A friend of mine is having trouble with her husband. She came to me several times, complaining about and explaining the fights she had and all the problems. Well, now she's really desperate. She doesn't want to get divorced, since she has a child to care for (and she really doesn't want to), but now she doesn't know what to do. She's asking for help, and that's why I came to Yahoo Answers!
Does anyone know how my friend can explain to her husband that she's human and end the sensless fighting (I'm serious, they fight about practically nothing)? All advice (good advice, please...) is appreciated!
2007-08-10 12:32:12 · 7 answers · asked by ZomToad 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Okay, my friend is actually thinking about counseling and all that. But one problem: she doesn't know any counseling organizations. Do YOU know any? If you do, then help us out...
2007-08-10 13:52:09 · update #1
She needs to try talking to him the way she talks to you. She has to calmly approach him with the problem and try to explain her feelings without making him defensive and starting a fight. Thats the hard part. Its easy to feel like you are being attacked when a partner is explaining a problem in the relationship. Using words like "I feel..... when ....happens" is a help. She also has to ask him for his side of things and try to come to an understanding of why they are having problems and what they can each do to fix it.
If he won't listen and is not willing to talk through it, she could try suggesting counseling. If he refuses counseling, she may just have to accept him they way he is or accept the fact that they are not compatable and divorce.
2007-08-10 12:49:34 · answer #1 · answered by Melanie J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I take it they are young,the first two years you do argue about stupid stuff like you didn't take the trash out or why do i have to start all the time if left up to you we never have sex. You never mentioned love does she love him or is she just with him because she can't take care of the baby herself.If that is the case they will not make it,they don't respect each other that's for sure if they did they would know better then what they are doing to themselves and the baby.Nothing you can do but sit back and watch it happen.Sorry
2007-08-10 19:48:18 · answer #2 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try counseling,(fighting not good physical or verbal abuse has no place in any relationship.) She want to say for the child,but the child hears the fighting what does she think that is doing.
2007-08-10 19:47:41 · answer #3 · answered by misty m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They really need counseling. They are so in each other's space that they can't see the forest for the trees. Have your friend suggest counseling to her husband. If he bulks, she should go without him. No one deserves to be miserable in life. No one.
2007-08-10 19:38:51 · answer #4 · answered by Alterfemego 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is fighting about nothing because he has something to hide. I've been there and done that my ex was cheating on me and started treating me the same way and note I said my EX
2007-08-10 20:09:30 · answer #5 · answered by Home Alone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm sorry but there not going to work out.. thats just to much fighting and for the kids sake they should split before some one gets really hurt.
2007-08-10 19:36:33 · answer #6 · answered by stephanie r 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they should talk with one rule... NO SHOUTING.
2007-08-10 19:37:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋