sex/marriage?

Question

would a guy say he is completely happy and satisfied at home and still end up caught up in an affair? He is not the type of guy to cheat just for fun (not a player type).

If he were sexually satisfied at home would he have the desire to seek sex elsewhere?????

if yes... why?

He's married to someone else..... I'm the other woman.... I just don't understand how he continues with me when he says he's happy at home.

I'm not looking for more from him.... I just love him and his *well you know* I'm not trying to break up his home or anything like that. I would be satisfied just being his friend (no sexual aspects)-- but there is this indescribable and amazing chemistry between us.

Answer 1

Hi, my good friend. Your question is very interesting and relevant to most couples. There is no blunt yes or no to your question. It all depends on circumstances. They include:
- level of commitment to religion. Any person who takes God's warning about adultery seriously will not have any mood for extra-marital affairs. Indeed, he will be too paralysed with fear to have any desire for it. However, it does not mean that he/she is satisfied with the partner at home, meaning that if not for religious paralysis, he/she would have sought succour outside.
- level of true love. If there is true love, there is total commitment to fidelity so as not to injure the feelings of the partner in case the secret love affair leaks. However, all human beings desire variety. If the level of love in marriage is not ideally deep enough, it is possible to love another person even more than the partner at home.
- level of sexual compatibility. If couples are not compatible, and thus don't enjoy it with each other, it is natural to want to seek fun outside. If such a person happens to meet a more compatible person, he/she will love him/her than the marriage partner.
- the issue of "first love". Some people find it difficult to forget their first love with whom certain circumstances did not them to marry eventually. In such a situation, the partner at home will tend to be no.2.

Concerning the chemistry thing, it happens like that when you feel attached to a person without meaning an amorous affair. However, in most cases, such chemistry develop the relationship to a higher level. You cannot pretend to cheat nature.

Answer 2

In some cases I think it does stem from the home. If either partner is not satisfied at home and can't communicate that, affairs usually begin.
However, many times there is a great sexual relationship at home. In these cases I'm not sure what drives a man or the woman to cheat. Maybe the adventure. Something new and exciting. Maybe just needs a little ego boost...

Answer 3

To be honest I really don't think cheating has all that much to do with sex. There are basically two kinds of men. Those that would never cheat, and those that do. By and large if a man's wife does everything under the covers to make him happy he will be less likely to stray. The problem is that sometimes women throw themselves at a married man. It is one thing for a guy to go looking... it is a whole different situation when a woman basically lets a man know that he can have her if he wants... that can get to a lot of guys. I think the best that a wife can do is to keep her man so spent that he does not have enough mojo left over for anyone else.

Answer 4

Depends on the guy's moral standards, I think.
Some guys will never cheat even if they are not satisfied with sex (or any other aspect of the relationship) at home, while others will look for adventure even if everything is great in their relationship.
Concerning your question, if he is not a player type, you should trust him. But give him a lot of pleasure anyway. Just in case. :)))

Updating my answer after you added some details (you're not his wife)... Perhaps, you don't see him as a player type as you don't want to see yourself as his toy and that's understandable. I still think he is looking for adventure and you acknowledged it by asking about "his desire to seek sex elsewhere".

Answer 5

If a guy is completely satisfied he should not have any reason to go elsewhere. Unless he is not happy with the sexual part of his relationship, and if that is the case then he is not truly happy. Once a guy makes the statement that he is happy or is he just happy to tell you that. Question is does he tell all his friends that he is happy with his marriage

Answer 6

This is a hard question. He could be saying he's satisfied just to keep you content in the fact that he's not cheating. If you think he's satisfied then why would you even question him cheating? Or he could really be satisfied and not be cheating. I guess until you have a reason to question his faithfulness, don't question and trust him. Nothing is worse than a jealous wife who has no reason to be jealous. That could ruin your relationship.

Answer 7

Men and women cheat for many reasons. There is no guarantee that a person will not cheat even if things are a bed of roses at home. Maybe a man or woman will cheat because they has issues with themselves.

Answer 8

I don't think it has anything to do with his level of sexual fulfillment at home at all. In my opinion, they crave variety and excitement that new relationship might provide ( at least some of them do ). What it comes down to is a choice that everyone makes: to follow it through with the affair and risk hurting your wife and ruining your relationship ( they always know what they are doing ) or not. The choices that he makes demonstrate who he really is: a good man or a selfish prick.

Answer 9

Well i think if hes satisfied at home he shouldnt be going elsewhere. But maybe he wants to sample the goods. I think its gross but thats how some people are. They dont realize sometimes that what they have is sometimes the best!

Answer 10

Not all men are the same there are some that get everythinh they need at home and still cheat, there are some that are not getting everything at home but they don't want anyone but the one they love, you have to know your man and trust that he loves you and only you and you are the woman that turns him on and only you.