I have trouble interacting with people cuz im extremely shy, any ideas?

Question

I do not talk at school unless someone talks to me, which is not a lot of talking. Sometimes i ask questions but not very often. When a phone call comes, like the library i do not want to take it because im shy. I sometimes bump into people when walking and its embarrasing. I want to change my ways. any ideas, please?

Answer 1

maybe you could join a club that really interests you- since you'll have a big interest in a topic (say spanish), you'll have plenty to contribute and want to hear what others have to say. Practice does make perfect, and I'm sure you'll start to feel more comfortable making yourself heard. I used to be shy- I'm still quiet, but alot less shy. When I first started working, I dreaded answering the telephone, but now I do it without a second thought. Good luck!

Answer 2

Not taking calls in the library is not shy, just polite.

The 1st step is to make a conscious effort to hold your head up when you walk, look people in the eye, and smile. It's hard at first for shy people, but you have to force yourself to do it. Imagine that you have a book balanced on your head, and that you can't drop it. This will force you to keep your head up and have proper posture.

After you have step one down, stop wearing a watch. What does a watch have to do with anything you say. Be patient... You must force yourself to approach at least one stranger every day and ask a question. The easiest in the time. Be polite, smile, and say "Excuse me, could you please tell me what time you have?". They will respond politely, and you will learn that almost everyone is nice, helpful, and nothing bad really happens by talking to strangers.

Next step is to force in a short but nice comment or question when others are talking. If a group of people are waiting for a bus, talking about the schedule, and you are waiting too, say something honest and true, like "This bus is usually a little late" or "This bus is always on time". Whatever. They'll start talking to you.

Next step, always ask a follow up question when providing an answer to someone else's question. For example. Someone says, "I love those shoes. Where did you buy them?" If you just say JCPenny's, the conversation dies. Instead say "Oh, I got them from JCPenny's. But yours are really cute too. I've been looking for some like yours but in brown. Where did you get yours? Then the conversation has a posibility to continue.

Gradually build yourself up like this, and before you know it, you will be the life of the party.

Answer 3

yes i see.. well you should build up the confidence... put yourself out there and do not think what others are going to say.. simply do things that are comfortable.. if the library calls then that is over the phone, it is a good way to have communication skills. also try practising in front of the mirror, and when you bump into someone simply smile and say you are sorry.. after all we are humans..
as for when people talk to you that is good you let them take the first step you can always get to know more about them and gradually a friendship can build.. do a little more talking.. :)

Answer 4

Is there any time when you're not shy? And talking while in the library is annoying anyway so youre good with that. Also if you don't have anything good to say, why talk? Its only a problem if you have something important to say but won't because you are shy. I hear people talk all the time and they really say, nothing. Know what I mean?

Answer 5

I am very shy too. The first thing you want to do is walk with your head up and look at people when talking to them. Start by saying hi to a few people in class or talking about your professor and the homework so that way you know you will have something in common to talk about. Don't analyze yourself so much and try to be yourself.

Answer 6

You are shy, Deepblue eyes, Ok.
But, sure you are good at certain things. You, I'm sure, are perfect at certain things that others are not. You are, surely, wonderfully acquainted with things that the others are not. You, no doubt, know something that the others do not.
DON'T SAY NO.
WELL! Whenever with others, take the initiation and start talking and raising points on the things you can control.

If, a silly IF, you find it difficult, you can follow a step before that above; but promise you will, later, do the above step.

What is the easy step?
Whenever with somebody ask them about, and show interest in, their specialties, their profession, their beloved. Once people start taking about such things, they will not stop.

Answer 7

This is how i am right now..I just moved from California to Virgina and i am really shy to meet people..But i have moved allot..So just be your self..don't act so shy.Try to talk to someone..Like if your at the library and you bump in to a girl while you kinda get up look at something she is wearing comment on it..I cant really think if its a guy but you will figure out what to do when it comes to the guy..

Answer 8

Well just try to picture what you look like to other people, you probably come across kinda nerdy & shy and i'm sure that's not what you want people to think of you. Just be yourself, act how you do around your closest friends or family. Stop anylizing everything you do. It will take some time but again just be the outgoing version of you! You will eventually get over being shy!

Answer 9

i'm kinda like an analogous way. minus the nail biting and the sweating and room spining thig. i could actual particularly get a nil for featuring my venture in front of the classification. I talk somewhat regardless of the indisputable fact that... its purely conversing in front of alot of peole that I even have the priority with.

Answer 10

Lift your chin & smile. Let them come to you. Nothing in Life says you need to be outgoing to be happy. Let Life & friends come to you one by one. Those who choose you will be apt to making your life better because they can see what it is that makes you happy without you being a spectacle.

After that, say "Hello", and see what evolves. If it's nothing say "Good bye ... nice meeting you" and move on. No fear & no worries.

Always,

Jaime