I'm trying to determine what people think. I found a great lady and decided to marry her. She was in law school, so I moved across the country so she could finish after I quit a 6-figure income job. I have children in that state and they're young. I call them everyday. I have them out whenever I can. I pay my child support and alimony despite the fact that my ex left me. What do you think?
2007-08-10 16:15:44 · 12 answers · asked by PersonalImprov 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
wife is in law school, she doesn't make any money, she's not rich, (didn't move for money, moved because I liked her).
2007-08-10 16:57:27 · update #1
I understand why you did what you did, but I wish you would've stayed closer to your kids. Is there any chance of moving back closer in the future?
2007-08-10 16:18:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Personally i think you are crazy.Why did you leave your kids.They are only young once.You sacrificed your job,friends,and most importantly your kids for another woman.WOW.Personally you should of let her finish law school right where she was and if she still loved you,she would come to be with you.That would of been the true test to that love.It is very kind of you to pay your child support and alimony on time.Kudos to you.But as a father,you need to pack up your **** and live near your kids.What are you teaching them as a father.Pack up and move across the country for some love and forget everybody else.Stand up for yourself and them,they need you no matter what you say or do.
2007-08-10 23:27:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have a husband who moved away from his children to be with me. The guilt he feels sometimes makes me want to cry. He always tells me, follow your heart it will never steer you wrong. Having children and remarrying puts you into the Blended Family category. When ever something bothers me, it is basically because I don't understand it. I have read many books and have found sites on the internet using Blended Family Problems in my browser. There you will find that you aren't alone in your delima, that you are normal to feel the way that you do, and find alternative solutions to help keep both your children and you (also your wife) happy. I wish you the best, follow your heart and you will find that you are just where you should be.
2007-08-10 23:26:22 · answer #3 · answered by Kaboom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that child support payment is 100% necessary but some people seem to think it is an option they'd rather not exercise. No points for actually taking care of whats yours in this life. That is life and a precious priviledge. See your kids more often: they need you, Daddy. Lastly I think that what adults do does not dictate whether or not kids should be taken care of, based on your last sentence, it kinda sounds like you don't like giving money to your ex, but it is for the kids, just remember that. Stay blessed. Life gets better and better. Peace.
2007-08-10 23:21:20 · answer #4 · answered by Sleek 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you sound like a responsible person. I am sure you miss your kids, but since the wife left you, you are doing the best you can to go on with your life.
2007-08-10 23:19:04 · answer #5 · answered by Donna J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your children need there father, and you should have never moved so far away from them. Shame on you for placing your feelings before the feelings of your children.
But it is nothing years of therapy, substance abuse, and/or jail time won't help your children with when they are older.
2007-08-10 23:30:08 · answer #6 · answered by box of rain 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you aren't telling us the whole story (I know you aren't, there is not enough room) but I think that you and your lady friend could move back after she finishes law school. Really, I would ask your friends -- they know more about you and your situation.
2007-08-10 23:24:27 · answer #7 · answered by mj69catz 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have the kids come stay a month with you in the summer or a week at a time sometimes.
You can modify visitation w/ the court if your ex won't
agree and co-operate.
2007-08-10 23:23:58 · answer #8 · answered by relaxrx 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think there is nothing or noone that could take me away from my children.you left for a woman.your kids are a part of you,and you left for a woman with money?couldnt find one in the same state as your kids?thats unacceptable to me sorry,and they will feel the same way when they get older
2007-08-10 23:47:29 · answer #9 · answered by sleepy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with getting married again. Kudos for taking care of the children. Keep up the good work and do what makes you happy....
2007-08-10 23:20:02 · answer #10 · answered by RPrincess 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋