my husband is 41 years old and he is playing xbox 24/7 how i make him understand he should be out working ....

Question

and that there is more in this life but the tv and the computer??? I feel so lonely in the house, he doesn't give us any attention and he is not even working, yeah!!! he is at home all the time but it is like is not there...i talk to him and he doesn't even answer but yet he is talking wiht people in the game, people that he doesn't even now....

Answer 1

You definetely have to put your foot down. The first thing you have to do is take the xbox away. Be firm and let him know that this is afecting your relationship. and if he does not find a job soon, he is going to have to find a place to live and some else to support him.

You see people go as far as we let him. If your husband treasures you and your marriage then he will do the right thing if not don't fight an endless cause.

If you have children address to him that this is not a good role for your kids to follow.

You definetely need to get rid of that xbox and make sure you dont accept another one again because these games are like an addiction.

My husband got one and he worked but as soon as he got home he played and ended til like 1 am, So one night I was so upset to see that I was going to sleep alone and no feed back from him. So the next day he came home and looked for the game box and I said it's gone, to a family of kids and last time i checked you are not a kid. he was upset and said he was going to buy one so i said if you get another one, you best find another place to live because you are not playing here! so that night he did not talk to me, but you know what next day he apologized and its been years and we have been happy since that incident.

So that is why i am telling you that you have to be firm and put your foot down. He does this because he know you are going to take it and show him that no you are not going to accept this childish behavior from him.

I truly hope God gives you the courage you need to confront this so difficult issue. Just remember it's to save your marriage.

Good luck

Answer 2

Wow are you in a predicament or what?! I would take control of the checkbook first, and disconnect the internet so he couldn't use the computer. Take the games away and make him either get a job or at least do chores at home. There are alot of family's that the husband stays home & the wife works. Once he accomplishes some sort of goal then maybe he could get some of the XBox games back. Or maybe you could send him back to his parents house since he is acting like a child. I wish you luck

Answer 3

WOW ! I am a 40 yr man and can't even comprehend this. We all have our hobbies and "fun" things to do... unless its limited to say 30 min a day... he has mental problems... I have a stack of games I bought but never got to play... most not even loaded into the computer... so I stopped buying them... My free time is spent exercising to stay fit and healthy... loose the looser 41 is a little late to try and change him... now if the two of you were big into it (I know some friends that are) that's a different story. Sounds like your not...

Answer 4

I feel you girl I know what you mean trust me
I am 23 and my man is all about the ps3 but at least he has a job my man that is I know how you feel I just had a baby and I don't think I get the attention I should and he talks to people on the game as well it is as if everyone sees it but him hang in there girl don't let him treat you bad if it gets that bad leave his butt and maybe he will see what hes lost,good luck to you and ur man

Answer 5

First, let's not exaggerate ... he does eat, sleep and use the bathroom ... does he go to work and bring home a paycheck every month? Does he never ever do anything else?

Next, why not talk with him about it, allow him time to do his xbox thing ... some guys spend every weekend golfing or fishing or chasing women ... at least yours is home ...

reach a compromise, and stop nagging him, it'll just make him want to do it more and more and more ...

Answer 6

My husband is 22 and up until this past april he did all that also. Weve been married 2 years in sept. He would come home from work play that stupid ps2 and ignore me and our son, who is now a mamas boy and doesnt have alot to do with my husband. I threaten to leave and that I wouldnt come back. He didnt care and one day we had a huge fight and his uncle came over and got in the middle of it. Now he annoys me. He picks on me to be playful. I wish he would go back to the ps2. He is trying really hard to make our marriage work now.

Answer 7

provide him some thing else to play with == you! bypass to Victoria's secret or Fredericks of Hollywood & get some thing effective. walk out into the room he's enjoying xbox and ask him if he can think of of a extra powerful activity he can play. have relaxing.

Answer 8

Why should you even have to make him understand that he should be working? Doesn't he know that bills don't get paid unless you work? Unplug that stupid xbox and throw it out on the lawn....I am sure he will get the message then. Its ok to play the thing...but come on? He is a husband and a father and should be spending quality time with his family.

Answer 9

u need to leave this loser..
im tired of men that dont take care of their responsability...
men r becoming more feminine and r refusin the responsabilities of being bread winners....i dont think u should be supporting him financially...stop giving him money and stop babying him...u need to crash that xbox and throw it away..if he doesnt work he wont have enough money to buy another one..and if he tries to use the credit card...try and take ur name out of it and if u have a checkings account, take all the money out and open a new one with only ur name in it...he is not responsible...if he is 41 i doubt that he will change.

Answer 10

Smash the xbox or find a way to lose the cord, the controller to the game etc... then hide the money so he can not replace it. Cut off the internet etc...