My ex is so cruel. He just came over to pick up the kids and told me that his girlfriend just lost a bunch of weight through weight watchers and now she's "too thin". I am on the heavy side. Me and my kids are living in a room together at my moms because he doesn't pay support and he told me that him and his girlfriend are going on a vacation. Then he told me that he is ripping up the deal that we signed for custody and everything and taking me to court all over again. He is a devil!!! How can I get over him once and for all??
2007-08-10 16:08:53 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Get a rebound.
2007-08-10 16:14:57 · answer #1 · answered by contessa 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do not respond to him in any way. Do not let him know you are hurt. Do not chat with this fool. Let him take you to court. When he begins to tell you these things, STOP him immediatly! Tell him, Uh, I when will you be dropping off the kids. IF he continues then shut the door after you say good bye. Who cares if this is rude. THis jerk is way behond rude to you. And you have some control over this rudness. Close your ears. Stop his words from comming out of his mouth by making yourself gone after he picks up kids. If this is to hard then have your mom or someone you trust come over during these ARRANGED visits and stay in the other room or away from his view till the kids are gone with him and his stinky girlfriend. This works best. Especially is he can't see you. This will drive him nuts because he has to find a new way to hurt you as he is hurting.
2007-08-10 23:19:16 · answer #2 · answered by beachgirl90 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put cotton in your ears and smile and nod your head next time you see him. Just make sure the kids are well taken care of but you will need to be supermom for them. Many of us Moms had to do it as single moms. Your day will come again but 1st stop allowing someone to make you feel sorry for yourself. Know your OWN worth honey. God loves you. Colossians 3:23 - and whatsoever you do, do it as unto God and NOT unto men. God can reward you when you TRY. Forget the jerk and remember, "Living well is the best revenge." Thank God for your dear sweet mamma and that you can live rent/mortgage free or low and go get yours honey. You can do it. My life has made a 180 and yours can too. Stay up like cream. Peace.
2007-08-10 23:17:09 · answer #3 · answered by Sleek 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
oh gosh. laugh at him please next time he says he is going to court and going to not pay child support or blah blah blah. cause he WILL pay they WILL make him! even if they have to garnish his wages. i would get him for EVERYTHING that he gets and make sure to tell the laywer that he wont pay or help out and he is planning on going on vacation. and make him pay cause he has the money not you. tell him right back next time he takes the kids say yeh im so excited im going on this date. when you dress up and show that your happy that is going to fire him up. cause of course he is going to be excited when his new girlfirend has lost wieght and just doesnt sit around an being unhappy. when you show that you have a life and is happy it will get to him and show that you can get him by getting everything he has. he will be suprised. i would go out on dates. that has alwyas helped me. an go work out. not to lose weight but you feel healthy and like you have energy and just feel good. try that k and i promise everything will be ok.
2007-08-11 00:04:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
start living for yourself! That are your goals & dreams. Ater 16 years of marriage I'm living for my kids and me. I'm going back to collage, I've lost weight and got a job.I'm setting a good example to my kids that you can plan the plan but not the outcome and when the outcome isn't what you had hope for ,pray ,addapted. adjust and move on!
2007-08-10 23:22:53 · answer #5 · answered by noteworthy5 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Read what you just wrote! Honey you deserve better! He doesn't pay child support & he's obviously trying to make you feel bad by talking about his girlfriends's weight loss. What a loser! Sorry but you can do better!
2007-08-10 23:16:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
file for divorce get a good lawyer the cost is well worth it been there done that and don't let this man bully you he is using how you feel against you its time to take off the blinders for your kids they deserve to be taken care of and the court will help you with that.good luck hon and hold your head up it will get better.
2007-08-10 23:21:43 · answer #7 · answered by patbgone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is there to get over, he is mean, and a deadbeat dad. Take him to court, he will lose money, custody and be ordered to pay child support. What a loser.
2007-08-10 23:14:21 · answer #8 · answered by Donna J 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Here is advice from a guy, yes get over him, any man who does not support his children is not a man. You need to believe in yourself and move on. Take care of yourself and your children, and yes document and document everything he says and does. Yes, he is mean and foolish. Move on, Life has so much more to offer you and your children.
wish you Luck
2007-08-11 00:06:37 · answer #9 · answered by Earl C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋