I have never jad a committed relationship with a woman. I HAVE however, had a sexual relationship with a woman for about two years now. We've talked about it, and have always basically agreed that we have feelings for eachother - but we'd never come out. We'd just have this secret.
Lately, I have started getting jealous. I found her fooling around with my brother and confronted her about it. She reminded me I'm not her girlfriend - and have no reason to be upset. Then she went on to say how she'll never care for me as much as I do for her... although she says she does care.
I can't even think about anything else right now. My brother rubs it in my face (he doesnt know about she and I).
Anyway - she has a boyfriend she's supposed to be pretty serious about (They've been dating almost a year). She's a single mom w/3 kids... and I'm always helping out... butr in the end, I'm just feeling used and jealous. AND I can't stand feeling this jealous! It's not me
2007-08-10 10:10:28 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
OOPS! RE: the whole title thing...
and where might i be able to meet gays/lesbians just to explore whether that's what I am... or if it was just a thing with she and I?
THX
2007-08-10 10:12:10 · update #1
I'm thinking about writing a letter... is that a bad idea? If I do that... what's something good to include in there?
2007-08-10 10:17:31 · update #2
I really think you need to lose this girl. How can someone have a sexual relationship with another person for two years and not get attached to them or want a relationship with them? It sounds to me like she is using you for sex and it is obvious that you want more than that or you wouldnt be jealous. You two want two different things and it is not worth wasting your time. You deserve to be #1 in her life, not # 3, 4, or 5 :-( Put a personal ad up online--that is how I met my gf of two years now! I was leary about it but it really allows you to make what you want known from the start and you are able to weed out those who are not looking for the same. Good luck hun :-)
2007-08-10 10:29:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well first things first, dump the chick she's only using you. Secondly, I would say with your feelings you may definitely have some lesbian tendencies. If you have a desire to someday be in a committed relationship/marriage with a woman, then you're one of us! LOL Goodluck
2007-08-10 12:28:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should get out of this relationship quickly. She is using you for sex and services, and you deserve better. There are lots of websites out there targeted to gay online dating www.gay.com, being one. Although predominantly bar and club scenes aren't the best places to meet people for relationships, I think in a lot of areas gays feel like they have nowhere else to go to meet each other and they will frequent these spots. It couldn't hurt to go just once, it'll be fun!
-B
2007-08-10 10:17:05 · answer #3 · answered by TypeA 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
actual, the only answer I even have would be the two pass to a gay club and convey alongside one in each of your lady acquaintances. Have a giggle and humorous tale and often have a solid night out, and you would be very shocked how many human beings will chat you up. I used consistently pass out with my buddy right here in cork who became right into a gay guy and we used have a blast and he would be scoring left, precise and centre. in basic terms different advise i ought to grant you is probably with the aid of a chum, i'm a real believer in that. Your buddy can no longer set you up with somebody who's a catastrophe, using fact your buddy cares for you, they gained't set you up with a nasty date. substitute telephone numbers, and textual content for a whilst in the previous ye meet using fact ye gets to renowned so lots approximately one yet another that way, even in the previous you meet in individual, and you gets a wierd cheeky textual content in there too, without asserting it to their face, and not be too embarrassed approximately it. it particularly is how I met my fiance - with the aid of textual content, and we fell for the different even in the previous we met. decide for it, attempt hand around in some gay golf equipment or perhaps disclose to a chum to swap telephone numbers for a textual content relationship and see the way it is going. undergo in innovations sweety, there is somebody accessible for each individual, i'm specific you will discover the happiness you deserve in the tip. wish that's help-finished. superb of luck :-)
2017-01-04 04:00:48 · answer #4 · answered by westbrook 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Loose the chick. Anyone who gets involved with a sib of someone they are involved with is not a very healthy, considerate person. You deserve better.
Try an LGBT center in your area, girl bar, or if you know, places that lesbiens hang.
2007-08-10 10:19:35 · answer #5 · answered by Alex62 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
don't wright a letter,
that is proof, she might show everyone / someone may find it later.
leave her, find someone else, sounds like she will cheat on anyone, you will never be happy together.
and your brother sounds annoying
I recommend, lesbian bars and online things as craigslist with a w4w section.
2007-08-10 10:39:23 · answer #6 · answered by sweety_atspacecase0 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
head on down to a lesbian bar or bisexual conversation and cookies club . meet some people who have a stronger sense of who they are and why they like what they like .
2007-08-10 14:43:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like shes jus using u
2007-08-10 11:20:37 · answer #8 · answered by tasty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's good, sorry I need the 2 points.
2007-08-10 10:42:55 · answer #9 · answered by Q guy 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Dump her, you can do a lot better than that.
2007-08-10 11:23:07 · answer #10 · answered by jennysmith0214 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋