i hate this in my hubby?

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its been constantly like this...he goes to work...works very hard and he sleeps....i work hard too but i have time for everything...or i make time...now its fri eve...and we both got homeearly and he went to bed like 6 pm and he wants to sleep through the nite...this happens all the time....i understand he is tired but what abt me...i want to go out...or catch a movie or do soemthing...but ....am very disappointed...all my family and my frds r in differnt country...my work frds have their own plans and have no one...how would u deal with this?its impossible for my hibby to understand how it feels as he thinks i make it miserabl for him if i expect anything from him....what would u do???i wonder how it will be in future???its been only 2 yrs sinc eour marriage...

Answer 1

just tell him how you feel. how old is he? 90? i mean who seriously goes to bed at 6pm on a friday?

tell him, you're going out. and what your plans are for that night. and that you would love for him to join you. or he can go to sleep. but he'll be missing out on some good company.

man rule #1: we don't know what you're thinking. if we ask you what's wrong, and you tell us nothing. we'll leave it at that. we don't take hints. subtle or obvious. if you want something, or need something, then tell us. so we can take care of you.

Answer 2

I was with a girl for 6yrs and worked a 10 to12 hr a day 6 days a week.She didn't work.I was a member of a Motorcycle Club and had to attend meetings twice a week.Needless to say I didn't get much sleep.Some people get into this rut or normal grind of life.You might want to sit him down and tell him just how much this is bothering you.If he cares about your feelings he'll listen.You should not feel like your a problem for him.Your his wife and you have some issues and that right.It sounds like he's making you miserable.So lets have two miserable people.Maybe plan something that will interest him for after work to show him that life isn't all work and no play.the next thing you know, life has past you by.Good luck

Answer 3

well if he got off of a long shift, like 11, 12 hours then he probably is exhausted so he should sleep.
since your both off tomorrow, why not do somthing in the afternoon when your both caught up on your sleep?
in the future? will there be kids involved? if so, then i would predict you will be in bed right next to him as soon as you can!
if he doesn't work long hours then he is being lazy and i would go wake him up and tell him you wanna go out or do somthing together. talk to him and open up about how you feel that is the only way things will change. if you just sit here and stew about it its only affecting you and he will still have no clue. so go wake him up and TALK!!
good luck!!
We are at the 2 year mark 2 and it was hard to get this far, thins are starting to smooth out for us now that our communication is a lot better.

Answer 4

Don't listen to Hugh Whatever his name is. He probably is sitting home collecting unemployment...

Anyway. I think you have to compromise a little maybe evey other Friday night he can sleep away and on the off Friday, you two can do something together. It has to be give and take. If you've only been married 2 years and already you're having this issue, perhaps counseling is in order. Sadly, if he thinks you make him miserable because you expect him to spend time with you, maybe he's not ready to be and stay married. I don't mean to sound like a downer but it's something you need to consider.

Answer 5

It really sounds like he has serious depression and needs to see a mental professional to get evaluated for this and possibly other emotional-behavioral disturbances and illnesses. If he refuses, try couples counseling. If he refuses, you go alone. If he gives you a hard time, see s divorce lawyer, because he's helpless.

You might consider the last stage if you're already out of Love and have no sympathy but i really think hes a mess upstairs.

Answer 6

The first step is to sit down and talk to him. Tell him you need more of his time in the evenings, even if it's not every night.

Tell him you'd like two special nights a week: One is a date night. Pick a night and tell him he is going on a date with you. Throughout the week, give him hints about some things you want to do with him.....

The second night is a family night. This is where you work on a project arond the house or even do the dishes together.

Answer 7

There is a book called the love languages. I think you two should really read it, but you need to read it together.

Also consider getting him to get a check up, there might be something going on medically that is causing him to sleep so much.

Answer 8

I've been married for 2 yrs as well and my hubby would do that sometimes. But we make plans early in the week about Friday/Saturday and i just wake him up if he falls asleep. If he's to tired to go then get together with some girlfiends and go out.

Answer 9

WELCOME TO MY WORLD DEAR! MY HUSBAND AND I HAVE BEEN MARRIED 32 YEARS...NOT ONLY DID HE WORK HARD SLEPT HARD HE SNORED REALLY LOUD! ABOUT 2 WEEKS INTO OUR MARRIAGE I THOUGHT WE WILL NEVER MAKE IT. I JUST WANTED TO PUT A PILLOW OVER HIS MOUTH SO I COULD GO TO SLEEP.. ANYHOW BACK TO YOUR QUESTION.. I LOVED TO BOWL,SHOOT POOL,DANCE,PLAY CARDS ,BOARD, GAMES.. NOPE NOT MY HUSBAND. WELL INSTED OF ME GIVING UP ON THE THINGS I LOVED TO DO I KEPT DOING THEM.... AND I LET HIM SLEEP... ALL THOUGH ONCE A WEEK USUALLY ON SATURDAY NIGHT WE WOULD DO SOMETHING TOGETHER USUALLY A MOVIE AN DINNER.THEN HE BECAME A TRUCK DRIVER NOW HES GONE ALL THE TIME SO I AM GLAD I KEPT MY OTHER INTEREST WE SPEND TIME TOGETHER STILL ON THE WEEKENDS 6 CHILDREN AN 14 GRANDCHILDREN LATER I,M GLAD WE HUNG IN. I LOVE HIM MORE NOW THEN EVER HANG IN THERE IT WILL WORK OUT DON,T WORRY ABOUT THE FUTURE LIFE CHANGES ON A MOMENT TO MOMENT BASIS....
BEST OF LUCK TO YOU GOD BLESS

Answer 10

You need to make plans with friends in advance on friday nights, sooner or later he will catch on that you are going out with or without him.