Do husbands understand our feelings about this?
2007-08-10 09:39:18 · 26 answers · asked by billingspets 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
it IS natural to look but it is also respectful to be tactful about it
if he STARES when you are right there with him or comments,,, then that says he doesn't care about how you feel about it
talk to him nicely and express that it makes you feel a bit less than great when he looks at other women so intensly. Explain that a simple glance is expected but staring is absolutely hurtful
2007-08-10 09:50:57 · answer #1 · answered by Precious Taboo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok. The old "Guys will always look." BS line is not working on me. Nor has it ever. Women look to. Do we sit there and gawk when our spouse is right there? No. We dont. If we can stop looking, men can stop looking.
I'm married and I talked to my husband about this. He understand where I am comming from and doesnt check out other women in front of me. It's disrespectful to me and shows other women that he doesn't value or respect me. He knows that in my presence looking at another women is unacceptable. When he isn't around me though, he can look but not touch. And I said look...not gawk. A wandering eye is never something you should have to put up with.
Try this. The next time you catch him looking at another woman. Go up to another man and start checking him out, and make it obvious. If he confronts you about it or gets upset simply say "Well now you know how I feel." If he doesn't say anything about it....he obviously see's no problem with this and you need to discuss it further with him.
Also, maybe you should spice up your love life? Try something new in the bedroom...or talk to your husband about some of his fantasies.
2007-08-10 10:39:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not possible to change him, if he could be changed that change has to come from within him as his choice, otherwise it will be imprisonment and he will look for the first chance to escape.
Work on it together as to what is a good ground for you two to meet in the middle with, does he know how you feel?
Simple looks are normal, glaring, searching for it etc... would definitely be a different item.
2007-08-10 09:52:36 · answer #3 · answered by HowAboutIt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you could gouge his eyes out LOL I can't think of any other way. They look we can't stop it. My husband says he understands and other than one time about 7 years ago it has never been too terribly obvious. My theory is look but don't stare. Don't be a pig about it. He says it would sure help if women wouldn't wear such revealing clothes. He says he's not trying to look but it's like women are putting it on display. I have to agree with him there.
2007-08-10 09:49:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'm sorry, in case you have been no longer able to verify the glaring (have been YOU BLIND??). i don't experience sorry for you in any respect, you have given this guy an inch and he has taken a mile. It became extraordinarily lots a loose for all dating from the beginning up, extremely. i individually vowed on my wedding ceremony day to be committed as did my husband, to no longer confess any adultery that could have only exceeded off alongside the way. i do no longer think of the two of you recognize what you mentioned to a minimum of one yet another on your wedding ceremony day!!!! Suck it up princess.
2016-11-11 23:36:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
O.K., here's the thing ~ guys are very visual creatures! It's in their nature. If a beautiful woman is walking down the street, they're going to notice her, sure! But they don't have to gawk or look for long. They can also choose to look away! He really should only have eyes for YOU!!!
Bottom line ~ YOU can't stop him, only he can. Have you talked to him about this? Please tell him your feelings about it, and ask him to think about what he's doing. If he really loves you and respects you, then he'll make efforts to change his behavior.
Just looking can lead to "cheating/adultery of the heart" which can lead to more.
2007-08-10 10:03:53 · answer #6 · answered by Jenn 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
All you can do is let him know how it makes you feel. You will never be able to stop him, come on we look at men all the time. It's human nature. Why does it bother so much? Do you think that just because he looks, it means he doesn't love you? Because that not why men look. We all look.
2007-08-10 09:55:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
My love, some wives do it also ! My marrige failed cause she took her roving eyes to the next level. Sweety I totally understand ! There are some of us men who choose to be compassionet, loving, and sentimental like our lord and savior Jesus ! So it is not a male or a female thing it is a sin thing . I pray that you have better fortune !
2007-08-10 10:08:48 · answer #8 · answered by lonewolf 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Guys look, it's what guys do.
There was a cartoon years ago, Kathy, that showed a guy with binoculars eye out girls at a pool and two girls are nagging him because he is such a pervert. They grab the binoculars and what do they do with them? Check out what all of the girls are wearing, doing, involved in, etc.
Guys are visual creatures and no nagging that any woman can do will ever change that. What you are exhibiting, however, are some dangerous signs of wanting to control, demean and nag your husband. And you are showing your own insecurity and lack of self-esteem.
Rather than henpecking him about this, why not join in?
2007-08-10 09:42:03 · answer #9 · answered by John B 7 · 2⤊ 4⤋
I have no idea. I think it's disrespectful.
Men like to hide behind that "All men look" excuse.
He'd probably feel completely different if it were you looking at other men.
Tell him it truly bothers you, and that you request that he stops.
If he truly cares for you, he'll stop.
2007-08-10 10:35:45 · answer #10 · answered by Sumie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋