisions come back to kick us in the butt.

I'm sorry, I know that doesn't help but in all seriousness it seems that since she helped you out of a terrible stage during your life, you were quite dependent on her .

Like someone has already stated, its going to take time. At first, I was going to suggest packing things away that reminded you of her, but in reality, that won't help. You're going to have to move through this at your own speed.

If sad music makes your heart sink, put on something that gets your feet to moving and go ahead, dance around like a fool. Laugh at yourself. Spend time with friends and family. Laugh together. Cry together.

Nothing any of us can tell you will help for longer than a moment. It's the quiet times that will get you, fill your life with things that make you happy and before you know it, you will have grown past the worst of the pain.

What ever you do, accept that things are over and begin to move forward. Once you have, after a while, you can look back and see that you were standing still & be proud of the progress you have made. Perhaps what you're going thru now is preparing you for better things to come. You never know. Think about it.

You have to go through the hurt to get to the peace. You will grow from this. Growth is rarely comfortable.

Answer 2

If we allowed every stupid decision we make to take over our future, there would not be a human being on this planet that could face the day with a smile. Your first sentence says it all. You made a stupid decision and now you are paying for it.

Emotional pain seems like it will never end...but take it from someone who has been there....you will get through it...and come out a better and stronger person in the end. Allow yourself to grieve...but do not wallow in self pity. I know it may sound trite, but it is also true...that the darkest hour comes just before dawn. The future will come....all you have to do is give it some time. You may never be totally over the pain...but if you let it...happiness will come again. This one bad decision can ruin your life....but ONLY IF YOU LET IT.

Answer 3

you prove to her in every way you can, every single day that you love her and that you life is not complete. You show her that you are so sorry for the pain you caused her, if she loves you, she will know the pain, unless you cheated on her. If you did not cheat you could win her back, but the likely hood of her taking back a liar and a cheat are some what slimmer. Tell her how much pain you feel, that you are willing to do whatever she needs you to do to prove your love (within reason) Write her a poem/song, send her flowers, ask if she needs anything done around her new place. Scream it from the tops of mountains, do not be ashamed of you love for her, if your friends think you are a whimp, oh well let her know that no one, or nothing compares to the love you have for her, and that only death could change the love in your heart for her, let her know she is your heaven, give her back the love you once recieved, maybe then she will be able to take you back, remind her we all get confused, some of us just come back to reality before others. Just prove to her your not like all the other guys shes trusted before. Good luck, someone who knows pain!

Answer 4

Unless this is a dead man posing this question, then yes you can live without her. And you can and will find the same joy and happiness that you had with her with someone else. Stop being so soft dude. That's the great thing about life , you always get a second chance as long as you are willing. So you made a lasting mistake with this one, oh well. Learn from your mistake and don't let it happen in your next relationship. Get a pair my man , and ..yeah , while you're at it ..be a man.There are guys your age dieing in the war this very moment and you have the nerve to write about what/who you can't live without. Grow a pair will you.

Answer 5

You should realize that even though she helped you maybe what you should do is thank her for all she has done to help you and just let her be happy. If you hurt her even though people say time heals all wounds it does not. Nice thing to say but not true. somethings are not mendable and in true words like she said to you, she may not feel the same way about you because when you really hurt someone it can change their feelings for you whether they like it or not. Just thank her say goodbye and be happy she liked you once and dont make the same mistake again

Answer 6

All you can do is tell her how you feel and if she can not forgive you then you will have to get over it and learn from your mistakes so you do not repeat them. Life is hard and there are hard lesson to learn so stop feeling sorry for yourself and talk to her and if it does not work out then move on. There are alot of worsre things that could be happening to you so be thankful for what you have and accept that you may not get what you want this time.

Answer 7

Believe me you can do it. Time heals all wounds. You've got to get on with your life. Find yourself something to do. Go to counseling if you need it or join a group. You will be fine, just again it will take time. Good luck.

Answer 8

well, you made a mistake and it must have been bad? what did you do? Did you deserve to be left? Sounds like it. If so, you need to take it as a learning experience and NEVER do what you did again.

Answer 9

Whatever the case even if you hurt change that now.If you feel she is the only one that can make you happy in the whole wide world then marrry her.

Answer 10

Emotions.