Okay, so there is a girl from my school who is speading nasty rumors and turnign people against me.What to do?

Question

She is so mean, she used to be my BFF. Then she found another "BFF" Kelsie. And Kelsie hates me so now Shannon hates me too. We are out of school right now but I dont wanna go back coz she is turning everyone against me and calling me anorexic coz Im skinny (Im a vegitarian) and a lesbian. IM NOT ONE! I dont know what to do she is so horrible!

I have a few friends like Nicole, Katie, Cody, Marc, Nathan, and Matt (there's more) but Im afraid they will hate me too after her. A lot of people like her coz of me, its like she used me to get popularity then dumped me.

But I dont want any answers like " ignore her-or try being nice" coz Ive done that already she just pissed me off more and called me a lez. I have tons of friends but like harly any of them so to my school. I really need help! Its to the point where I am about to change schools. School is gonna start in like 25 days so I need answer NOW! please help me!

Sorry for any misspellings Im shaking a lil bit.

Answer 1

whowww gurrrrl hold on....now maybe this gurl BFF kelsie is doin it caus she must be jealous. and don't let things like that get to you. if those people don't talk to you anymore don't let that either get to you. i mean its not the end of the world. they'll just forget in 25 days.....and if they don't talk to you. theres more people you can be friends with. just don't show that girl tht your scared of going back. show her you just dgaf. i know you can. :] just don't switch schools cause then it will leave people with the impression that what she says is true.

Answer 2

Hi, i respect the fact that you are a lesbian, and i cant believe your friend dont like you because your a lesbian, man, try talk to her, say that you feel unconfortable with her talking about you to her friends like that, and say that you hate the fact that she is trying to put everybody against you, tell her, that being a lesbian, doesnt change the person who you are, because you are afraid of loosing friends as well, so talk to your friends, that can give you good advice, and even help you. it must of feel really horrible to see someone talking to other people about you, and talking behind your back, tell her you want her to stop, because you never humiliated her like shes doing, your friend shouldnt talk about you just because your a lesbian, thats not a reason to create problems around you and her, sorry from bad spelling, or if this advice wasnt good enough, at least i tried.

Answer 3

Ok, this happened to my best friend. our "close friend" spread a rumor that she was racist which wasnt true & all the kids were turning her back on her & she was saying the exact same thing you've said with changing schools and stuff. heres how to deal with it:

make sure your parents are informed about the situation. on the first day of school see how things are. you said you had a few friends but you werent sure if they'd turn your back on you. if they are "true friends" they wont. if things get worse, & the rumor spreads more have your parents contact the guidence office at your school & let them be aware of the situation. they WANT to help you feel like your in a safe learning environment. & if your not, that's their job to change it.

tell your mom or whoever to tell them & they can schedule a meeting with your "ex" best friend. if you'd like to resolve it before school starts, i suggest you just call her up & tell her how you straight up feel. or even better- get your mom or dad to call HER & ask her what's going on! what's she gonna do? im sure she knows your parents pretty well if she was your bff. i dont know how old you are, but we were in 8th grade when this happened to my best friend. & im telling you exactly how she handled it.

whatever you do, just dont make up rumors about her, or say anything mean or that can get yourself into trouble. she is the immature one for saying that stuff. & just remember who your true friends are in life. & be careful b/c i know you heard it before & i'll say it again- girls can be b!+c#3$!!
hope this helped! & good luckk! & sorry for the horrible situation your putting up with!

Answer 4

When you are devoting yourself to your music, you will be above this sort of thing. and other people will not bother with doing things like this to you because they only do it to people they can get a rise out of. If your mind is too occupied with your music, you will not have time to worry with stupid things like this and your enemies will know this and they will waste their time on someone else that will care more about what they say. And you wont have to worry about losing any BFF's because when you have a life, the kind a musical instrument can give to you, and when you have talent, the kind other people wish they had, you wont have to worry about losing friends, because you will have too many friends to have time for anyways already. Other people want to be friends with talented people, and they also want to be friends with people that have a life, and music can give you that. But most of all, your guitar will be your best friend and it goes along the lines of "things come easy to you if you are not concentrating on them and trying too hard.." As to say that you will have more friends than you need when everyone knows you are not seeking a social scene and you are too busy with more important things to worry about them. They will want to be your freind because they cant stand it when you dont care if they come or go because your mind is occupied with things they wish they could do. Like play guitar. I am not saying to be a snob about it at all, Its just that when they see that it ruffles your feathers this much, it only encourages them, but when things like this seem to be too trivial for you because of something else in your life, they will not bother. Also, people are drawn to talented people and drawn to people that dont seem to need any more friends. And in the worst case, dont care if you have no friend or social life now at all, there will be plenty of time for that later on..now is the time to practice and to put all your focus and energy into getting good, so you will have a rich future...screw today and forget about the now if things arent going great socially, tomorrow is much more important than today, which should be spent concentrating on your talent.
Gossip and social issues seem not as important when you have better things on your mind, worry more about getting better well equipped to be a good famous musician, and you wont have to worry with things like this. These kind of worries are the kind of thing that will only get in your way of reaching your goals and they do nothing but tear you down if you add fuel to them by paying attention to them. They will fix themselves while you concentrate on self improvement. Which will make your life much more fulfilling than "who talked bad about me in the ninth grade" When you are older, it will mean much more to you about the "G7 chord I learned in the ninth grade" or "The first time I heard Stevie Ray Vaughn play guitar changed my life". These are the things that are important, later on you will not even remember this mean girls name..but you will remember the first time you learned how to tune a guitar, or the first time you learned how to play "sweet home alabama"........hope this helps, I know this isnt the answer you were looking for, but try to see beyond the trivial trials of today and not let them steal you attention from seeing the big picture. bye and sorry my answer is so long.....