Ok, I have the coolest, and most popular friend there is until today, I dropped by her house unexpectingly, and her mom, told me to got straight upstairs where she was. Then I walked in on her moaning, and fingering her own selve!! I was so disgusted I ran all the way home. I don't understand why she does this. Shes very rich, and her family is very religious. So, is she doing this cause she feels like this her relief or something, or does she really needs help! She left me 3 messages already, saying that we need to talk, but I think its better if we just stay away from each other from awhile, or should I really return her phone calls please help me. We've been friends since the first grade!!!
2007-08-10 12:00:51 · 50 answers · asked by Lisa 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Settle down its not that big of a deal.Everybody does it.Also it is not a sin if it keeps you from having premarital sex. So talk to your friend i am sure she feels more uncomfortable than you. Talk to your friend it will make you trust eachother more contfronting the situation with eachother.Wish you luck.
2007-08-10 12:11:24 · answer #1 · answered by adam redneck 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
masturbation is normal.. everyone does it at one time or the other, or every day, whatever suits the person.
your friend should have considered her privacy and locked her door so no one would walk in on her.
i am sure you are more shocked than anything. but believe me when i say, masturbation is A-OH-KAY!
Here is an article i copied and pasted for you on masturbation written specifically for teens:
Masturbation is not evil, dirty or harmful - it will not make you go blind, drive you insane, turn you in to a pervert, stunt your growth, give you an STD, make you sterile or get you pregnant.
Both guys and girls masturbate, it is a normal and healthy part of sexual development.
Masturbation is a very personal thing and should not be done in public places or around people who are not willing partners (think safer sex activity).
You are normal if you masturbate, normal if you wonder about it but don't do it, and normal if you never give it a second thought and don't do it - it is one of the few things in life that is "normal if you do and normal if you don't".
Masturbation may make sexual intercourse more enjoyable because you will already know what it takes to "please you".
Masturbation alleviates stress and releases endorphens (the pleasure hormones) in to your system making you more relaxed.
Masturbation as exploration of the body is common in children between the ages of 3 and 6, in teens masturbation becomes more sophisticated and sexually motivated.
Surveys have shown that 80% of males and 59% of females have masturbated by age 18.
Many experts believe that masturbation is more prevalent in the teen years due to a strong fluctuation of hormones; masturbation alleviates the strain of this build up and is a necessary part of development.
The only real problems that come with masturbation are psychological and are the result of unhealthy or weary attitudes toward doing it (if you do it but are ashamed) or abnormal practices (for example, public masturbation).
2007-08-10 12:08:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how old you are, but lets start by saying that ;you had a pretty good shock when you walked in on her. You really need to return her calls and talk this over with her, after all, she's been a friend since first grade. Her being rich and very religious has nothing to do with any of this.
2007-08-10 12:07:04 · answer #3 · answered by WVPV07 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Howdy,
Masturbation is a natural act. Everybody does it at one time or another and some people more often than others. It is a tension release for some people especially those who are not sexually active. It is a little uncomfortable to walk in on someone who is masturbating themselves. Generally it something done alone or with a partner. I would suggest when you feel comfortable to return her call. Obviously she wants to talk. Perhaps she/he feels as uncomfortable as you do. You can't avoid her for ever.
2007-08-10 12:16:47 · answer #4 · answered by docktari1947 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try it yourself but no doubt you have since to see what it is like! Its normal and very enjoyable, especially when toys get involved! Try the rabbit, its the quickest you will come, and I guess you are young! Try it you might like it. And don't be horrib;e to your friend at all, she does not deserve it and may get bullied from it cos no doubt you have already told a hundred people, never mind the thousands you have told on here already! Friends are forever and imagine how she is feeling! \go round and tell her you have both forgotten about what you saw and if you are a true friend you will not brag about seeing your friend indulging in some self pleasure.
2007-08-10 12:09:22 · answer #5 · answered by Gem Lou 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You must be young! Masturbation is very healthy and the safest sex you can have. It also helps you to learn your body so that when it is time to have sex you will know what makes you feel good. As far as your friendship is concerned; she shouldn't lose her friend because of that. Im sure that at some point you have done something that you are not proud of, should your friend stop talking to you because of that
2007-08-10 12:10:37 · answer #6 · answered by cmack45 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, (sorry if I offend) but you are obviously very young. A lot of people masterbate and it doesn't make them horrible people. She propbably does it for the pleasure but like I said many people do it. You sorta overreacted to the situation. Instead of mad I would have been embarrassed more than anything because I walked in on her. People do it in their private time. But what about it upset you most? Do you look down upon her now? You really shouldn't because it doesnt make her less of a friend.
2007-08-10 12:08:04 · answer #7 · answered by LOVE BEING A MOMMY 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
First of all, there is nothing wrong with masturbating. It is completely normal. It has nothing to do with her being religious, or rich or popular for that matter. If I was in that situation I wouldnt have ran home, I probably would have asked her if she needed help. lol you need to call her, and talk about it. One day you will find that masturbating takes care of your needs.
2007-08-10 12:09:21 · answer #8 · answered by Marla 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is totally natural and healthy (a LOT healthier than having sex, risking STD's and pregnancy!). She does NOT need "help"...but YOU need to be tolerant of other people's differences. She's NOT hurting anyone, so I'd just leave it alone! She's probably embarrassed enough that you "caught" her and are now judging her!
You should get a copy of "Our Bodies, Ourselves" (I think there's a teen version), a sex ed. book for girls, and read it THOROUGHLY, before discussing this with her. If you still disagree, just leave it at that! Otherwise, you could lose a friend.
2007-08-10 12:10:13 · answer #9 · answered by Gwynneth Of Olwen 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how old you are, but masturbation is perfectly natural. It is unfortunate that you had to find out that way, but the fact that your friend has a rich family and that they are religious have absolutely nothing to do with sexual urges and how we satisfy them. Talk to your friend about it, it doesn't affect you in any way. Don't let this affect your friendship, when you get older, you will probably regret and this little incident isn't worth it.
2007-08-10 12:06:12 · answer #10 · answered by Diane T 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋