indian/pakistani asians???

Question

this is not a prejudice question.

i'd like to know from your personal experience or relatives experience about growing up in a western society and blending in your culture

i like to learn about other cultures

Answer 1

I see. Well I'm not rlly from India, my parents are. I'm a N.R.I (Non Resident Indian). Well I know personally that my dad was the first to come to India. He had very little money but was extremely intelligent. He tried out for a few schools and America and made it into every single one. However, he could not afford them without a scholarship so he ended up going to a decent one for full scholarship(if he had enough $$$, he would've gone to M.I.T) Coming to America, he was expecting every1 to be rich and live in skyscrapers and he thought it was all city. Soon after, he was proven wrong. The same with my mom. They both blended pretty well while retaining their culture. As for me, I've been born entirely in this culture so I have few problems. The only problem is when people expect me to act like an Inidan who's never been to America whereas its more like the other way around for me.

Answer 2

Both are very different cultures. During my school years in America, first thing I found very different it was that over here kids actually called people much older them than by their names, because back in my country India, we don't call people older than us by names, although I found it very disrespecting toward the older people at first but later on I found out that it's nothing disrespecting. Other thing was that people over here are very open about sex. My first few weeks in American school, I saw that most "kids"(generally back in my country until 20-25 years, you're considered a kid because of your lack of life experience) made bf-gf relationships and usually were seen kissing each other. At first, I use to think that what kind of shameless kids are they, doing all that stuff openly in public, they must be bringing lots of disgrace for their parents! I thought that becauce my mentality was still that of a Conservative. But later I found out that it's part of culture, there's nothing disgracing about it. Sure that's one thing I knew from beginning from my country that western culture is a very open culture.But here were few things that I didn't like very much about over here was that kids taking drugs, doing crimes, disrespecting their elders, I use to see that in classrooms the kids who used to make trouble most of times were told by teachers of their consequences but yet still they would do wrong things and even dare to speak disrespectfully in front of their teachers and also things like teenage pregnancies. Which is also a major problem. Kids in America are lucky to get such state-of-art facilities in schools. I tell you back in my country schools can't have such good for other 10-15 years, and the schools that have these facilities are private ones and cost you lots of fees(trust me on this, you're hearing it someone who went to one of those). Plus, they're very strict. Back in the school I went to, you would get beaten if your dress code wasn't right. All dress code and properly polished shoes. So American kids need to make every good use out of everything that they get. Most bad kids I've seen, they say that they're that way because of the environments that they live in. I say to them that HEY! SOMETIMES EVEN PRESIDENTS ARE MADE OUT OF ONCE-A-RAGTAGS! And examples for that can be Abraham Lincoln and APJ Abdul Kalam(a former Indian president. )At least, the underachieving kids in America don't live in tin-sheds, or dirty slums like some other places in the world. But overall, I liked America, wide, well built roads, freeways, good waste management, big shopping malls, and clean streets! Now some of these are in my country too.