When I was 19, I got involved with a man who was 36 (yes, he was married then). I loved him, but after about 3 months together, I broke things off. Still, over the next 3 years we hooked up with each other about once every couple of months. Sometimes more, sometimes less. We talked and laughed and loved. I was crazy about him and he was about me. I knew he could never leave his wife for me and I never asked him to. I always settled for what part of him I could get. When I was 22, I got married. This ended us for about 5 years. Then, we met up with each other again. I realized then that I still loved him very much. But, I had made a committment to my husband and I honored that committment. My problem is that I still love this other man. I think about him every day. I miss him so much sometimes that it breaks my heart. He called a couple of months ago and said he still loved me too. It's not about sex. We haven't had sex in 8 years. How do I get over him and move on?
2007-08-10 16:32:52 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We all have a one great love in our lives and sometimes it does not work out so we have to move on. If he wanted to be with you then he would have left his wife years ago. So you need to know that you deserve more than he can give you and move on. Do not waste your life on what could have been or should have been, find happiness in having someone in your life that loves you and is commited to you not someone else.
2007-08-10 16:49:44 · answer #1 · answered by tami j 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, for starters, stop talking with the other man! He's a creep and you WERE a creep for sleeping with a married man. Don't go back to being a creep again! You know he's not going to leave his wife. You already said that. Why waste your time and emotional energy on him? You need to focus that attention on your husband and stop playing the "what if?" game. It will only keep you dissatisfied and lead to an affair. Good luck!
2007-08-10 16:45:30 · answer #2 · answered by historybuff33 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl you are in a bind aren't you, it was okay before when you are not married,but now that you are and both of you are, its a big deal. your feelings for him even there's no sex involve is very emotional. Emotional affair is worst than physical affair. Your husband now do not deserve this from you, and why did you marry him in the place first place if you are still hook on this married man?
Your story is just like my husband story, he got involve with the married woman that he learned to love her and protect her. He didn't care if she is also married, what's important to him is to be with her, talk to her and all that jazz. So the ending of my husband emotional affair with this woman was bad, because even now she still bugs the **** out of me. Don't make this mistakes because it will not help you in a long run.......
2007-08-10 16:56:49 · answer #3 · answered by islandgirl06 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How would you feel if the situation were reversed?
Say you found out that your husband had a girl on the side that he hooked up with every couple of years for the majority of your marriage.
Then you found out that while he was married to you he was telling this other girl that he loved her.
It wouldn't feel good, would it?
Think about that the next time he contacts you or you think about contacting him.
2007-08-10 16:46:20 · answer #4 · answered by ncgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometime people get in the way. And it sounds like those people are his wife and your husband. Seize the opportunity you will regret it for the rest of your life if you dont and it fizzles away. If you havent even had sex in 8 years then you know is LOVE and dont let him go. you keep getting in eachothers lives and you are both with the wrong people. The only reason you arent together is because of what people would say and because it is not "right" HELL TO THAT !!!! HELL TO IT !!! who is to say it is not right. Did you know that in university sociology they teach that there really is no such thing as "normal" and that normal is different to everyone and that means that normal does not really exist. So why are you denying yourself your one true love for the worthless normalities of others. How many true love affairs would never have happened if people were held back because of present spouses or rights and wrongs. You will regret this one for the rest of you life. Question you should be asking is Can You Live With That.
2007-08-10 17:04:23 · answer #5 · answered by Lexeah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't fight true love...If it was meant to be then you should be together... But some people believe once a cheater always a cheater, so don't be surprised if Carma comes back to kick you in the ***.
2007-08-10 17:11:44 · answer #6 · answered by spaced out 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how unfair to your husband. does he know? anyway about moving on. its hard. well do you even want to move on? because talking to him isn't going to make it easier. stop talking to him. lose his number. change yours. if you REALLLLLLY want to do this, then you have to pull all the stops. tell him that your not like him, and you can't cheat on your spouse like its nothing. you want to honor it. and too little to late for him. he had 3 years to love and be with you. slowly you will get over it. but honestly it doesn;t sound like you want to.
2007-08-10 16:45:20 · answer #7 · answered by JEMismyname 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't call him or returm his calls, if he wasn't interested in making you his wife when you were single, it won't happen now!
2007-08-10 17:19:37 · answer #8 · answered by bikinibabewannabe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When youfigure ou that the atraction is sex. Yes, he wants sex. Deeper than that, he cannot and will not give. Grow up, sweetheart. He loves boinking you. Oh, it's love. For sure. But without the sex, what is it????
2007-08-10 16:45:53 · answer #9 · answered by JustAskin 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Prince Harry? Hmm... Maybe... Somehow, I get the feeling that you might need a certain ninja (me) to take the queen out so you can acquire his hand in marriage xD
2016-03-16 21:13:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋