How am I to be Happy.?

Question

This is rather silly of me to post this. I know no one will be able to answer it, but still it would be fun to hear the many answers I might receive. So I am unhappy. That is to say I feel lonely. I know why I feel lonely. Simply I am alone and there is no one who shares the same thoughts that I have. So I know why I am lonely, I want to know how I can escape the feeling of being lonely. Medication will not work for me. So anyone with any thoughts on what might give me joy, please tell me. I don’t have a car, cell phone, or the ability to go out on my own without permission (yes, what a pain). I’m still in high school. So anything that goes along those lines that might bring me happiness, please tell me. If anything works…I guess I’ll be happy.

Answer 1

why think of unhappy things when u can think of happy things?> who created unhappy so why cant we creat our happiness how about master virtue and you know all, since this world has not yet become good yet you will always feel sad at some stage not happy for the rest of ur life until we all can decend the heavens

Answer 2

So here's the thing, why are the people who raise you (or house you, let's assume it's your parents, but I was raised without parents and with "guardians" so if I am offending, I apologize) ok back to my question, why don't they let you go out? I mean, can't you go to a club of some sort? Are they withholding privileges for a different reason? Do you go to highschool or are you homeschooled?

If you do go to highschool, I would suggest you join a club of some sort. If you like something in particular, there is usually a group for it. Even online. You have online capabilities, which show that there is potential to meet others. We all need a friend. My best friend and I talk on the phone daily, but we haven't seen each other in 7 years! It doesn't really matter either, she is someone who understands me, and I know there will be someone out there who understands you. Hey, maybe you'll find that person here on yahoo answers.

Answer 3

Wow. A dumbass high schooler. I knew it.

Dont worry though, we were all dumbass highschoolers at one point. My years were a long time ago.

Listen. "Things" wont make you happy, if you have no one to share them with.

There are a lot of people, I presume, in your school. A lot of them, beleive it or not, feel much the same way you do. Its a normal teenage, "finding your place in the world" thing. Personal and social develpoment doesnt always grow like zits. Some things you have to work on. Some hide it better than others, some dont bother to try.

This will be a very hard thing to do. Go up to some one and start a conversation about something your familiar with. Music, classwork, sports, the chick with big boobs, or the guy jock that forgets to zip his fly. Tell a joke, ridicule your principal, or whatever to build that first connection. Just be real abou tit, not fake.

There are a lot of people out there like you just wishing they had a freind, just to hang with. Wishing someone would say "hi" to them. Be that person.

Somebody just needs to be that first to say "hi".

Answer 4

Is a pencil in intergalactic space still a pencil?

A Zen master would say: "No, the identity of a thing resides in its function. If there is nothing for this pencil to ever write on, why bother calling it a pencil?"

Humans were evolved to solve problems. As strange as it may seem, your problem is that you have no problems.

All your physical needs are being met. You are being trained for a future that does not seem real to you.

Happiness comes from the sense we are succeeding. If we feel we are solving the problems that stand between us and our desires, we are happy.

So to be happy you must:

A) Desire something.
B) Take action toward getting it.

E.g.
Desire a high paying job. - Study hard.
Desire some social relation. - Join a club.
Desire a girlfriend/boyfriend - Learn to flirt.

You can't find happiness, you can only do things that make you happy.

Answer 5

An appropriate solution in your case would be in the evening to start by eating a lot of good food that you like much and that you are able or allowed to choose by yourself. Then you might put yourself to sleep in your bed, or you just might fall asleep because of all that food that you ate.

Then, upon waking in the morning, you might do a lot of breathing exercises while you are still laying in bed. You might exercise until you feel that you cannot do more or don't feel like doing more or don't want to do more of such breathing exercises.

Following all this a feeling of elatedness and of glowing happiness might freshly pervade your whole being, body and soul.

If not, you might re-start the whole procedure from its very beginning, eating a lot of good food of your own choice in the evening and then putting yourself to bed to sleep and then, upon waking, let's say the morning after, you might do all the breathing exercise that you can do while still laying in your bed, and then you might have a great impulse to get up out of your bed and to go out, outside your home, and so say or happily shout out "good morning" to all the people you meet who smile at you.

This might be your new elixir of happiness. If it will not work, you might ask a new question here on Yahoo about it. I am sure you will get many answers with many good suggestions again and again.

Good luck!

Answer 6

I'll give you this short thought of mine that occured to me after days and years of useless pondering...to have thought about what I had discovered made me think how dumb I had been.
When you try to achieve happiness, don't think that's it a goal or a mission. It isn't something that follows around you. It's not something that is won over a fight. It is something that's beside you. It's always there, you just need to realize it. That there's was a person that captured each moment...That was real happiness. To be alive in this lonely pain, I'm thankful for that. For the years have been tough I learned to be lonely and smile in my loneliness.

Answer 7

Well, some research about yourself can be useful. Explore different activities (foreign films, special interest books, sports, art, science, history, etc.) While you are doing these activities, notice how certain aspects tickle you or gets your interest. These will give you a clue as to what makes you happy. Also, there are some people who are thinkers, artists, nerds, etc. who tend to be interested in "off the beaten path" ideas who might make potentially good acquaintances. Also, knowledge is power. A vast knowledge of life and how it works can be a tool in finding the right path or inspiration. Try using your "spiritual power" too. It works like magic. I mean good magic.

Answer 8

Look, happy is a state of mind.

I once endured a timeshare seminar while being jailed in a Turkish prison, but I was happy that none of the other prisoners had violated me. Even when I accidentally dropped the soap.

Also, since you have access to the internet and forums like these, keep posting in them. Your thoughts, your goals and aspirations. You'll be surprised how many people have things in common with you. Share the same ideas, the same passions, even the same loneliness.

Remember, misery loves company.

~jaz~

Answer 9

You can choose to be miserable or you can choose to be happy. Happiness is a choice. You may not feel it right that moment, but hang on to the choice and the feeling will come. Look for the positive side of everything. Frustration is an emotion you might not be able to choose, be how you react to it is your choice. Choose to be happy. Choose to let the stuff roll off your back. Choose to be a lifter not a leaner. Choose to be a winner, not a looser. Choose to be happy. Choose your future path.

Answer 10

I wish I could just give you a quick answer but I cant. I know how hard it is to be in high school. You need to make some friends. Join a team a or a club at school. What do you enjoy doing?

Answer 11

You have to go thru unhappy to appreciate being happy.
Everything changes, happy is such a trite word, peaceful, is'nt bad....comfy is fun, try looking at the really little things, the chair your sitting on, the wonder of all the stuff that is around you...passion is a great word, be passionately you.