We have a really good marriage but our communications skills suck.
2007-08-10 15:36:29 · 25 answers · asked by dohm84 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Dr. Phil's Relationship Rescue
2007-08-16 16:59:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Would a book actually take time away and contribute to your communication problems?
Seriously, you don't need a book to tell you how to communicate with each other. Only the two of you know each other best. Do things differently. It will provide a spark of interest. Then everything else will follow through.
2007-08-10 15:46:51 · answer #2 · answered by V-formation 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is the researcher that knows the most about communication patterns in marriage:
www.gottman.com
He has several books out based on his studies in his marriage lab in which real couples are taped while interacting (no, not that kind of interacting), then he analyzes the style of their fights and arguments and discussions, and tells them what they are doing wrong and what they are doing right.
I made it sound too dry, his books are readable and you can learn a lot. He's a decent writer.
2007-08-18 05:01:12 · answer #3 · answered by yyyyyy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try The Couple's Comfort Book.
2007-08-17 15:11:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anj 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This article is very good and it deals specifically on how to improve communication -
http://www.communication-software.com/communication-101.htm
Follow the simple steps, and while they seem basic it can be difficult in the heat of an argument or when communication is not currently happening. Take baby steps, you will get there!
2007-08-14 09:39:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no book or doctor out there that can tell you that! I dont care what anyone says! All you can do is TALK, strike up a conversation, or if you are fighting, dont raise your voice. But you already know that. If it is really bad, maybe its time for you two to have a heart to heart. Tell him what is going on and how you feel and ask for his opinion. Talk together about how you can improve. You cant do it alone or the conversation will be you trying and him not getting it then you getting mad. You'll feel like you are doing all the work. Just have a discussion about if you did ______he would talk more and if he did _________you would talk more...this needs attention from both of you and two willing attitudes for compromise!!! Good luck!!!
2007-08-10 15:48:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Communicate about what?
You need to go to some of those book stores that have communication games and they will help a lot, just to ask questions and then to answer them. Come to think of it, years ago there was a book entitled something like 1001 Questions ... it was a terrific place to begin.
2007-08-10 15:44:33 · answer #7 · answered by John B 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Christina,
No book will show you how to communicate better. Instead, why not find or better yet, make the time to talk about it. By being open about disscussing how the lack of communication is hurting or may hurt the relation, might help.
Tell him how you feel and ask him how he feels.
2007-08-18 09:33:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried marriage counseling? They can teach you the skills you need one on one and save you time in reading it. You'll get hands on training with a professional there to show what you are doing right and wrong.
2007-08-17 03:56:05 · answer #9 · answered by kystarlyte_kystarlight 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus.
Also, the Five Languages of Love is in general a good marriage book.
2007-08-10 15:41:29 · answer #10 · answered by KC 3 · 4⤊ 1⤋