I like this guy. We used to work together at a part time job. We were attracted to each other. I told him I would never date him if I worked with him. We both quit. Moved to other ventures. He asked me out soon after we quit. I said no. Then I finally gave in. Went out on 1 date. No hanky-panky but we kissed. (no biggie) Anyway, I think we would be great business partners. I expressed this to him on the phone and he said he would help me. I told him that I am not interested in a relationship but seeking a business partnership. He has vast knowledge and I see him as an asset. He said he would discuss it over with me at dinner this weekend. I said ok. How do I get him to focus more on the business instead of a relationship? How should I present my presentation about this partnership and convince him? I have never intimate with him and I want to keep it that way b/c business is first before pleasure.
2007-08-10 12:41:15 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Thanks for all the comments. For those wondering , yes...he does gain to make money off the deal as much as I do and future business. It's a win-win.
2007-08-10 13:11:39 · update #1
You are sending mixed signals.
You said you wouldn't date him as long as you worked together, which implies that you would date him if you didn't work together.
Then, you did go out on a date with hium after you left that job. While on the date, you kissed him. This implies that you like him.
You want to discuss plans over dinner... on a weekend no less!
If he realy likes you as much as you say he does, you have been leading him on (whether intentionally or not) and confusing him with your mixed signals. You have killed any chance of a business partnership without romance.
2007-08-10 12:50:52 · answer #1 · answered by Matthew Stewart 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You got it going on girl. Stick to it and don't bend. You will go a long way. Long after you have worked together an really "THINK" you know each other. It may become something. Be sharp and listen to things he say about relationships he has had. And what he Say's about the other women he has known. Take that as a clue. And remember no matter what he tells you. There is two sides to every coin. Play it real slow. Good Luck
2007-08-10 12:54:03 · answer #2 · answered by MS Williams 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest. If you really want to be STRICTLY business partners, do it. But only if you KNOW you can keep yourself from doing anything with him. Two people with sexual tension plus a few drinks equal... well, honesty and most likely some type of action on that tension.
If you don't think you can keep yourself from doing anything, being business partners is NOT a good idea.
2007-08-10 12:59:41 · answer #3 · answered by umd terps 08 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sees this as something other than you do. He is focused on a possible love connection while you are focused on dollar signs. This may be doomed from the start.
I would tell him right off the bat at your dinner that this is BUSINESS ONLY... ensure he understands it will never be anything else. He may be hoping for you to fall for him during your business ventures.
2007-08-10 12:46:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How properly did you paintings with him. specific, you like the guy yet how did you paintings at the same time? would desire to you the two stay concentrated on the interest to hand or could you be concentrated on one yet another fairly? under regularly occurring circumstances, i'm not partial to the aggregate of entertainment and corporation. I certainly have been on the two factors of the relatives working in an identical workplace. in the experience that your organization grows, it's going to make the working environment form of queer for the the remainder of your workers with a boyfriend working with you. i does not convey relatives or this guy into the corporation. the only way i could say it somewhat is high-quality...if he has challenge capital so which you will apply in commencing the corporation. in any different case, overlook it. locate somebody else which you will paintings without the distractions.
2016-10-19 10:52:48 · answer #5 · answered by hosfield 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this problem goes way beyond just this relationship do you have commitment problems? Why would you not want to be happy with this person and at the same time work with him this sounds like a perfect set up
I say you go for thhis guy and see where it goes you might end up being very happy with him you might not you never know
2007-08-10 12:50:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with what you are saying...I think during dinner you should avoid any of the flirty kinda things so that he gets it through his head that you are being serious about the partnership and that the partnership is not a simple excuse to be by his side....
2007-08-10 12:47:27 · answer #7 · answered by G*Star 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you meet for dinner, dress as you would for work, no slinky dresses, state your case clearly and firmly. When the dinner is over, go home, not out for drinks movies or anything else. and absolutly NO kissing, even allowing a kiss on the cheek can be misinterpreted as a possibility.
2007-08-10 12:49:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just keep it to business --- what does he get out of the relationship (in a business sense) --- if there is nothing in it for him either financially educationally or in any other way than personally why would he be interested??? --- if you are using him thats fine --- try to find something that will give him the motivation to continue this as a business relationship ---- best wishes
2007-08-10 12:49:28 · answer #9 · answered by trader1867 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best way to deal with this situation is to never be alone with him again. Don't kiss him and then tell him it is not romantic...he won't agree. Set him up on a date with someone else and be firm with him instead of confusing him with mixed signals.
2007-08-10 12:48:09 · answer #10 · answered by toe poe gee gee oh 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋