Girl trouble... Your opinion?

Question

Ive been with my gf for 3 very long years.
We lived together since day one, because i had my own place, now its getting to the point where every word she says drives me crazy. i cook, clean, and have spent 100s on the new house.(my money) the only thing she does is pay half the bills. i work in an office earning not a bad wage and i have a mortgage. She has stayed in the same crappy job earning minimum wage because its easy. I HATE IT. i dont know what i can do. i think the only reason we havnt split up is because i couldnt afford it... its terrible i know. I have no idea where to go. the 1st yr was fantastic - but now....id rather stay at work. and all this @ 20. where can i go from here.

p.s - i forgot to mention i now have no mates as a result. lol
No its not a pic of me - but thanks ne way
And i left home after school - was homeless for a year, but now have a mortgage - i do not need to grow up.

Well i think i know what im gunna do .... thanks all.

Answer 1

Wow she sounds like a piece of work. If you are making a majority of the money, than yes, you could afford to leave. Get a small apartment for yourself again and thats that. If you want to try and make things work out though, have a one on one conversation and tell her, look get a better job, you needent be so lazy and want to keep it just bcause it is easy,let her in on how u feel

Answer 2

honestly son, ive been there if you cant stand her and your definitly sure you only need her to cover bills then you seriously need a roommate, put an ad on the newspaper be smart and creative with the ad you dont want old folks living with you so be str8 up college students onlyneed apply ages 18 thru 25 that way you minimize the amount of calls you'll receive, then from there you rent a room in your house and then you make your move tell her ya need to go your seperate ways and if she like she can stay but as a roomie only or she has to go cause you will rent it out but remember once you do this you will lose her so if there is a way to work things out sit down with her and have a pow wow with her see where both your minds are at because you might kick her out and then realize you trully love her

Answer 3

Staying in a relationship b/c it's easier on the finances is not a good reason to stay. If that's the only thing keeping you two together then it's time to let her go and ask her to move out. People break up, it won't be the end of the world. If you can't afford it then look for a roommate.
If you love her and want to build on this relationship though then talk to her about goals and splitting chores and such. See if she's willing to look for a job making more money. Let her know you're serious about mending this relationship but you can't stay in it if it is if it's unhealthy for you. Good luck.

Answer 4

There are somethings that you can do, I wouldn't say anything to the GF if you already know it won't do any good so what you can do is look for a renters service. There are company's that help renters look for a place to live and the service will check them out you don't want to get someone in your home that won't pay there rent or throw parties every night. Sometimes colleges have programs like this also. Trying to find renters on your own can be a nightmare I know from personal experience.

Answer 5

To be honest with you man, you should not have moved into a house with your girl when you were 17....that is irresponsible! At that age you do not have enough money to live on your own for very long! plus, if you are not happy with her, then why are you putting up with it?? I think you should talk to her about it, and let her know how much it bugs you that she doesn't do crap, and you are doing everything! Personally, I would move out and save money, or get a better paying job....also, tell her that if she doesn't help out more, then she will have to either get a better job or get out! You guys are too young, even at 20 to be going through this...you aren't even married yet! Good luck and I'm sorry.....put your foot down!

Answer 6

Dude you are unhappy and life is too short for that. If you don't truely love the girl and want things to be like they used to be, then you need to kindly break up with her and go on with your life. You can find a roommate to split the bills and the chores. I had a bad feeling from your first sentence (3 very long years) and it sounds like you have been trying and patient. Time to move on. Best of luck to you.
P.S. Just curious, is that really a pic of you? Hot!

Answer 7

She is driving you nuts because she has no challenge in her life, she has low self-esteem, and you are way too good to her (women love a challenge, and they all have fantasies of the "bad boy" which you are not) ... it's time to part ways ... but don't be surprised if she comes after you for half of everything that you've put into the house and the increase in value. Just because you're not married doesn't mean you don't owe her half of everything you have made in the past three years, you do. So, get out now before those three years become four and five and six, and she gets worse and worse and worse

Answer 8

in my opinion, you should try talking to her. you seem like an ambitious young man with your head on straight. it is only right that you would want to be with someone of your equal or better. if you talk to her and there are no changes then you may want to consider ending the relationship. as far as her driving you crazy, that is what women do to men. LOL!

don't be mean in your conversation with her. sit her down and speak from your heart. let her know that working a job b/c it is easy is not going to get her anywhere in life. it will only make her complacent. she needs to have ambition too.

so if you find yourself splitting with her you had better be sure of your steps. you have a mortgage and all the bills. maybe you will need to speak to someone about that as well especially if you have both names on documents.

Answer 9

I understand your frustration. I am a girl myself, and my Dad did the same thing. My Mom did everything. She cooked, she cleaned, she went to work and stayed there until late at night. This all happened when I was little. I remember crying myself to sleep allot at night because I missed my Mom so much, and my Dad always yelled at me for stupid stuff, and he never wanted to spend time with me. So I understand what you're going through. Obviously, (No offense) your girlfriend is lazy. You need to confront her, and tell her what's going on. You guys really need to have a heart-to-heart open discussion. It might help, it might not. But it's worth the try.

Answer 10

howabout COMMUNICATE with her? Tell her your issues and that, at this point, she has to grow up or get out...perhaps start taking college classes or something? Better yourself.

I've noticed that some couples get in ruts because neither challenges the other. She doesn't try to get a better job because neither do you. Tell her you want to get better, do more, and begin by taking those classes. Ask if she wants to take those classes with you, as well. If not, well, shes going to be a bum the rest of her life.