TEENS and ADULTS would this offend you???????

Question

my moms best friend that shes known since they were in jr high recently told her her husband has been diagnosed with a disease that is really worsening each day.

we told my grandma about it and she said "oh well do susannes kids help out or are they too busy being teenagers?"

my mom asked her what she meant and this is what she said...

..."You know what i mean. teenagers dont think about anyone other than themselves and their friends."

i was shocked at hearing this considering i am a teenager and would drop everything to help my dad. i dont know of any teens personally that would go to the movies and ditch their dad who happens to be dying. i was very insulted by what she said and when i tried to talk to her about it she cut me off.

would you be insluted by this???

also, please keep my moms friend, her husband, and their five kids in your prayers.

Answer 1

OUCH. Major ouch...I'm almost offended just reading about it! I just turned 20, but there was never (and never will be) a time in my life that I would dream of ditching my family for myself or my friends.

However, I'm guessing that your grandma is just generalizing based on what she sees other teenagers doing in real life and on TV, etc. Don't worry about it or take it personally. Show her what us REAL teenagers act like.

I'm praying hard for your mom's friend and her family!

Answer 2

I think her comment is right on the mark as a generalization of teenagers these days. My gf got injured at work. When we got her home, I asked her teen age daughter to watch her and let me know if she needed anything (she had a head injury). A called an hour later to check on her and got no answer. Of course I rushed over to find my gf pulling back in her driveway. She had just taken her daughter to spend the night with a friend. I asked her why. She said she got tired of hearing her daughter beg to go.

I called the daughter and asked her why. She said she was bored and didn't want to sit home all night.

This is just one example of many I could give you.

Maybe you should e offended. You may be different, but the majority of teens are selfish. Read some of the questions on here from teenagers. "I'm grounded - how can I get revenge on my parents", "I hate my parents ...", "Help! I'm 13 and my Mom won't let me date a 20 yo".

Finally, try to get a teenager to work. Walk into your local McD's and look around. Uniforms are messy, the store is messy, kids (under 18) are out front smoking. If you get your order right and timely, it is amazing.

I am with her. Teens are all about themselves.

Answer 3

Yes, as a matter of fact I think I would be insulted by that statement (though it's been awhile since I was a teenager). Do realize however that your grandmother's remarks are most likely the result of some pain she's experienced in some fashion and is transferring her anger to all teens. Your compassion is obvious and I will keep them in my prayers as you suggest.

Answer 4

While some teenagers would be caring enough to help, a lot of them are very self-centered, and don't stop to think that they can help others with just a little effort on their part. You might be offended by this remark, but look around you at other teens, and decide if this comment describes them or not.

Answer 5

i would be insulted..but we all (teenagers) have to understand that they lived a teenager a long time ago and things and expectations were different back then....and if we acted like how our grandparents acted like we wouldn't be able u survive or fit in the society and culture we are accoustomed to these days...tthat is something past generations won't undersatnd..and i can guarentee u that we willl say this about our grandchildren....i think it alll has to do with culture and the environment around us...anyways dunt be offended..everybody gets that and it is normal.. and best wishes for ur mom's friend's husband...<3

Answer 6

Yes I would be offended because my mom was sick when I was a teenager and I helped take care of her until she died. The thought of doing something else never even crossed my mind. I will keep them in my prayers.

Answer 7

The family will be in my prayers. As for what the grandma said, yes it is offensive, especially for people who will help their parents and anyone else out no matter what. Yet I would think you shouldn't let it get to you, she probably is set in her ways, but if it really bothers you, then you should talk to your mom about it.

Answer 8

Ya, I would be insulted. If one of my parents were sick, I would never think about ditching them. But I guess maybe some teens set a bad example and then people create a stereotype of how teens act. However I think in that situation 99.9% of teens whould chip in and help out.

Answer 9

I would find this a little affending especially because i have few friends to think about and that the fact im on yahoo answers means im helping out people with their problems. So obviously i don't just think about myself.

Answer 10

im a teenager, and i would just dismiss it. i mean, its just her opinion, and obviously, that comment does not apply to all teens. there are a lot of teens who do care about other people, and you can't let what she said bother you. just know that you are one of the teens who is not like that, and that what she says iss just her opinion.