.........i tell my friends and family that im gay
2007-08-10 11:18:12 · 15 answers · asked by angelo 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
there are going to be a lot of people on here that are going to tell you to go for it, but you have to think about it deeply before you say anything. are they homophobic? do they care if people are gay or not? would they love you the same? will they kick you out? these are all things that you need to think about. sometimes telling the people close to you that you are gay can be a good thing, but normally its not. out of all my gay friends (and trust me, i have a lot. lol) there is only one who gets along with his mom. i came out to my mom 6 years ago and we are still fighting about it. Hun, im not trying to scare you or trying to tell you that you should stay in the closet, but this is something can destroy your family or let them become closer to you. i cant tell you whether or not they are going to accept you afterwards, because every family is different. just....sit down with them and tell them that one of your close guy friends just came out to you. tell them that you do accept him and you're going to be his friend no matter what, but then ask them from a parents perspective, what would they do. see how they react. do they think he's gross or do they respect him? there is this book called "comming out to parents" not sure exactly what the author's name is, something close to mary v. borheck. the book is pink. its really good. i think you should read it before you come out to them.
good luck
2007-08-10 11:31:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
That all depends on what you are comfortable with. If you are OK with hiding yourself from your family and feel more comfortable with not saying anything, then don't. But you will probably feel better if you just get honest with those around you and live your life the way that you want to.
2007-08-10 11:22:53 · answer #2 · answered by Lilly 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
my immediate response is YES! but then i had a very cool set of friends and my family was pretty much already aware. then i think how hard it is for alot of guys to come out. so you got to think about where you are and if you can handle rejection. that can happen sometimes. if someone already knows maybe their support would help too. i wish you luck dude.
2007-08-10 11:25:59 · answer #3 · answered by realangst 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you are ready to tell them and face the consecuences of what may happen because of this, then yes by all means, do what you feel is right!!!
Good luck!
2007-08-10 11:21:45 · answer #4 · answered by nevflo2 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell them when you're comfortable talking about it.
If you're still financially dependent on them (HS or college), remember that if it goes south, you need to be in a position to be independent financially.
2007-08-10 13:15:56 · answer #5 · answered by Clint 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
sorry but I would say ... no ...unless they ask you straight up if you are gay/bi/lesbian then keep it to your self and your partner, seems that from what I have read and heard that 99% of the time all it does is get you into deep sh*t with everyone that knows you ... but its up to you , if you feel you must.. go for it
2007-08-10 11:40:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you have to ask, then you probably expect them to have a bad reaction. The question is are you willing to accept their reaction if they are not supportive.
2007-08-10 11:59:30 · answer #7 · answered by jennysmith0214 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its up 2 you when u feel ready n comfortable
2007-08-10 11:37:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
u tell em when u feel comfortable coming out and not before.
2007-08-10 11:21:20 · answer #9 · answered by Pres 3 · 6⤊ 0⤋
you can tell them when you feel the time is right
2007-08-10 11:43:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋