Am I A Bad Friend?

Question

My best friend, let's call her Shaniqua, has called me repeatedly over the summer. At the start of June I always answered her calls. But throughout August and this early July, I haven't picked up.

It's not that i don't want to talk to her. I just have a lot on my mind.... my families been moving, I have 3 books to anotate for my advanced English course and my self esteem has been shot.

I don't want to make excuses for the way I've been neglecting my friend... but her messages are progressivly becoming more and more upset. It's so unlike her. I feel HORRIBLE for not calling her back.

What should I say to her? How can I explain that i wasn't ignoring her. I feel like such a bad friend and i want to make it better.

Please help me!

Answer 1

give her a call, let her know you've had a lot on your mind, apologize for not returning her calls. Tell her you'll give her a call back when things settle down.

Answer 2

Tell her what u just told us, that Ur having some issues that needs Ur full attention and U want to get it together. Make sure u apologize for not answering her calls and for not saying anything from the start. Because I'm sure she thinks she did something to u and Ur not talking to her. Don't leave her hanging like that, once u talk with her and explain she will feel better that u finally called and that it's not her that Ur upset with. She may even be some help to u since u said she's Ur friend

Good Luck

Answer 3

You should tell your frien about the situation that you are in and apologise instead of typing it all down here. You feel horrible, but how about Shaniqua?? How would you feel if you were in her shoes? Her doing all these to you? Think about it and start feeling guilty. And email her if you still want this caring person to be your friend.

Answer 4

You should call her, and apologize for not calling back. Explain to her that you've been really busy and extremely stressed out. Talk to her.
I've been through the same situation. What I did was call her and apologize for not talking to her.
Does she have email? Maybe if you guys emailed, it would be less stressful for you.

You weren't a bad friend, you just needed to chill.

Answer 5

Yes you are a bad friend. My friends have done this to me before. They have promised to hang out and then it never happens because they don't call me back or text me or whatever. When I ask them in person they just say, "what call or what text?" I know they get them. You are very rude. If you do not want to see her because you are 'busy' then tell you friend that, stop hanging her along, be honest for once.

Answer 6

You call her, start by apologising. Let her know that it isnt her fault, and that you are simply busy. Ask to cool it down for a bit, and when the time's right, it'll be like normal.

Answer 7

hi hon.

if you dn't have time for socialization right now, and if there are things on your mind, i think the best thing to do is let your friend know.

tell her the truth.... and let her know you do want to make it better... if you are still in a rut, and have responsiblies to take care of right now, tell her. she might understand better if she knows what's going on.

she can choose to accept you at face value or not. hugs

Answer 8

You must tell her the truth. being inactivity between friends is normal. and also you should tell that not picking up shows the neglection of your precious friendship. she must understand that there must be something that is more impotrtant than being picked up.
dont forget " a friend in need is indeed."

Answer 9

You could have called her in the time it took to post this - call her and explain what is happening in your life - you probably could be a better friend.

Answer 10

Call her and explain your situation.....just like you told us. All problems should clear up.....if she is a good friend. She will understand and you can get together at a future time.

Glen