Ok so around some peoplei can talk their heads off, but then around other people my mouth seams to be sealed shut! and then when i do say something it sounds dumb. It is not like I am dumb or anything, I just do not want to sound dumb. Do you have any tips, because i am going to be going to a bigger school next year, and i want to be able to make friends...
2007-08-10 07:01:45 · 25 answers · asked by Olive 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
just be yourself, and be more relaxed around people. And if you don't like starting convertions let other people start them, all you have to do is say hi. just relax and be yourself thats the best tips i can give you.
2007-08-10 07:24:08 · answer #1 · answered by babe zanay 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be very observant of your surroundings... you can take some of the happenings around you and turn them into ice-breakers. Once the ice is broken, the pressure that you have on yourself lessens and you can feel more comfortable. If you have something to add to subject don't be afraid to. Sounding dumb and being dumb are two different things. We all sound dumb at one time or another so you can't let it stop you from putting yourself out there. Because the more people you meet the more likely you will be able to find some great chemistry with some people. Then you have your friend network established and all is well. Good luck.
2007-08-10 14:14:19 · answer #2 · answered by Schlessenger 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just be yourself and don't think about sounding dumb or stupid for that matter babe. Have confidence with everything you do. Confidence goes a long way and if you're being yourself with confidence. You shouldn't have a problem at all. I was quite shy in high school. I started taking acting class and I became less shy and verbally active. My acting classes just gave me more confidence and made me open up more in not to common situations. Here's something that I will always remember: " Fake and act like the person you wanna be, to learn how to be that person" I hope you get it! It helps me out a lot in life. It's not that you wanna be the person, it that you admire the way of the person. Have fun with your confidence babe and just be yourself no matter the situation.
Good luck!!!
2007-08-10 15:06:38 · answer #3 · answered by Donnie Brasco 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly how you feel. I was EXACTLY like that in my highschool years. Around certain friends I can talk for hours and have a great time, but other groups I just feel akward and sort of hang in the background just listening in on the conversation afraid of making myself look like an idiot. But you know what, the truth is you have just got to be yourself and LOVE yourself just as you are...dont be afraid to be different or let loose...thats what differentiates between the popular kids/ the leaders and the followers. You have to accept that not everyone is going to like you, but once you just be yourself you will find who your true friends are. People with alot of friends doesnt mean every one likes them or they are perfect just that they can handle criticism/rejection alot easier than those who do not. So let me tell you everyone says it that your middleschool-highschool years go so fast and you may not believe it now but you will later on....so don't limit yourself. If not everyone likes you who cares? Take risks because reallly you have nothing to lose.
2007-08-10 14:30:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I personally think the best way to overcome shyness is getting involved in activities. I am not telling you to become a cheerleader or join a sports club. Try something small like the glee club, art club or something like that. This will get you involved in small activities and you can interact with other students. It is kind of hard to not talk to people in these clubs.
Something this small can lead to bigger events to participate in.
Because I was a honors student I particularly got involved in all kinds of academic activities. I was in peer groups, and the National Honor Society. Before I knew it I knew everyone and they knew me. So just find what you are good at and run with it.
And remember to just be yourself. Trust me! You are cooler than you think.
2007-08-10 14:28:33 · answer #5 · answered by ANJANETTE C 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I used to be painfully shy. Then I got a job as a waitress and soon found out that shy servers dont get very good tips. After 3 yrs I'm a completely different person b/c of that job...maybe u should try that if ur old enough
2007-08-10 14:08:46 · answer #6 · answered by Abby Jo 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Shy can be very attractive, much more so than loud mouthed and over confident. The most important thing is to be confident and secure, and have a strong self-esteem. You might want to read some interesting books and article, so you have smart things to contribute. That will allow you to flirt, act smart, and yet be coy, and that is really pretty.
2007-08-10 14:07:10 · answer #7 · answered by Steve C 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It really does come down to confidence. If you say something you feel is dumb, don't over analyze it, just shake it off and try, try again. It really doesn't matter what other people think anyway. Have fun and LIVE your life the way you want to. Sing out Louise!!!
2007-08-10 14:26:11 · answer #8 · answered by iluvthechair 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just learn to be comfortable in your own skin and who you are. Don't focus on trying to make someone like you or on trying to act a certain way. Just relax and let your personality shine through. Being a genuine person will get you farther than trying to be what you think others want you to be. If you just be yourself, then you'll make friends at your new school who will like and appreciate you for who you are.
2007-08-10 14:50:43 · answer #9 · answered by daisy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i used to be really shy to n i had the same thing. round some peeps i could chat chat chat chat but when unfamiliar people came around me my mouth just wouldnt budge. this was cause i was scared of being judged n my confidence was low. the only way i got over this is to say how i feel no matter if if sounds a bit silly and i literally threw myself out there introduced myself to people. asked their interests, what they do, music etc. just be urself babe
2007-08-10 14:07:42 · answer #10 · answered by lola 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋