a question about parents?

Question

My parents have a constent watch over me. they always know what I'm doing, when i'm doing, and how i'm doing something. they both have strong opinions about the outside world and its "Bad Influences". It's soo bad, that i'm home-schooled, am not allowed 2 have ne friends, and I can't leave the house unless there r with me. ( they work from 9 to 9, mon- fri ) so during alll that time I am stuck in my house.... I have never done ANYTHING that may have caused this behavior, b/c i've been on a tight leash since I was born.

My brother however gets 2 do nething he wants, w/o the restrictions that I recieve. he doesn't have chores.....he's just spoiled!

I however have 2 do all the house work and all the chores...while they do nothing.

so i was wondering, what would cause them 2 treat me so? do they not like me? is it a gender issue ( i'm female )?

Can someone please help me come 2 a conclusion, on the ludacris behavior!!!
Am I wrong 2 feel that there is something wrong with this?

I AM in college but that doesn't mean i'm 18. i'm only 17

i get home-schooled @ nite.

Answer 1

Assuming you given us all the pertinent information, then yes there is something wrong with the situation. But, there is nothing wrong with you. I don't have a clue as to why your parents would make you do all the chores instead of sharing them with your brother. They might keep you on a tighter leash out of fear for your safety. I wish I could offer you some good advice, but all I can really tell you is to keep trying to prove to your parents that you are mature and responsible. And, remember that you will not be under their rule forever.

Answer 2

First of all you didn't mention your age or your brothers. We would need to know this to give a fair answer.
As for housework and that type thing its sad to say but a lot of parents seem to be in the old thoughts that its "womens" work....
Get some paper and when you do a chore...write it down and put the time down you began it. Do this for a couple days at least. Then ask your parents to sit with you that you would like to talk about chores and dividing up things. They have probably seen or heard of so many young people getting into drug problems, missing curfews, etc but they seem to be overly protective IF you are at least 16 and more.
Perhaps you could talk to the family doctor next time you go see him for a visit and get him to help you out on this problem...Is there any relative that they may listen to? Grandparents?
Am sorry, but without ages its hard to say. I just know that too many kids these days are let run wild on the streets and all kinds of troubles they find and they never gave trouble before either. It happens. IF you succeed in getting out a few hours a weekend, don't miss your curfew for sure. Call up someone you may meet in church and have them come over to stay.....ask your mom if someone can spend the night...Good Luck to you

Answer 3

Wondering if you would share a few items with me??


How old are you?

Where do you live?


and
How can you be home schooled if both your parents work 12 hour days, 5 days a week???
that doesn't sound right..????

I know when I was younger, I had the tendency to exaggerate...ALTO!!!
I am NOT at all saying you are.. I just want you to think about it; make a list of what you do on a daily basis.

then make a list of what your siblings are doing on a daily basis.. If your not 100% sure of what they do, no assumptions, but what they actually do..you may have to sneakily ask them so they don't detect a tally going on.
your talking to the major score keeper here, my whole life, up to about...1 year and a half ago... I have finally seen what it was doing to me...my unhappiness. not theirs.
I'm 38 now. don't wait like i did. find your happiness and try to accept responsibility for yourself.
it sounds like your parents are worried about you and want to keep you busy...
hhhuuummmmm...i wonder what your parents would say

Answer 4

Your parents love you. Yes, it's a gender issue. You should tell them how you feel about that part of the situation. You do have to realize that the world is a rough place and they are trying to do what they think is best. There is not a hand book that comes with raising kids. I wish there were. We just do the best we can. You have to get to the point in your relationship with them that you can tell them how you feel about what they are doing. When you are all grown and on your own, the time will come when you are going to look into the face of your child and hear these same things come from that teen. Just talk to them....and know that you are loved.

Answer 5

no, your reactions are pretty normal to your situations! talk to them in a good way that you have your privileges/rights too and their ways/concern might be of good intentions but it is wrong esp. now that it is affecting you badly..you will hardly learn to deal with the real society properly if the're gonna keep you like that longer! and oh wow, they do favoritism or whatever it is with their kids? that is immature

if they are still hard-headed, give them a good smack, that's what they say "smack the whack"! lol

Answer 6

First off i have to say sorry to u sense you have to live like that.But maybe they think hes more responsible than you so he doesnt have to b watched as much.Try to show them your responsible enough to go out on your own and have friends then try talking to them and tell them how you feel and how there treating u. HOPE i helped!!! :)

Answer 7

being home schooled through the night must be a drag, especially after spending all day in college studying psychology. poor baby.

Answer 8

females tend 2 have stricter rules well b cuz of all da stuff dat goes on in our society

Answer 9

its alright, it just means they love you more, thats why they pay so much attention to you........

they leave your brother alone because they hate the day he was born and pretend he doesnt exist in the first place.....

Answer 10

your profile says you are in college. if so. you are old enough to do as your brother does .